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god_himself
Sep 5, 2007, 02:32 PM
I'm madly in love with this girl in our class in college, who ,according to her, is committed to a guy who proposed to her in her final year in school, from where she moved on to a city which is far off, say 1000 miles away from that place... where I found her... she hasn't really spent a long time with the guy after he proposed her.. but spent around 5-6 years before that...
Now the problem with the girl is that she isn't half as mature she thinks herself to be... n is kind of know-it-all type... but is good at heart and tries to be nice with everybody... now has a decent male following in class..
I told her that I love her a lot and will nevr let her repent for decisions she would make in her life.. & I would stay committed to her for the rest of my life even if she will not commit herself to me... I almost convinced her that even though I don't talk to her that much.. I know her well enough to have fallen in love with her... n you she was convinced...
Now coming bk to the other guy.. what I hv come to know from mutual friends is that she isn't really assured of a secure future with him... on the other hand ithink that I have an image of being better in this regard... my self confidence level is well recognised during public speaking...
+do long distance relationship with such guys survive through chatting on the net? What are my chances and how do I go ahead from here.. I hv no intentions of backing off... I know I v found love of my life

I know her for a year now... she is away from that guy for around 2 years with a brief visit to that place for her family event... she is 19 year old...
N I'm kind of usual regular resvd type... free within my own sphere of friends

chuff
Sep 8, 2007, 06:31 PM
First. That is hard to read, which might be why I'm the first person to answer after it's been up for 3 days. Spell your words in English not teen text.

Second, you have not found a woman you are in love with. You have found a woman you are infatuatied with. She is a challenge for you, something you can put on a pedestal and look up to and say that is my goal. You also can not make a life time commitment at age 19 when you have no idea how much either of you will change with in the next few years.

Ironically enough, even if she were single... which she is not, you still would have a hard time with her, since you have put her on the pedestal. She wants to be treated like a person not put on a pedestal while you drool all over her. Putting women on pedestal's is what drives them away. They see guys that do that as below them and as weak, even if they are not.

I would actually start paying less attention to her and see where that takes you, if anywhere, as she does have somebody else in her life so that kind of makes you a little ungodly by chasing somebody else's girl.

Last, let me say it was a pleasure to help God himself. Send me the winning lottery numbers already.