mancgirl
Sep 22, 2007, 09:56 AM
Hi there :) in need of a good listener to help me with this complicated issue. Please advise me.
My ex and I broke up in May this year we had been together for 10 months I am 27 and he is a little younger 24. Everything was going well and he was very loving and then suddenly he changed overnight he went very cold and distant and said he wasn't ready for relationship and he was very confused because he loved me but wasn't ready to settle down.
Anyway, I have been heart broken about this but now although still a bit bruised have realised that he is just too young for me and that I want him to be happy.
The problem lies in the fact that we have the same big group of friends who I have been avoiding because of him. Until recently because I have become quite socially isolated and feeling lonely I have started to go out with them all again Why should I lose my friends and social life because of him?
So I have spoken to him and told him that I understand why he doesn't want to be together any more but that I think it best we be friends, because things didn't end at the fault of anyone and we are still going to see each other all the time. He does not appear happy about this we try and get on but he sometimes says quite nasty comments to me that hurt and he can't even look me in the eye half the time. It's so arkward I don't want to be lonely, or have to make new friends, because I love all my friends. I try and put a brave face on whilst I am around him and ignore his comments but it hurts that he is behaving like this... I don't understand why he is being nasty towards me in this way it is like he can't bear to be around me and I don't know what I did to deserve this treatment... what do you think I can do to resolve this?
Thanks for your time.
My ex and I broke up in May this year we had been together for 10 months I am 27 and he is a little younger 24. Everything was going well and he was very loving and then suddenly he changed overnight he went very cold and distant and said he wasn't ready for relationship and he was very confused because he loved me but wasn't ready to settle down.
Anyway, I have been heart broken about this but now although still a bit bruised have realised that he is just too young for me and that I want him to be happy.
The problem lies in the fact that we have the same big group of friends who I have been avoiding because of him. Until recently because I have become quite socially isolated and feeling lonely I have started to go out with them all again Why should I lose my friends and social life because of him?
So I have spoken to him and told him that I understand why he doesn't want to be together any more but that I think it best we be friends, because things didn't end at the fault of anyone and we are still going to see each other all the time. He does not appear happy about this we try and get on but he sometimes says quite nasty comments to me that hurt and he can't even look me in the eye half the time. It's so arkward I don't want to be lonely, or have to make new friends, because I love all my friends. I try and put a brave face on whilst I am around him and ignore his comments but it hurts that he is behaving like this... I don't understand why he is being nasty towards me in this way it is like he can't bear to be around me and I don't know what I did to deserve this treatment... what do you think I can do to resolve this?
Thanks for your time.