- - -> Does having sex for the first time hurt? I'm so terrified that'll it will hurt that I've managed to keep my boyfriend off me for the time being, I'm just wondering if someone could describe the amount of pain a women goes through? No detail's lol I'm just terrified and would like to know. Any answers would help!

Well... how old are you?? Why do not you stay virgin and have sexual relationship without intercourse and losing your virginity till you are sure that you are losing it for the right guy?? Do not do it if you are not convinced and just to please your boyfriend... Well am still virgin... but I heard lots of stories, but what I know it differs from one girl to another depends on her hymen and her partner too...

Ms. Redrose.



- - -> Does having sex for the first time hurt? I'm so terrified that'll it will hurt that i've managed to keep my boyfriend off of me for the time being, i'm just wondering if someone could describe the amount of pain a women goes through? no detail's lol i'm just terrified and would like to know. any answers would help!

Well, why not wait until you are married? Your body will be more mature at that time, and you will be both more physically and emotionally ready at a later date.

I don't quite understand why people push waiting until marriage for sex.

Seriously... sex is important enough that I'd think you'd want to make sure you're sexually compatible with someone before committing to them for life--because if you're NOT sexually compatible, there could be serious issues with your marriage.

That being said... I repeat the question someone else has already asked--how old are you?

Loving and trusting being comfortable with your partner helps.
If you are tense and scared it can be more uncomfotable.
Just be sure your ready for the right reasons.
Remember once you lose your virginity you can never get it back.

LOL... Marriage? If you are under 15 your body may have problems adjusting to having a penis inside you. Most females have not developed completely when they are 13 14 and when it reaches a point I'm sure it could hurt a lot. It matters what his size is and your pain tolerance, and if your boyfriend can be slow and gentle it may make a world of difference. Lubes also help but can also cause problems because they can slide it in easy, but if it reaches a point that is too sensitive it will hurt a lot and you won't see it coming because of the lubricant. Some girls are able to do it with out pain for their first time and it really is based on the individual. I hope you are using protection when you choose to do it because I have seen so many girls on here that are pregnant and wish to a god that they weren't.

LOL.... Marriage? If you are under 15 your body may have problems adjusting to having a penis inside you. Most females have not developed completely when they are 13 14 and when it reaches a point I'm sure it could hurt a lot. It matters what his size is and your pain tolerance, and if your bf can be slow and gentle it may make a world of difference. Lubes also help but can also cause problems because they can slide it in easy, but if it reaches a point that is too sensitive it will hurt a lot and you won't see it coming because of the lubricant. Some girls are able to do it with out pain for their first time and it really is based on the individual. I hope you are using protection when you choose to do it because I have seen so many girls on here that are pregnant and wish to a god that they weren't.
Hey greg, why not pert near draw a picture. Toooo much info. I think. If she is 13,14,or15 she is way tooooooooo young for this type of relationship and should concentrate on schooling and college, then a career being started , then a serious relationship.

I'm 19, for all who wanted to know, I know not to have sex with just anyone but my boyfriend I'm with has wanted it for sometime, and we've dated for just over a yr.

Still you need to re think about it why should you go for it?? Can not you wait... Whta if he is not mr. right for you...

Ms. Redrose


I'm 19, for all who wanted to know, i know not to have sex with just anyone but my boyfriend i'm with has wanted it for sometime, and we've dated for just over a yr.

He's mr. right! And we're both ready I'm just scared.

Honey... I didn't really notice any pain the first time I had sex.

Relax and enjoy it. Don't force it! And don't let yourself be coerced into it, either. Don't try to FIND that moment... If you just let it happen, and relax, it probably will hurt less than that little pinprick at the doctor's when you give blood.

That being said--there are a lot of factors we don't know about. But--if you make sure you're aroused, and are mentally and emotionally ready for it--it shouldn't hurt. I have heard very few stories where women had an extremely painful first time.

Still you need to re think aboutit why should you go for it??? Can not you wait ...Whta if he is not mr. right for you...

Ms. Redrose
Yeah, but ONLY DO IT IF YOU WANT TO!

And if you've been fingered and have worn tampons, your hymen is probably already gone. I lost my virginity (wished I could have waited longer) when I was 19 too and I thought it would hurt. It hardly hurt at all, but I'm certain my hymen was already lost from the use of tampons.

It varies
But it really pains in girls mostly... am this way too
It really really hurts.

- - -> Does having sex for the first time hurt? I'm so terrified that'll it will hurt that i've managed to keep my boyfriend off of me for the time being, i'm just wondering if someone could describe the amount of pain a women goes through? no detail's lol i'm just terrified and would like to know. any answers would help!
That all depends on the woman, also how well the man is endowed and just how patiend they are to warm up to the act.

Some women will experience pain, some will have little or none. But jump into it too quickly then yeah, pain is likely.

Pay attn to that feeling,fear is necessary for us to help us make the RIGHT decisions

he's mr. right! and we're both ready i'm just scared.

Sweetie, the fact that you are scared should be a huge red flag for you. Being scared might mean that you are not ready for the pressures that sex brings into your life. And sex does bring pressures: getting pregnant, changing the relationship you are in (good or bad), what form of birth control to use, just to mention a few.

Just because your boyfriend is ready to have sex does not mean that you need to be ready too. Wait and see how you feel a little while from now. If he loves you he will wait.

Well... If you're scared, then you are not emotionally ready.

Wow! Ok... I echo the fact you won't be able to get your virginity back once it's gone! You need to make sure you choose to loose it with the right guy!

Re: the pain issue...
I think (again) the more you worry the more it will hurt! I will say it won't (shouldn't) hurt forever! Remember sex is to be enjoyed by adults who can handle the emotional effects!

Think carefully and as above BE SAFE!

Do you have anyone who knows you and your boyfriend who you could confide in?

Hey gril I just wanted to say I am really proud of you that you are 19 and you have waited this long. I was 15 when I lost my virginity and it did hurt. I read the prev advice people gave you and pretty much greg was the only one who answered your question. It depends on how much pain your body can tolerate. You will feel pain but then by the third time you should start feeling pleasure, that all depends on your man and if he know what he is doing. Or is he a virgin too? Your virginity is special and if your ready and you feel he's the one go for it! Good luck! Have fun..

I was 18 when I lost my virginity (and dated him for 5 years after) it did not hurt at all. I was scared too because we all hear horror stories until we actually experience it for the first time. Everyone is different, though. Just do what feels right and if it hurts, then stop. Make sure you're careful, though. A baby at 19 would suck! Best of luck to you.

Hey there quesupnques this is your choice if you want to or not I was scared my first time but I made the mistake of giving it up to fast I gave it to the wrong guy and I paid my price for it. I lost mine when I was 16 and I ended up getting pregnant too your 19 you're an adult now. For me it did hurt a little and for you it might or might not you'll never know until your try and it is scary for a lot of people and when your ready go for it but if your not to pressure yourself to do it I'm a year younger then you are I'm 18 I was stupid and young. b/4 you do anything sit down with him and talk about it tell him your scared if he is mr. right then he'll respect that and guide you through it.

This is a pretty old post.

he's mr. right! and we're both ready i'm just scared.


All right, all the grandstanding aside, the cold hard truth is that it will hurt. The amount of pain is going to differ from person to person. Will it last a long time? Probably not. If your boyfriend is sensitive to you, then he will take it easy and not rush like a madman after he has broken your hymen. A good, water based lube is helpful, because I doubt that you will naturally be moist enough because of your understandable fears. If you want to hold off and wait a little longer, then that is okay too. This is one of those big decisions that you'll want to think through before doing. Also, demand if you are going to do it, that he use protection! If he balks, a couple of drops of lube in the condom will promote the natural feeling for him and make it easier for him to wear.

When I lost my virginity, it stung like getting my ears pierced, but didn't last long. By the end of the evening, I discovered the true joys of intimate pleasure. My partner, although not experienced, was sensitive to what was going on and very patient. I hope that yours is too.

Best of luck!

I'm 19, for all who wanted to know, i know not to have sex with just anyone but my boyfriend i'm with has wanted it for sometime, and we've dated for just over a yr.


I think it's great that you have waited until you are 19. Nowadays that's not too common. Plus you've been with him over a year. I say if you feel emotionally and physically ready then go for it. It will hurt a little for a little bit, but then you will enjoy it. Trust me. Just make sure he takes his time.;)

THIS QUESTION WAS POSTED ON SEPT 8... SHE HAS PROBABLY HAD SEX ALREADY. LOL

THIS QUESTION WAS POSTED ON SEPT 8... SHE HAS PROBABLY HAD SEX ALREADY. LOL


Ha ha ha you're probably right. My bad for not checking the date of the post. But still if I help anybody with it, it would be worth it I guess.

Lube, lube, lube. I lost my virginity when I was 19 and it was not a special experience but I don't regret it. It didn't hurt it was just awkward more than anything else. It feels different for everyone. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.

Hey, I have no idea how old you are.. and you may have already decided to have sex and gone through with it.
... I am probably the closest to your age... OK.
Wait till you get married. I didn't. I have been w/ my guy for about 4 years & yes I love him more than anything... but I wish I had waited. You have no idea how emotionally attached you will become to him and if it doesn't work out... it will shatter your world. I promise. I know from experience. God has amazing plans for you.

It's horrible! You won't be able to sit down for at least a week. Don't do it!!

Much as this post is pretty ancient now...
It really depends on the person. And it doesn't necessarily depend on whether the hyman has previously been broken through accident/tampons/other. I know people who's hyman had been broken before they had sex, but the actual act of penetration was incredibly painful nonetheless. Some have bled from it, or found it so excruciating that they had to stop. But others have just said they enjoyed the experience and wanted to do it again. It really depends.
If you really want to have sex and you feel ready for it, go for it. It's bound to feel good after the first few times, even if the first one hurts. If you don't feel ready, for whatever reason, wait until you are.
However long you wait though, it won't lessen the pain of the first time (although obviously if you rush sex while you're still physically underdeveloped it'll hurt more). Whether you lose your virginity at 16 or at 30, chances are the first time is going to hurt.
Anyway... enough said as this topic is passed its use-by-date.
Kal

It sounds like you are not ready for sexual intercourse. *How do I keep my boyfriend off me* When you have sex for the first time you will feel ready know your ready. You may still be scared and if he does not go slow for you or do it right it can hurt. But you can ready your body for it.

Learn your body, The Vagina Monologue's say it right when they talk about looking in the mirror. Look at yourself, all of you even the most sensual parts. The body is beautiful the curves even all the imperfections. The body fat around the middle (the waist) is so sensual. Many believe that you are a real woman if there is a bit more there.

Touch yourself next, feel your breasts know their roundness the indentions. How when you are sexually turned on how your nipples peak and what color they turn. The areola will change colors pink or brown to a darker color when the blood rushes to them.

There are many more things to tell you and I suggest that you read up on there are many books out there that can help you.

But do not be afraid of yourself If you know yourself you will be less afraid when you do decide to take the next step with a man or a woman. And the pain if there is any will non existent. But there could be some un-natural things that will make it hurt and maybe a trip to the gynecologist will clear that up. Ask he questions and of course ways to not become Pregnant until that time that you wish.

It's horrible! You won't be able to sit down for at least a week. Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!

Uh, just exactly what did you lose your virginity too??