I dated him for about a year. (I later found out... )about the time he was going to propose I decided I needed to finish college, he left for the military to live out his dream. I didn't want to put myself or my career second for the rest of my life. It's now a year later. We've been emailing for about 2 months. I miss him more than anything. I can't tell him how I feel. I'd give up my future/career if it meant that I could be with him again. He was the last time I was truly happy. Should I tell him, or should I just move on?

Hi,
Please don't give up your future/career for him or anyone else. There is someone out there for you, that you can have both.
You say you have been emailing, where does he live? Can you talk with him in person?
Find out how he feels; could be that he still likes you. If it will make you feel better, tell him how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same, then it's time to move on.
But, don't give up your career for him; if he is really in love with you, then you two can work it out and you can have both. If not, then find someone else.
Best wishes,
fredg

If you feel as strongly about him as you seem to, then go for it. Just keep in mind that with him being in the military his obligations will take him away from you from time to time. However, you'll be well-provided for so giving up your career won't be an issue. Look into volunteer service at the base to keep yourself occupied and apply your skills during the times that he's unavailable because of his service obligations.

You have to eventually tell him you must!!

Keep the correspondence up. Can you get any clue how he feels??

If he was going to ask you to marry him he more than still has feelings.

You can work things out and eventually be together.

Don't rush into it.

What's the connection between your career and being with him ? Do you think that he would ask you to leave your career if you want him in your life ? Why would he ask you to leave your career ? As long as he doesn't ask you to leave your career, you need not assume anything in advance. Go with the flow. If you think that you are compatible to him and can be happy with him for the rest of your life then continue writing letters. Gradually something will surely come up. But, you need not worry about your career. Maybe he wouldn't ask you to leave your career.

Honey, Let An "old Fogie" Give You Some Advice---please Do Not Give Up School/career For A Guy, It Is A Terrible "faux Paux"... all The Time, It Is Up To The Woman To Give Up Something, Always The Woman--even From My Friends Who Are 35 & Over... you Are Young, Educated, And Have Your Whole Life To Be Picky! Please Honey, Be Picky--set Your Standards High, And Go For The Gold... my Best Advice Is Any Relationship, That Offers Any "drama"---run As Fast As You Can!!