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Biggie
Sep 6, 2007, 10:22 PM
I happen to love working with computers and consider myself knowledgeable on the subject. Just for fun I took this IQ test on the subject of computers and scored a 150, which on their chart was at the very top of the above average category, and only one point from the highest category possible. I think I saw into the future and saw myself alone, unless women like nerds still these days.

Wondergirl
Sep 6, 2007, 10:36 PM
Every adult male computer nerd I know has a wife and kids. The nerds make good money, usually are stay-at-home types who don't hang out at bars, love helping neighbors and relatives and friends with computer problems, show their kids how to use computers, usually love any foods the wife makes (i.e. aren't picky eaters), and are stable people.

What's not to love about computer nerds?

moviekid21
Sep 6, 2007, 10:38 PM
There is no connection between being computer savvy, and being a loner. There really are plenty of women out there that love men who know their way around a computer.
The best thing to do, is check out classes at your local community center or community college that deal with computers. Take a class or course that deals with something new for you. There you will meet people that have the same interests as you, and hopefully a single woman that shares your love for computers.
If taking a class is a little too expensive (sometimes they can be in the 100's) check out local "clubs" or gatherings in your area that deal with computers. MySpace is actually not a bad place to start. You can look up computer groups and then search for others that are in your city that are into computers.
The main thing is, don't let being a "nerd" get you down. Use it to your advantage to look for women. If a woman can't stand the fact that you like computers, then she isn't for you.

iAMfromHuntersBar
Sep 7, 2007, 03:15 AM
I'm a computer geek, and a fairly ugly one at that! Lol!

I've got an amazing girlfriend who loves me because I'm such a geek (she even has a t-shirt stating so!).

It takes all sorts to make the world go around... so be proud to be a geek and you'll find someone who likes you for what you really are!

Hey, if you can show a woman how to shop online (the biggest window-shopping opportunity EVER!) I bet they'll love you forever! Lol!

J

iAMfromHuntersBar
Sep 7, 2007, 08:14 AM
Hey, where do you shop online?:)

Anywhere that has funky, geeky t-shirts or things my girlfriend likes! Ha ha!

nicespringgirl
Sep 7, 2007, 08:15 AM
Wow, I have finally heard a guy's IQ higher than mine.
I find that's interesting and would like to talk sometime.
Does it build your confidence? And now you see that a smart woman would like a smart man.;)

(Edited)When comes to look, it's nothing but what you have inside of you is more important.

Your look can fool foreigns, we can't really tell much difference between white males. For me, you look good.:D

If you weigh 300 pts that's another thing.

GlindaofOz
Sep 7, 2007, 08:17 AM
Every IT guy I've ever known is married or has a girlfriend. Actually at my last company our IT guys girlfriend was insanely beautiful. What most women look for is someone who is smart and funny and someone with an IQ of 150 I'd say you cover smart. Its all about your own perception if you think you are doomed well then you are doomed.

Emland
Sep 7, 2007, 08:21 AM
My boss is an IT geek and has a very high IQ. He has been married 3 times (even calls the current spouse Wife Version 3.0) You aren't doomed. Just figure out what you are looking for in a relationship and go for it.

iAMfromHuntersBar
Sep 7, 2007, 08:27 AM
He has been married 3 times (even calls the current spouse Wife Version 3.0)

Ha ha, now that's PROPER geeky! Almost as bad as an old Navy bloke I used to know who had two labradors called 'Port' and 'Starboard'! :D

Wondergirl
Sep 7, 2007, 09:47 AM
Biggie -- You mentioned you are "not the good looking type of nerd, though. I kinda look like an offensive lineman type nerd."

That's even better than a 95-pound-weakling nerd. You are not only smart but strong, and can help your wife with spring cleaning and moving all that furniture around. You sound like a keeper!

GlindaofOz
Sep 7, 2007, 11:15 AM
Are you interested in things outside of computers? That can definitely help with the opposite sex. Most of the "computer geeks" I know are really into computers but also really into cars, golf, carpentry and so on.

Just because you know a lot about computers will not make you doomed to sit alone coding into the wee hours of the night. Try to do some more social things and I'm sure you will meet a girl who thinks computers are fascinating. Maybe there is even a cute "geek" gal out there just waiting for someone like you.

nicespringgirl
Sep 7, 2007, 11:19 AM
Another thing is... have you completed your degree yet? Are you working?

I know my friend who made As in maths thought he was going to be a CPA but he ended up playing music.

What you have stated is your thought is it? Are you officially a computer geek yet? It requires certain level and education background, do you have it?

Biggie
Sep 7, 2007, 11:40 AM
It won't let me rate your answers. To the first post, I'm not much of a socializer and don't enjoy many things other than computers.

To the second post, I was never good in school. Whatever knowledge I have mostly comes from my experiences in life. I guess I'm not an official computer geek, but I get called that a lot.

GlindaofOz
Sep 7, 2007, 11:48 AM
Well I think you ought to cultivate some interests outside of computers maybe that will help you feel more well rounded and as if you are not doomed. Also you may meet new friends in the process. Write down a list of 5 things that you've always wanted to do or try and set out to do them.

nicespringgirl
Sep 7, 2007, 12:22 PM
Biggie, I read your other posts too- I remember the one that you stated that you are 26, single don't want to have kids...
You need to get out and meet some new friends and try to talk the girl you are interested in, be confident and please don't sit there and judge yourself- if you can get a girlfriend, if girls will like you.

You are completely fine and not doomed. Give yourself a chance and stop being too hard on yourself, okay?

Go out tonight with your friends, stay positive!:)

Biggie
Sep 7, 2007, 12:50 PM
The post about me not wanting kids is pretty accurate. I have nothing against them, I just don't see myself as the parental type. I've been an uncle since I was 9 and that is what I'm used to. I have a niece who is almost a year old and she can test my patience sometimes. Don't let cuteness fool you.

And for a 26 year old, I already have gray hair, and it's noticeable. I even found a few in my beard already, but that's a story for another day.

GlindaofOz
Sep 7, 2007, 12:58 PM
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And for a 26 year old, I already have gray hair, and it's noticeable. I even found a few in my beard already, but that's a story for another day.

Big whoop! I've been going gray since I was 21 I stopped letting it bother me immediately after I found one. People will respond to you how you tell them to respond to you. If you feel good about yourself then people will react positively to you and feel good about being around you. Not for nothing but no one wants to be around someone or date someone who doesn't feel good about themselves. You need to feel proud of your accomplishments and the fact that you are so talented at computers. Instead of seeing it as a burden see it for what it is a real gift. Try to put a positive spin on the things in your life. Change your attitude change your life. It sounds trite but it really works.

Biggie
Sep 7, 2007, 01:34 PM
Actually, I don't mind the gray all that much. I'm just going to leave it alone anyway, I'll never dye it. I guess you could say I don't feel good about myself, but it's been like that since I was a child, probably around 4th grade. I just live with it. I don't hang around people for the reason that I don't want to be a downer.

GlindaofOz
Sep 7, 2007, 01:40 PM
Well that's no fun! I think that you really need to focus on the good things about yourself and I think you will find that you feel better about who you are. Maybe the more you got out there and try to make friends the better you will feel about yourself.

You are giving yourself a self fulfilling prophecy if you do nothing then yes you will be alone. But if you make efforts and get out there and try things that are uncomfortable or out of the ordinary for you then you run the risk of making friends and meeting girls.

Wondergirl
Sep 7, 2007, 01:41 PM
Biggie is certainly a good writer and expresses himself well. I bet he would be a good conversationalist.

Biggie
Sep 7, 2007, 01:57 PM
Well I can talk about computers, but other things not so well.

Wondergirl
Sep 7, 2007, 01:58 PM
Can you listen? There aren't many of those out there.

Can you say "Wow" and "Tell me more" and "How was that possible?" and other conversational prompts?

nicespringgirl
Sep 7, 2007, 01:58 PM
Well I can talk about computers, but other things not so well.

Hey you know where I can get a sunscreen for my laptop, that cuts all the ray to my face?
Is there anything like this existing?

Biggie
Sep 7, 2007, 02:08 PM
You should be fine since it's an LCD screen. As far as I know, they aren't harmful to the eyes. The older desktop computer monitors, the big heavy ones with the glass front contain an invisible film on the glass that blocks out any kind of harmful rays. I'm not certain of the evidence behind harmful rays and monitors, but I do know there is an invisible film on the monitor glass. That is why they tell you not to clean the glass with an ammonia based product like Windex, since that can eat away at the film. Just keep a safe distance between your face and the screen. It's also good to reduce the brightness if you feel your vision is being affected.

Speaking of computers, do yourself a favor, if you don't have one, and get a Mac!


On the other subject, I guess I'm a good listener, or so I've been told. Maybe it's because I never talk.

s_cianci
Sep 7, 2007, 02:57 PM
All women have different preferences. Some like them tall, some short, some smart (like you), others dumb ; you get the picture. Self-confidence is key ; that's the one constant that all women go for. Anyone can be self-confident ; it just needs to be learned. Be secure about who and what you are and you'll have it made.