Chuie
Sep 20, 2007, 04:18 AM
My question.. Ah I have so many. Well for starters let me explain the situation.
I'm a dad and have 2 kids My son 6 and my daughter 1 year old. Both were preemies. And both have had problems. My daughter is mostly a slow crawler and is part of the early intervention program. That is helping her a lot as well as me. But at this point she seems to be doing good they point out a week spot and her and I work on it, the next week she is drastically improved. But the problem is more my son, both children show advances in some areas early on and delays as well. Ok so my son is very very high energy so much so at age 6 he has a full 8 pack and more mussel tone then I had when I was 18. He does a “happy dance” as his school calls it a lot we call it pogoing cause he pogos up and down every time he gets excited. He is also very science orientated water, air light manipulation have been his favorite things since he was about 2 years old. As far as school goes he is in a transitional kindergarten it's a 2 year kindergarten mostly for kids who can't handle regular kindergarten. The problem is he is a very aggressive kid. We are still battling the potty training thing and now we are up to almost a complete 4 days with out an accident during the day. Any way I can only assume my wife and myself have done something wrong with him and I would like to correct what ever I can and not repeat the same mistakes with my daughter. I am a firm believer is there is no such thing as a bad kid but a bad parent. Because children are the mirror of the parents teachings. If he is asked to help with anything he tells us he doesn't have to. If we try to work on letters or reading or numbers he won't even try and will usually tell us he can't do it when he is on the low extreme and will go so far as to shred the paper and hit and yell at us on the furthest extreme. But according to his teachers he can count to 20 with out problems and I hear him sing his abc's from a to z when he thinks no one is around. If I put him in time out (he has been spending a lot of time there lately)he will yell at me and tell me I'm not his any more and that he is going to take all my stuff away or that he is going to get a big chain and lock me out of the house. I usually tell him the more he talks in time out the longer it is going to be and we will go around and around about this until he calms down and then he is quiet so much that I can forget he is siting there till he asks to get out of time out. I let him out and he will come to me and say “I like you dad” and go off and build something with a fan or piping or some small low voltage wiring. That's something I didn't menchion normal kids toys are of no interest to him when he was 2 he got his first fan plugged it in put a toy funnel to it and showed me how he could use the air pressure to blow balloons and papers across the room. He was able to with the limited vocabulary of a 2 year old
explain the printable very well. When he is inventing and making things he is very happy and talkative friendly a great kid. I call that the B personality but if someone even me touches his creations comes to close or turns off the power to his machines he goes back to the A personality abusive verbally as well as physically he has taken a broom handle and attacked me with it. Getting him to eat most times unless he has stated he is hungry is a battle with the A personality and even if he has said he is hungry if he doesn't have food in a few minuets he isn't hungry any more and it's battle time again bed time is the same problem I spent over an hour fighting with him to brush his teeth the other day. As much as I don't like doing it there have been times I have had to physically restrain him so myself or others don't get hurt. Even though I do be leave in spankings it's always a last resort. I am at a complete loss as to what to do or as to what I may have done wrong. I don't want to medicate him. But I have had people suggest lithium and I have changed his diet a lot reduced sugars carbs increased proteins fed him real food fruits and vegetables red meet varying degrees of done from well to rare. The only thing that seems to help is a cup of coffee. I tried it when I heard that stimulants work in revised on kids and I have to say the coffee does help but only for about an hour and he is back at full speed again. He wakes about 5 am and is not forced to go to bed he will fall asleep at about 3 am. I have taken him to a therapist about his anger when he was about 2 ˝ and then the therapist though within the first meeting he might be a little autistic but then only wanted to teach us how to play with him and not diagnose to find out. His teachers think he may be ADHD. But when I talked to the school counselor he just said we needed to test him and never went any further then that. He is a very literal little boy I use to tell him I love him to peaces. Till I found out he thought I was going to make him into peaces. I am going to talk to his teacher as soon as possible to see where I can go from hear. She is willing to help with the continued attempts at stabilizing him with food chemistry. There has to be something I'm missing. It seems most therapist want to get kids on riddlin or a similar drug. My parents fought tooth and nail to keep me off the stuff and I will do the same for my son. Any clues as to what I can do would be greatly appreciated. Like I said before I want to correct what ever was done wrong and avoid making the same mistakes with my daughter thanks in advance.
PS sorry this is so long
I'm a dad and have 2 kids My son 6 and my daughter 1 year old. Both were preemies. And both have had problems. My daughter is mostly a slow crawler and is part of the early intervention program. That is helping her a lot as well as me. But at this point she seems to be doing good they point out a week spot and her and I work on it, the next week she is drastically improved. But the problem is more my son, both children show advances in some areas early on and delays as well. Ok so my son is very very high energy so much so at age 6 he has a full 8 pack and more mussel tone then I had when I was 18. He does a “happy dance” as his school calls it a lot we call it pogoing cause he pogos up and down every time he gets excited. He is also very science orientated water, air light manipulation have been his favorite things since he was about 2 years old. As far as school goes he is in a transitional kindergarten it's a 2 year kindergarten mostly for kids who can't handle regular kindergarten. The problem is he is a very aggressive kid. We are still battling the potty training thing and now we are up to almost a complete 4 days with out an accident during the day. Any way I can only assume my wife and myself have done something wrong with him and I would like to correct what ever I can and not repeat the same mistakes with my daughter. I am a firm believer is there is no such thing as a bad kid but a bad parent. Because children are the mirror of the parents teachings. If he is asked to help with anything he tells us he doesn't have to. If we try to work on letters or reading or numbers he won't even try and will usually tell us he can't do it when he is on the low extreme and will go so far as to shred the paper and hit and yell at us on the furthest extreme. But according to his teachers he can count to 20 with out problems and I hear him sing his abc's from a to z when he thinks no one is around. If I put him in time out (he has been spending a lot of time there lately)he will yell at me and tell me I'm not his any more and that he is going to take all my stuff away or that he is going to get a big chain and lock me out of the house. I usually tell him the more he talks in time out the longer it is going to be and we will go around and around about this until he calms down and then he is quiet so much that I can forget he is siting there till he asks to get out of time out. I let him out and he will come to me and say “I like you dad” and go off and build something with a fan or piping or some small low voltage wiring. That's something I didn't menchion normal kids toys are of no interest to him when he was 2 he got his first fan plugged it in put a toy funnel to it and showed me how he could use the air pressure to blow balloons and papers across the room. He was able to with the limited vocabulary of a 2 year old
explain the printable very well. When he is inventing and making things he is very happy and talkative friendly a great kid. I call that the B personality but if someone even me touches his creations comes to close or turns off the power to his machines he goes back to the A personality abusive verbally as well as physically he has taken a broom handle and attacked me with it. Getting him to eat most times unless he has stated he is hungry is a battle with the A personality and even if he has said he is hungry if he doesn't have food in a few minuets he isn't hungry any more and it's battle time again bed time is the same problem I spent over an hour fighting with him to brush his teeth the other day. As much as I don't like doing it there have been times I have had to physically restrain him so myself or others don't get hurt. Even though I do be leave in spankings it's always a last resort. I am at a complete loss as to what to do or as to what I may have done wrong. I don't want to medicate him. But I have had people suggest lithium and I have changed his diet a lot reduced sugars carbs increased proteins fed him real food fruits and vegetables red meet varying degrees of done from well to rare. The only thing that seems to help is a cup of coffee. I tried it when I heard that stimulants work in revised on kids and I have to say the coffee does help but only for about an hour and he is back at full speed again. He wakes about 5 am and is not forced to go to bed he will fall asleep at about 3 am. I have taken him to a therapist about his anger when he was about 2 ˝ and then the therapist though within the first meeting he might be a little autistic but then only wanted to teach us how to play with him and not diagnose to find out. His teachers think he may be ADHD. But when I talked to the school counselor he just said we needed to test him and never went any further then that. He is a very literal little boy I use to tell him I love him to peaces. Till I found out he thought I was going to make him into peaces. I am going to talk to his teacher as soon as possible to see where I can go from hear. She is willing to help with the continued attempts at stabilizing him with food chemistry. There has to be something I'm missing. It seems most therapist want to get kids on riddlin or a similar drug. My parents fought tooth and nail to keep me off the stuff and I will do the same for my son. Any clues as to what I can do would be greatly appreciated. Like I said before I want to correct what ever was done wrong and avoid making the same mistakes with my daughter thanks in advance.
PS sorry this is so long