:confused: OK I'm 17 and I'm pregnant and my boy friend is 19 and I no I'm pg because we never use any protection but how do I tell my parents and when is the best time to tell them and should he be with me when I do

You should tell them as soon as possible. Parents can be more understanding than you think. You are going to need their support, as pregnancy is very emotional and difficult. Whether you should have him with you when you tell them depends on your relationship with him and with your parents. I would suggest telling them by yourself first, then you can have a conversation with him and your parents. Just don't put it off, as it will get more difficult to tell them. They will find out eventually.

Whoa, slow down. This 19 year old is a drug addict (according to your other post). Have you taken a pregnancy test yet?

Good point J9. I just realized this was the same person... pregnancy brain!

You shouldn't even be with this guy! He sounds like bad news.

And just because they don't use protection doesn't mean she is pregnant. Heck, the right drugs can make a man practically sterile. So, how does she know she is pregnant? Taken a test yet?

OK I no shouldn't b with him and the only drug he is on is pot and he says hed quit its still bad I no that but I don't want to raise a kid by myself because as soon as I tell my parent they will this own me for life I no I am pg yes I took a test and fyi I don't do drugs I am way clean

I'm glad you are clean, that's good. BUT, you are under age and you are pregnant. Your parents will find out eventually. You were mature enough to lay down and have sex, now you have to be mature enough to deal with the consequences and tell your parents.

You don't want to raise a kid by yourself? Hmmm, guess you should have thought of that ahead of time. I'm not trying to be sarcastic here, just realistic. The chances of you and your addicted boyfriend staying together for life is very slim.

There are other options to consider here.

Let me say up front that I am voicing my opinion on either option, but there are options. Adoption, abortion are a couple of options that you may want to consider. I don't know you, so I can't advise as to what would be good for you, including keeping the baby.

But you MUST tell your parents.

Don't automatically think that your parents will disown you. I'm sure they will be very disappointed, and may take some time to come around, but they won't disown you. I understand that you don't want to raise a child on your own, but before you do anything drastic he has to stop smoking, period. You both obviously have a lot of growing up to do, and you're going to have to do it very quickly. Maybe if you show a little responsibility your parents will be more confident in you. As of right now you aren't showing any, which is why you think they will disown you. They know you aren't ready to have a child and neither is your boyfriend. In order to get a little more understanding from them you are going to have to prove to them that you are going to do whatever it takes to be a successful mother.

Saying he will quit and actually doing it are two different things. If you are going to keep this baby you are going to have to grow up very quickly! J9 is right... the chances of your boyfriend sticking around are slim. You are going to have to show some serious responsibility to your parents, and soon. You need to tell them first, then decide what comes next. If you feel that your parents will disown you they probably don't think you are ready for a baby. You probably aren't ready, but if you are going to keep it you're going to have to get ready in a hurry. Show some responsibility and tell them... soon.

You might actually be glad if the boyfriend doesn't stick around because you don't need two kids to worry about. Also, have faith in your parents... once the initial shock is over, they can be amazingly supportive.

FYI: I had a good friend in high school that was in your boat and she kept the baby. It was tough, but she graduated and is married now to a great guy (not the baby's daddy)