I know it's a slightly weird question, but a lot of guys are like, "Why don't you tan? Have you tried tanning? Do you like being pale?" Etc. I'm wondering if they ask it because they think I'm ugly. But then on the other hand I have 29 year old guys asking me out... and they are CUTE. So I'm thinking is it something to do with them being young? Or what? (btw I'm under 18.)

Say this is me and I prefer not to get cancer! Like yourself for who you are. If you feel you are too pale, try applying makeup.

Lol... make up? Ugh. Tan line anyone?? AND that's what I say... skin cancer, wrinkles, leathery skin, all by 40 if I tan. But I am happy with my skin, but I was just wondering if it was a BIG TURN OFF for guys. That's all. I know how to fix it. Go to a tanning booth, or do self tanner.

They probably teasing you , besides , who cares what people think? If your happy with the way you are then ignore them
Be happy with what you got :)

:) I know it seems silly... but it's like weird, but I was really curious... thanks for all the replies though...

lol...make up? ugh. tan line anyone??? AND that's what I say...skin cancer, wrinkles, leathery skin, all by 40 if I tan. But I am happy with my skin, but I was just wondering if it was a BIG TURN OFF for guys. That's all. I know how to fix it. Go to a tanning booth, or do self tanner.

They got rummors that tanning booth give u cancer
Besides these days guys seem as if they prefer long legs and bronze tan and stuff...

lol...make up? ugh. tan line anyone??? AND that's what I say...skin cancer, wrinkles, leathery skin, all by 40 if I tan. But I am happy with my skin, but I was just wondering if it was a BIG TURN OFF for guys. That's all. I know how to fix it. Go to a tanning booth, or do self tanner.

I've seen a lot of guys that are with women on the paler side. Have you ever noticed that a lot of models nowadays are pale? ;)

I've seen a lot of guys that are with women on the paler side. Have you ever noticed that a lot of models nowadays are pale? ;)

True. That is another thing I pointed out, I said well look at vogue, and all high fashion... a lot of women in there are a lot paler than me, and it's not like I'm a sickly pale, I have color to my face...

Thanks guys for all your comments !

true. that is another thing I pointed out, I said well look at vogue, and all high fashion...a lot of women in there are a lot paler than me, and it's not like I'm a sickly pale, I have color to my face...

Sweetie I wouldn't worry about it. Men have their preferences just like women do. I think pale skin is beautiful and natural looking. Too much of a tan looks unhealthy, rough and leathery. I'm sure you are beautiful :)

By the way, if you do decide to try and add a little color to your face, try a nice bronzer. You don't have to wear foundation, that might cause make-up lines if you can't find the right color to match your face. :)

Thanks =) your really sweet!

Thanks =) your really sweet!

You're welcome :)

Next time someone picks on you for your skin color, just tell them you prefer natural. :)

As you woman you got to love yourself!

If the guys think that is a turn off then they are not for you!

I think pale is beautiful, very classy.:)

There only one way to say this... just be happy with yourself... it doenst matter what anyone else thinks. As long as you feel good inside, nobody can hurt you.

By the way this may sound a little kinky but I like pale girls... lol.

Tell them that its not worth tanning to get cancer and live a shorter life. People shouldn't care about how you look... tell them that everyone else probably tans and is going to have a higher chance of skin cancer and their skin will probably look really bad when they are older

You are right br_hjs, I know someone who is "older" (I hate that word.. lol) and she has tanned three times a week all of her life, and her skin does not look that great, at all. It looks very leathery and un-natural.

I never tan

My skins like really white... I've been told I look like a ghost and I just tell people I don't care

Does the pale skin come with a goth attached then yes I love them! Lol

And if you tan to look good now you may not look good later on in life... I don't think its anything to worry about. Pale skin isn't such a bad things and some guys like it.

I know I do! Lol XD

Ok Foto
I'm a guy and I like pale girls I think some tannings OK but not the over tanned ones,
Pale is a good thing to if you want to make it less noticeable if that's possible..
Try wearing colors that don't contrast against your complextion, but colors that complement you..
As for all the guys yer age who tease you you don't need them

if you wear dark color it will make you look more paler were like Baby blue (I don't know thorwing out random colors)

if you wear dark color it will make you look more paler were like Baby blue (i dont know thorwing out random colors)

You are absolutely right. Lighter colors will go better with her skin tone. :)

Big ups for me! Lol usually that's why you see goths or rockers with pale skin wearing black it make them... seem, Light? O.o

i never tan

I never tan either. It's not for everybody.

I know it's a slightly weird question, but a lot of guys are like, "Why don't you tan? Have you tried tanning? Do you like being pale?" Etc. I'm wondering if they ask it because they think I'm ugly. But then on the other hand I have 29 year old guys asking me out...and they are CUTE. So I'm thinking is it something to do with them being young? or what? (btw I'm under 18.)


I signed up just to answer this question. Coming from an Irish white guy. Hot as the devil on a hot day in hell. Pale girls drive me crazy. There's your answer. Never tan you'll give yourself cancer and besides that you'll ruine your angelic looks that god blessed you with. What kind of guys are you going for? Why would you want a guy that made you feel inadequate. Go for an irisman ,not the drunk ones, They'll make you feel like you already should feel. Perfectly happy the way you are and then some.;)

You are absolutely right. Lighter colors will go better with her skin tone. :)

The pale can wear whatever the hell they want and still be drop dead pretty in my book:D

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***This thread is from September of 2007!

It depends. If you have pale skin and no body then yea turn off. But if you have curves then it won't matter. Guys now a days don't look at anything past a body, and since you want to know if it's a turn off then you have to understand that nothing is a turn off if you have a good body. Sadly this is how most guys think and I know that for sure.

NO. move on.

Hey, I'm a guy, and to be honest I find it pretty damn attractive. My girlfriend is a pale girl (because she's a redhead, you very well may be too), and I find she is the most beautiful girl I've ever laid eyes on, I'm almost undeserving. Trust me, just be confident in your own beauty, that is the most attractive thing. Be friendly, a little flirty, optimistic, and let your happiness radiate, boys will come a flying ;)

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I think super white is somewhat unattractive, but then again, I'm one of those people that look at personality first, then looks. So it wouldn't bother me

Okay, as a girl and let me be honest, skin color usually NEVER matters. Sure, a albino looking person isn't very attractive but then again neither is a fake n bake orange. Guys have different preferences, some like them fat others like them thin, same goes with skin tone. Have you seen Evan Rachel wood? She is thin and pale yet she is beautiful and many guys seem to agree. So, if your happy with yourself that's all that matters, because boys your age like fakes like Carmen Electra, when you get a bit older trust me, you will laugh at your question even harder.

Okay, as a girl and let me be honest, skin color usually NEVER matters. sure, a albino looking person isn't very attractive but then again neither is a fake n bake orange. Guys have different preferences, some like them fat others like them thin, same goes with skin tone. Have you seen Evan Rachel wood? she is thin and pale yet she is beautiful and many guys seem to agree. So, if your happy with yourself that's all that matters, because boys your age like fakes like Carmen Electra, when you get a bit older trust me, you will laugh at your question even harder.

I'm not going to give you the thumbs down like you did to me but honestly, how are you(girl) going to try to tell me(guy) how guys think? Honestly that's ridiculous. I have a lot of friends and they all think the same way. BODY. If they're ugly what do they say? I would hit that but I would put a BAG over her face. I don't know what part of the world you live in but here in New York, guys are just about all the same. There are a few other guys like me who hate other guys that think that way but they are rare and for the most part taken.

Yea I think most men pay attention to the body itself not how tan it is. But guys do you have prefrences so your going to get some hit and miss with this.

In my head I really don't care about tan but that's just me.

Those dudes who mean "get a tan" are dumb. Seriously, they are young and stupid! It's only a way to say they don't like you for who you are. I have fair skin myself and hard to tan, but I've never had a guy telling me to get a tan. I actually know guys who have fair skin too and they understand very well and even avoid getting a tan cause we all know it's no good, don't we? If you have a complex about your skin colour, try those lotions they have, but avoid the sun!

I kind of have some mixed feelings about this. I'm naturally pretty pale (I'm half swedish, and that's what swedish people are).

I think there's a slight difference between looking pale and healthy or looking pale and unhealthy, which turns into a gray, washed out kind of pale. Only you know which one you are these days.

While everybody knows that I lot of sun can be bad for your skin, a little dose of daily sunshine can be good for it. Sunshine is also very important for your mood, creating vitamins (like vitamin D), and as a result, for your whole body and overall health. 15 minutes under the sun is recommended as a daily minimum. You should still wear some form of sunscreen everyday.

The following is from a wikipedia article on vitamin D. you can find the whole thing by following this link: Vitamin D - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vitamin_D)

"Vitamin D deficiency can result from inadequate intake coupled with inadequate sunlight exposure... Deficiency results in impaired bone mineralization, and leads to bone softening diseases, rickets in children and osteomalacia in adults, and possibly contributes to osteoporosis."

You can also scroll down to "health benefits" on this page on sun tanning: Sun tanning - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun_tanning)

As for makeup, I don't think you have to wear a colored foundation. If you want to put on something that will brighten your skin tone, just try a little blush.

i kind of have some mixed feelings about this. i'm naturally pretty pale (i'm half swedish, and that's what swedish people are).

i think there's a slight difference between looking pale and healthy or looking pale and unhealthy, which turns into a gray, washed out kind of pale. only you know which one you are these days.

while everybody knows that i lot of sun can be bad for your skin, a little dose of daily sunshine can be good for it. sunshine is also very important for your mood, creating vitamins (like vitamin D), and as a result, for your whole body and overall health. 15 minutes under the sun is recommended as a daily minimum. you should still wear some form of sunscreen everyday.

the following is from a wikipedia article on vitamin D. you can find the whole thing by following this link: Vitamin D - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vitamin_D)

"Vitamin D deficiency can result from inadequate intake coupled with inadequate sunlight exposure... Deficiency results in impaired bone mineralization, and leads to bone softening diseases, rickets in children and osteomalacia in adults, and possibly contributes to osteoporosis."

you can also scroll down to "health benefits" on this page on sun tanning: Sun tanning - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun_tanning)

as for makeup, i don't think you have to wear a colored foundation. if you want to put on something that will brighten your skin tone, just try a little blush.

I don't think she would ask this question if she could get a tan. I can stay hours under the sun and still don't get a real tan. Sounds weird, I know, but it's a fact. Yet, I'm brunette. My skin simply burns and doesn't tan or only tans slightly. Hours and hours is not worth for a slight tan that will fade within a couple of weeks.

YES, we all need sun on a daily basis mainly for vitamin D, but this is not the topic here.

I don't think she would ask this question if she could get a tan. I can stay hours under the sun and still don't get a real tan. Sounds weird, I know, but it's a fact. Yet, I'm brunette. My skin simply burns and doesn't tan or only tans slightly. Hours and hours is not worth for a slight tan that will fade within a couple of weeks.

YES, we all need sun on a daily basis mainly for vitamin D, but this is not the topic here.

Getting in your daily allotment of sunshine has nothing to do with trying to get as tan as you can. Half of my ancestry comes from right beneath the arctic circle; trust me, I know pale. :) I can also get a nice tan, but that's not the point. Anyway, some people just say a lot of stupid things. When I'm in the south of italy, where a lot of people have naturally beautiful, tanned skin, even after a month of lying on the beaches, I can't tell you how many people have asked me if I'm not going to the sea. That happens when I think I'm as dark as coffee. Your heritage does have to do with what your skin will do.

Healthy looking skin is attractive, no matter what shade it is. So in answer to the question, yes, pale skin can most certainly be beautiful. And being just sun-kissed, whether you are pale nor not, is a good thing.

I wouldn't think so, if its mixed with CONFIDENCE. It looks good on people

I personally am more attracted to pale people.

Depends on the guy. And the girl. Hah ayou can't really say

This is a good question.
But in the end it all depends on what kind of guys you want to be attracted to you?
Im hugly attracted to pale skin girls, but that's because I like dark mysterious pale girls, Im goth so that's probably why.

But if your after the muscly tanned guys, then yes it would be a turn off.

Its all about the culture your into.
Emo/goth always use mak-up to look more pale.

But other girls use more tanned colour make-up.

And like a lot of people have been saing, Guys only look at the body, this is true but even then not all guys like big boobs and a fat .

I like a girl with a flatter chest.

Strange? Yes but that's how I roll.

Everyone's different in the end and has his or hers own opinion on what there turn offs and turn ons are.

No. Pale Girl is happening.

OK, got the gist of this questmachine. NO, if you ask me being a pale girl is a sweetness of being. I don't know how to tell you. Being afraid of being atractive is the curse. Pale is under the moonshadow.

No, never doubt your beauty, because I don't.

YouTube - Mike Oldfield - Moonlight shadow (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjCre83iPjE&feature=related)

So, I think the definitive answer is NO IT IS NOT A TURN OFF. It is sweeter to have asked the question.

Happenstance... YouTube - J'taime... (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJWJ8FtxxU0)

So sweet. Here is the original answer to your question.

YouTube - Jane Birkin & Serge Gainsbourg - Je t'aime moi non plus (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bNsI9eXpAc&feature=related)

Etcetera...

YouTube - FOOT 2008 (REMI GAILLARD) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DdAOZg12tOE&feature=channel)

You tell me...

I don't really care if some one is pale or not. Actually I don't like dark tanned girls. I also hate makeup on a girl's face. Natural is much more beautiful!

Hey, just being a "girl" gives u a big thumbs up from me ;)

I find very pale girls the most attractive over any other skin type. Top it off with some red, blonde, or jet back hair, blue or green eyes and that is perfection.

What amazes me is that people with darker skin trying to get lighter Skin Lightening - Ask Me Help Desk (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/skin-lightening/)
And people with lighter skin trying to get darker.
Nobody is happy where they are.

Well sometimes younger guys just like being jerks.. and think about there are very pretty models out there and some of them are pale... so just remind them of that next time.. and there only saying because they like you.. there was this one guy at school that made fun of me for being pale and turns out that he really really liked me...

I usually get a lot of cute guys and I have pale skin. When they touch my skin they find out it's a lot more softer than tanned skin. & guys like REALLY soft skin. Embrace your beautiful tan skin and use my secret of baby lotion than regular lotion. ;)

I meant pale not tan lol

Just be happy with who you are.

There is someone for every pale, dark, tall, short, skinny, chunky, and (every other adjective) girl out there, just hold your head up high, and you'll find someone soon.


PS: Another dead thread... :confused::rolleyes:

Well, I'm a guy here, and I think a girl is attractive by personality, I know there may not be a lot of guys like that out there, but don't give up. If the guy does not like you for who you are, why date them,

I'm into pale girls! I'm under 18 and I love pale girls! It's so sexy!

I think pale girls are a big turn ON.
I love girls with bright white skin.

Well a lot of guys like different things on girls. Maybe the ones that you are talking to all want the same thing.If I was you I would just keep trying if you really looking. If your not then maybe they are just joking around with you or something.

I think its more that you're in HS and the trend around campus is being tan... its really not a big deal once you leave no one really notices. I had the same comments when I was in HS

Often guys of other ethnicites who aren't white will find your light skin really attractive..
Love who you are, tan doesn't suit everyone..

Guys lol dead thread move it along... :p

I did the same yesterday answered a 2yr old thread haha!:D

Guys lol dead thread move it along...:p

I did the same yesterday answered a 2yr old thread haha!:D

Haha I didn't even look at the date :)

I love pale white girls. Especially redheads! Hit me up on myspace www.myspace.com/frazeesmyspace

I think pale skin is quite beautiful. It reminds me of fine porcelain... delicate, smooth and elegant. Very hot.

Be proud of your skin.

If you look good you look good pale or tanned.

***This thread is from September of 2007!

OAR sucks

Guess no one watches dates

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