I get erect very quickly but cannot ejacualte with a woman and just stay hard. The only time I can ejacualte is watching porn or fantasizing about a fetish. I fantasize about being teased by women about my tiny non circumsized penis. I know it is not normal and tried to stop watching porn and prayed and it only made me feel more guilty and eventually watched porn and fantasized again. It doesn't obsess my life, but I want to have a normal sexual encounter with a girl whereby I can achaive orgasm. I'm 35 yrs old and have been faking it with my wife for years by prentending to ejaculate by spitting in my hand while she is turned away from me. Any help or am I hopeless and alone on this.

Hi, to me it sounds as if you are spending way too much time thinking about sex, and fantasising about unusual sexual practises.

You need to think SERIOUSLY about whether your wife is the sexual,beautiful woman who you adore-this is important because you need to assess whether she is special enogh to be real with-you need to explain your problem to her in detail-if she does not seem receptive to your issues and listen with compassion, then you may need to see a counsellor-your wife needs to be told-she may be able to help you in the first instance-otherwise counselling is the way to go.