Me and my boyfriend finally had sex.
He used a condom and did put it on right.
Well, he used a condom but he DID not ejaculate at all.
Could I still get pregnant?
I'm only 15 and I'm really scared. But I can't tell my parents anything :[
Help?:(

If you used a condom and it did not break inside of your vagina then you have pretty much no chance to of being pregnant

But like I've been having like small stomach pains the past week :/ and my period isn't due for like 2 more weeks... is it normal to start having small cramps this early? Cause I never did before

Its what they call "psychosomatic" you think you could be pregnant so you get yourself so worked up that your body starts acting like you are.

If you used protection correctly and the condom stayed on and there were no seminal fluids inside your vagina then you are not pregnant

Thanks! Could I also be having stomach problems from not eating? Like I'm not anorexic or anything I just haven't been hungry for the past like 5 days so I've pretty much no eaten lunch or dinner for 5 days. Would that also cause me to have cramps and tiredness?

Yes I'd say that is definitely what is causing it.

Relax and go have a yummy snack! Your fine honey!

Thankies! Yeah I've just been nervous. Cause my boyfriend was like "babe trustme im 100% sure everythings fine, nothing came out i know how to use a condom just trust me everythings fine and if anything were to happen you know i'll be right here for you" and yeah I just wanted to make sure cause on sites I've been on they are all like even if he didn't ejaculate or the condom didn't break you can still get pregnant and other sites say condoms are 97% effective... then again others are saying that most condoms have a small hole in them and yeah I don't know... I just thought it would be a lot easier to get information straight from someone actually online and stuff. Thanks again :]

And what about spotting? Is that normal like the first couple days after your first time having sex?

Its pretty uncommon to get pregnant from using a condom correctly and it not breaking. There is a lot of misinformation online so that was very smart of you to try to find the right information. If you want to be extra safe I would recommend using a condom and an additional birth control method whether it is the birth control pill or spermicide.

Not to preach to you but if you are not ready for the consequences you may want to reconsider.

and what about spotting? is that normal like the first couple days after your first time having sex?

Yes. Very common.

Yeah, it was just one of those oh yeah I'm ready but like in the back of the mind its like not quite yet.. . And we both know now that I'm not, and so we are probably just going to wait until we can finally go for it without me freaking out after :/
Thanks a bunch!

Good for you! You seem like a very smart young lady.

Thanks.

I guess its just stuff everyone wants to experience.. and its not like he's someone that I'm just like oh OK lets go have sex.. like we waited a while we have been together almost 6 months. So yeah :]
But thank you so much you have been an amazing help, I feel like I can finally relax and not worry about it now :]

Good I'm glad.

Its what they call "psychosomatic" you think you could be pregnant so you get yourself so worked up that your body starts acting like you are.

If you used protection correctly and the condom stayed on and there were no seminal fluids inside your vagina then you are not pregnant


Yes you are so right believe me its been put on me before it really messes up your system . If you think you are just take a test. One time I took a test and after fidning out I was not I got my period the next day.

DID not ejaculate at all.:(

Then the chances are zero.

Well, it says you're from New Jersey. So I'm going to throw out a question, where in south jersey can I get BC ? Like is there any certain spot I got to go to? *Atl. County*

Planned Parenthood Federation of America, Inc. (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/index.htm)

Planned Parenthood will be your best bet. The cost is minimal to go and purchase birth control. They do not require parent consent or anything like that. Just click on find a location and away you go.

I do want to say that there is not method of birth control that is not 100% effective. So, if you are not ready to be a parent, you may want to reconsider sexual relations.

I'll agree with Glinda on the rest though. She did a fine job as usual.

I do have to add that if you go on birth control pills consider them to be your backup method not your primary method of birth control. You can still get pregnant while taking birth control pills. However the combination of the condom and birth control pills should keep you fairly safe.

Do not let your boyfriend talk you into having sex without a condom once you go on birth control. I actually would not even tell him. Boys can be very ignorant about certain things and yet think they know quite a lot.

I do have to add that if you go on birth control pills consider them to be your backup method not your primary method of birth control. You can still get pregnant while taking birth control pills. However the combination of the condom and birth control pills should keep you fairly safe.

do not let your boyfriend talk you into having sex without a condom once you go on birth control. I actually would not even tell him. Boys can be very ignorant about certain things and yet think they know quite a lot.

Sorry just had to repeat this answer and give Glinda the credit. She is 100% correct on this issue!!

Thanks J9!

;)

You're a good egg Glinda :p

i guess its just stuff everyone wants to experience.. and its not like hes someone that im just like oh ok lets go have sex.. like we waited a while we have been together almost 6 months. so yeah :]
but thank you so much you have been an amazing help, i feel like i can finally relax and not worry about it now :]

That doesn't make you ready for sex.

The best way to not get pregnant and not let your parents find out you are having sex is to stop having sex all together.

Ignorance will be your downfall...

OK well, can any girl answer this for me?
My per. Isn't due until between the 1st and the 4th normally it comes around then of every month...
Is it normal to start having cramps and stuff 1 - 2 weeks prior to it?

What's the "and stuff" you are experiencing.

Eh nothing actually just small cramps for right now *i just have a problem of adding and stuff at the end* but like just starting about yesterday or the other day I've been having small cramps and today its been a little worse but not very much worse... and its only happened about 4 times today... is that normal? Like its not BAD cramps that happen a few days before it.. just like small ones.

I don't know if I would think that was associated with your period but I would wait for J_9 to come on. She is a nursing student so she knows a lot!

It might just be some stomach troubles since you've been stressing out for the past few days.

While no form of birth control is 100% effective, if used correctly, you should be fine. The small percentage of ineffectivity normally includes those who use it incorrectly. I also agree with Glenda however, if you are not ready to accept the consequences you need to refrain, you are terribly young. If you wish to continue this, then plesae go to your local planned parenthood and get on the pill... use this in addition to the condoms. Good luck.

**EDIT** sorry for the repeat info, I totally didn't see any posts past the first page originally... :)

me and my boyfriend finally had sex.
he used a condom and did put it on right.
Well, he used a condom but he DID not ejaculate at all.
could i still get pregnant?
i'm only 15 and im really scared. but i can't tell my parents anything :[
help?:(
There is still approximately a 3% chance of becoming pregnant. But this is among REGULAR users, not a one-time use. So the chances are even slimmer. However, at 15, if you are not ready to talk to your parents about having sex, then you probably shouldn't be having it at all. This is something that could have major ramifications on the rest of your life. Just think about it carefully before continuing down this path.

Sooo let me get things straight,
I'm fine being that he used a condom and did NOT ejaculate.
My body is acting different because I'm stressing over it.
And I'm having little cramps because my period is due soon but might be a little earlier or a couple days later because of stress?

Very good EXACTLY!!

Stress does very strange things to a body. It can make you feel pregnant, make your periods late and/or lighter, etc.

Again, if you are not yet ready to be pregnant you should be using two forms of birth control as birth control is not 100% effective.

j_9
But like I asked earlier,
Is it normal for me to be having light cramps 1 - 2 weeks prior to my period which is due between the 1st and 4th of each month?

Yes, it can be normal. Most women call it PMS and it can happen a week or two before a period.

K cause I normally get cramps at least a week before... its coming earlier cause of stress and nerves??

It very well could be because of stress. It could be that your cycle is changing also. You are very young and your cycle is not yet structured like it will be when you are in your 20s.

:] thanks! I feel sooo much better now then what I did a few days ago.

As a safe guard for the future, if you're going to continue having sex you should go to your local health department and get on birth control. Be sure to continue using a condom though.

sooo let me get things straight,
i'm fine being that he used a condom and did NOT ejaculate.
my body is acting different because im stressing over it.
and im having little cramps because my period is due soon but might be a little earlier or a couple days later because of stress?

You still don't get the big picture. Stop having sex!

And one more question.. . Will my period be a little off too because of the weather changing? That's what a lot of people say happens. Like cause just last week it was like 80's and now its like in the low 60's.. .

and one more question . . . will my period be a little off too because of the weather changing?! thats what a lot of people say happens. like cause just last week it was like 80's and now its like in the low 60's . . .

I've never known the weather to affect ones hormones. Your period changes due to hormonal changes not the weather or anything else like that.

You may stress yourself out enough to have a shortened period or one that does not show at all. Keep that in mind as well.

Can periods cause pain in like one side of the hip and headaches? *also may be from sleeping wrong * and headaches from cold weather cause it happens a lot to me .

Yup. I used to get really bad headaches a week or two before my period. You can also get random pains and things like that.

Here might be some helpful info you to look over

Discovery Health :: Teens: Premenstrual Syndrome: Signs and Symptoms (http://health.discovery.com/centers/teen/puberty/pmssigns.html)

Thanks! :]] is there is any other information to know... please tell me!

Hmm... well your period can change that's a big one to know. You said that you now get it around the first of the month well out of nowhere it may come earlier or later.

When I first went to college my period went crazy! I was spending time with a new female friends and I got my period twice every month for about 3 months. Your body can react to all the other hormones around you as well as changes with your own hormones.

Your period will be different as you get older so will PMS. When I was teenage I had really heavy and long periods and very moody PMS. After 18 until about 24 I had awful PMS but really short periods. From 24 to 26 most of my PMS symptoms subsided other then moodiness and crying lots and lots of crying. Now at 28 my PMS is almost non-existent and my periods are super short and no cramps.

Your body is a funny thing. Things are changing all the time its quite incredible if you stop and think about it.

On that site you sent me though it said that pms happens 7 - 10 days before... my period isn't due for about 2 more weeks and I've been having little cramps since the other day... is that bad? Or is that just kind of telling me its going to come a little sooner then its supposed to?

They are saying what is average. So most girls will get PMS 7-10 days before their period some may get symptoms a few days before, some might get symptoms 2 weeks before its all different. I personally start getting symptoms 2 weeks before my period.

thanks!! :]] is there is any other information to know ... please tell me!?

Yeah... Stop having sex!!

You are asking a lot about your period. Unless you just started having a period you should already know your system well enough to know what is normal for you.

well did u like it??

Really? You're going to take it to this level of immaturity. That is not the point and what kind of sicko wants to know a 15 year olds opinion of sex.

Thanks glinda.. . And to answer that person its none of your business and I'm scared as hell right now.. . Cause my stomach is still acting really weird.. . And I don't know why.. . But you wouldn't actually start feeling symptoms until like a week or 2 later right?

Hun, most women don't know they are pregnant until they are 6 - 8 weeks pregnant. It is way too early for symptoms to start.

And don't listen to that ignoramus above.

thanks glinda. . . and to answer that person its none of your business and im scared as hell right now. . . cause my stomach is still acting really weird. . . and idk why. . . but you wouldnt actually start feeling symptoms til like a week or 2 later right?

I really think that its just your body's natural reaction to stress. You have been really worried about this and you are putting your body through some pretty tough stuff with all the worry.

Well let me explain my stomach reactions to you? About an hour after I would eat something I would get like starving again, and I will pretty much refuse to eat cause I don't know I don't feel like it or like my body is saying I'm hungry but like my mind is saying I'm not. Then I would get like a nervous feeling and then a few cramps.. . And I was talking to my friend who told me after her first time she had the same thing.. . Which is kind of making me feel a lot better. But could all that be because of stress?

It could be. I personally believe that stress causes your body to burn far too many calories thus making you starving all the time (I know this may not be medically true but it works out).

That could also be PMS. I know around my period I want to eat everything that doesn't walk away. I'll eat a meal and 30 minutes later be starving.

Have you been drinking enough water? Your body can confuse the signal for thirst with the signal for hunger.

I would relax sweetie. If you are getting this worked up about it, you may want to wait until you are ready to deal with the consequence. I know you like your boyfriend, but if anything did happen and you did get pregnant... that person would be in your life forever. Is this something that you are ready to deal with? If not, you may want to reconsider. Plus, there is a lot scarier things out there than babies. I am 28 and the thought of an STD scares me way more than babies. Babies are not the end of the world, but some STDs can be. How would you like to be in your 20's and have found the man of your dreams... and then you have to break it to him that you have herpes... something he can get too. There is a lot scarier things out there than babies, so if you are scared of babies... maybe you are not ready to accept the outcome of what can happen. They do have clinics out there than can help you get the information you need.

It was a one time thing. To everyone that says I need to stop if I'm not ready for the consequence... I trust my boyfriend I really do, I love him to death, and I thought I was ready. I got really scared now.. . And I now know that I'm not ready for it. I'm not ready to have a kid or anything. I'm not ever going to do this again until I'm 100% ready even if that means waiting until I get married. I can deal with that. But right now I just want everything to go away. All the pain, stress, tears, everything

You have less then 2 weeks until your period is due. Then you feel much, much better.

But I think everyone on here can pretty much guarantee that you will be fine. There is no need for worry.

You are very smart and a very responsible young woman. Some young people are not ready for sex and yet keep going without much thought. It takes someone very in touch with who they are and what they want from themselves and their life to make this decision.

You have less then 2 weeks until your period is due. Then you feel much, much better.

But I think everyone on here can pretty much guarantee that you will be fine. There is no need for worry.

You are very smart and a very responsible young woman. Some young people are not ready for sex and yet keep going without much thought. It takes someone very in touch with who they are and what they want from themselves and their life to make this decision.
Thanks glinda. Everyone has really helped me and I don't know I'm going to still be posting worries on here over the next 2 weeks. I'm sorry if I drive everyone nuts. But it's going to be the only thing keeping me sane for right now

Hey its better to hear from everyone that you are okay over and over again then for you to sit and worry alone.

Yeahh. But the only thing I don't understand, is that I've never had pms before, so why would it be starting now? Like normally I won't show any signs of having my per. Until a few days before... not a few weeks.

You are only 15. Your body will change for years to come. Most women are not TRULY regulated until the age of 28 if ever. So, I wouldn't worry for now. It's too early to tell anything anyway.

You mentioned that you never had PMS before. When I had sex for the first time, it really messed with my body too. I got crampy for about a week after. You have just introduced your body to a new experience, it needs some time to adjust. Think about how much pain you can be in after starting a new exercise program. Well, you did that but internally. :O) It is going to take some time for you to feel "normal" again. Hang in there.

You mentioned that you never had PMS before. When I had sex for the first time, it really messed with my body too. I got crampy for about a week after. You have just introduced your body to a new experience, it needs some time to adjust. Think about how much pain you can be in after starting a new exercise program. Well, you did that but internally. :O) It is gonna take some time for you to feel "normal" again. Hang in there.


I never really thought of it that way, but wow that makes so much sense! :O
So its nothing wrong that I've been having small cramps every so often this past week? Today I didn't have any at all really. Maybe like 2 or 3 near my ribs but that's just cause I got tackled in the halls at school. Lol uhm- but yeah the stomach problem changed from cramps, to feeling hungry and nervous all the time.

Can someone answer that?? Like is that normal for my stomach to change from cramps to feeling hungry and nervous a lot?

Yep and it is all related to stress. Have you seen in the movies where chicks get upset and indulge in Ben and Jerry's? There you go. Also the nervous feeling is part of the stress too. I would keep yourself busy and stop focusing on this so much. Go exercise, go to movies with friends and have fun. Make plans for this weekend with the girls. It will help. Have fun!

You know, you might not be so nervous if you never had sex in the first place.

Uhm- I have never been sick during my per. Either. Sooo its not a worry problem just a question, can my period become late if I have a cold or something? Cause I have one and I just got it like last night...

I got my cold last night... not my per. I worded that wrong.. sorry. But yeah. And like all day today I've been like blahhhh cramps, hungry... nerves.. blahhhh

For about 4 years I would actually get flu/cold like symptoms right before my period. It was super annoying but I always knew my period was coming. Maybe its your bodies new thing

oye I hope not I hate being sick. I just have a sore throat and stuffy nose and I'm sneezing a lot =X it sucks

It could also be allergies. I know mine have been pretty bad the last couple of days. Pollen is pretty high down here in South Jersey

:[ I never had allergies... ughhh why must everything start now?? Lol

Welcome to young adulthood ;)

Both.

that wasn't supposed to post. =X lol

me and my boyfriend finally had sex.
he used a condom and did put it on right.
Well, he used a condom but he DID not ejaculate at all.
could i still get pregnant?
i'm only 15 and im really scared. but i can't tell my parents anything :[
help?:(

Wait a sec. Stop the bus. A teenage boy did not ejaculate when having sex for the first time with his girlfriend of six months? How did he manage that?

Did he show you that the condom was empty?

Yes mam he isn't an a s s hole or anything. He would definitely tell me if he did or not, he told me flat out that he would tell me. And he really didn't ejaculate.

How did he do that then--have sex and not ejaculate?

(I'm not saying he's anything, but that is highly unusual at his age, to have that much control.)

How did he do that then--have sex and not ejaculate?

(I'm not saying he's anything, but that is highly unusual at his age, to have that much control.)

It happens. I never believed it before but I had a guy friend tell me that it is possible. That he has had sex and never ejaculated. I was flabbergasted I just assumed that the male equipment pretty much insured a that "a round was shot off" every time.

Hmmm, even for a teenager? How old is the boyfriend?

Its possible.. . Like if we are just messing around.. . He's very controlled of his body.. . And I don't know he like doesn't like to ejaculate.. . Lol I know that sounds weird but like I don't know its just how he is.. . Cause he knows what can happen if he does.. . *during sex*.. . And yeah.. . He is controlled and very responsible. Its very possible.

Hmmm, even for a teenager? How old is the bf?
Same age as me

Wow! I never heard of a 15 y/o male so in control of himself before. Thank you.

P.S. Then what does it mean in your question that you two "finally had sex"?

What do you mean? As in, we never did before, and we finally did.

Not trying to preach here, but you need to know these answers before you have sex.

Really, REALLY... you just can't ask this kind of a question AFTER. Glad you used protection. Not thrilled someone who isn't ready to handle being pregnant doesn't understand how it all works (if you did, you wouldn't have posted)... its like remembering to put on a parachute but not sure about how it all works after you jumped.

My mother became pregnant at 16. It happens. Shed tell you that she wouldn't change a thing, but don't think for a minute it didn't change her life.

Condoms can fail. See my avatar? That's my son, conceived while my wife was using birth control and when she was tracking her cycle.

Are you tracking your cycle? Do you know when you are most fertile? Do you understand the reasons your cycle might be off?

These are things you need to learn and think about, whether you are having sex now or not.

Glad you are seeking help. You need to keep educating yourself about your body and you need to be making decisions that don't make you run in a panic to a computer.

Hope you are up to the task and the responsibility.

I meant, What part of it was "having sex"?

What are you talking about? Having sex is having sex..

Ok. Thanks.

OK I know Everyone's saying I shouldn't worry about anything, but a lot of people say a sore throat is a sign of pregnancy? Is that true? *i know I wouldn't be having signs this early, but I'm just wondering"

A sore throat is also a sign of a cold or allergies which is more likely.

I'll say it again. You used protection. There was NO semen. You are NOT pregnant. The only person who has ever become pregnant without semen in the history of the world the Virgin Mary. Unless you feel that you are going to be housing the next scion I think you are okay.

If you keep fixating on it you will actually "trick" your body into acting/looking/feeling pregnant. The mind is pretty amazing and can meld the body to its will.

Asap means as soon as possible

asap means as soon as possible

What are you talking about?

a lot of people say a sore throat is a sign of pregnancy? is that true?

No this is not true. Now some people here may disagree with me, but I am in the Maternity portion of Nursing School.

A sore throat is not a sign of pregnancy. It is a symptom of a cold, the flu or strep throat.

You really do need to stop fixating on this Kayyoss. You have already been given the best advice you can get without a doctor's appointment.

There is nothing more we can say.

No this is not true. Now some people here may disagree with me, but I am in the Maternity portion of Nursing School.

A sore throat is not a sign of pregnancy. It is a symptom of a cold, the flu or strep throat.

You really do need to stop fixating on this Kayyoss. You have already been given the best advice you can get without a doctor's appointment.

There is nothing more we can say.

Exactly! Just stop having sex, PERIOD! END OF STORY! HAVE A NICE DAY! ESTA LA VISTA, BABY!

blarghhh I'm like falling apart. Lol I'm sick.. . My boobs hurt.. . Well not like my boob but like if there's like a bone or something behind them? Or like hard muscles.. well w/e they hurt.. . I still got to wait 10 more days until my per. Then ill be 100% OK and won't worry about anything anymore cause nothing will happen with my and my boyfriend after that. Anddd yeah. Anddd my chest and ribs hurt when I take a deep breath... so does my back (lower) but I think I just need to crack/pop it. Cause it feels like it needs to be.. blahhh I'm a mess =X :D lol

You may have a respiratory infection rather than pregnancy. Pregnancy does not effect the lungs/breathing until the later stages.

Grrreat. So I'm going to die?? Jk :] oye hopefully it stops soon cause my doctor scares me

What does it mean if like I can realllly like REALLY notice the veins in my chest area? Like they were noticeable at first.. . But like now they are REALLY REALLY noticeable.

It means that you are looking too hard for things to freak out about.

No like, I never really noticed them until I was getting changed and saw like massive blue lines on my chest I was like holy **** where did those come from? Nah a lot has like got away from my head... mostly cause I'm sick right now. And I've been doing things to keep it off my mind.

Chicky... take a chill pill and get a hobby... seriously. You are searching for things to freak out about. Find a better outlet for your time and brain power or you will end up driving yourself insane... literally.

Look... you've been told the answer several times over, including posts by our health expert.

Stop saying "but"... "but"... "but"...

no... an increase in ear wax doesn't mean you are pregnant, nor does a hangnail. Morning breath does not mean you have conceived, and neither does bad gas.

Well, my wife had AWFUL gas the week we think she conceived... and she was "lazy" (exhausted is a better choice) and she watched a ton of bad TV for a month... and she never watches bad TV.

So maybe if you are a lazy couch potato watching reality shows and hanging under a gas cloud, well then you might be pregnant.

Otherwise, back off the paranoia or see a doctor. Anything else is just looking for attention.

what does it mean if like i can realllly like REALLY notice the veins in my chest area? like they were noticeable at first . . . but like now they are REALLY REALLY noticable.

It may mean that you are dehydrated from that chest cold, you know, when you felt the bone behind your boobs.

Now look, stop grasping for straws. You would not get ANY symptoms of pregnancy this early. NONE!!

The first symptom of pregnancy is a missed period. If you are having "symptoms" it is most likely something else and should be checked by your doctor.

Since I have said over and over again that the first symptom is a missed period, and you haven't missed yours yet. I unsubscribe from this question. Please contact us again about this AFTER you miss your period.

Snap out of it you ignorant girl! Just don't have sex again and forget that this whole thing ever happened!

Someone should really just shut this post down already!

15? Why??

I do hope that you are NOT pregnant and everything works out fine :)



Oh WOW I didn't see that it was 11 pages LONG!! Hahahahaha didn't read it all either

Sweetheart take it from me wait. I also don't want to preach to you but I got pregnant when I was 17 I love my daughter to death but there are a lot of consiquences that come from it. Enjoy being a teen have fun. If you do decide to have sex again please get condoms with spermicide and use a form of birth control. I don't know if you have a health clinic there but its confidential and they can help you there. I know that you probably hear this a lot but babies are lots of work and if your not ready for one you should take the precautions. Good luck Sweetheart.