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FasterAndLouder
Sep 19, 2007, 04:18 AM
I have found myself in a long distance relationship,I met this girl while she was visiting my country,we fell in love,then her Visa expired.
Anyway... I've recently caught her telling a bunch of lies,like... She isn't divorced as she said,appearantly her ex won't sign the divorce papers.
She lied to me about her mother dying (!).
I decided to give her another chance,on the provision that she has to be 100% honest with me 100% of the time.
But,I think I've caught her out,again.
I found out that there are two children,who she claims aren't biologically hers & live with her ex.
They would have been married for two & four years,respectively at the time of birth & she says that he cheated on her,got another woman,or women pregnant & has custody of them.
I can't think of any real way of checking this out,I've called her on it three times & she is still telling me they aren't biologically hers.
I really love this girl... I feel like I'm being played.
I don't have another broken heart in me,another one would have dire mental,emotional & physical consequenses.
Any advice would be much appreciated.

ConfusedandLost
Sep 19, 2007, 06:11 AM
I think you already know the answer to this question... a relationships foundation is based on trust and honesty. The overwhelming facts that you already have show that she is clearly not trustworthy or even has been honest in any way as of yet... stop trying to convince yourself that you love her. She has caused you enough pain... walk away, no run away from this and heal. Find someone that truly deserves you...