Hi.. I'm new at this so please forgive me if I sound stupid.. well my boyfriend and I of 1 year and a half brokeup earlier this month because we are doing the long distance relationship and he says that he is just falling away from me. I will admit that things were getting kind of bad between us. We usually don't fight but we had been fighting more and more lately. I love him more than anything. I also found out that he had been talking to someone local and they had been hanging out and seeing each other. I said some pretty mean things to him out of anger but I apologized for acting childish and told him that I'm going to be here for him. He told me right after the break up that I was his one and only and that he did not want me going anywhere and does not want anyone to have me but him. I don't understand why he would say that if he has been hanging out with this girl while we were together. He means the world to me and If I could change everything I would. I even told him I would move hundreds of miles just to be with him. It has been a while since I have talked to him. I think about him everyday. I don't even know if he has feelings for me. Im not even sure if this girl is just around as rebound because at first she was never in the picture and he didn't want much to do with her. Do I have to worry about her? Im scared of losing him. We broke up this time last year because of the distance but I was lucky to get him back after christmas. But I'm not sure about this time. He talked about marriage and having a life together. He even was the one that came up with the idea of me moving up with him in the next semester. Is that even an option now? How do I know he still loves me. Can you please give me some advice?

Hi.. im new at this so please forgive me if i sound stupid.. well my boyfriend and I of 1 year and a half brokeup ealier this month due to the fact that we are doing the long distance relationship and he says that he is just falling away from me.?

Falling away from you is his way of saying he's done making the long distance thing work.


I will admit that things were getting kinda bad between us. We usually dont fight but we had been fighting more and more lately. I love him more than anything. I also found out that he had been talking to somone local and they had been hanging out and seeing each other. I said some pretty mean things to him out of anger but i apologized for acting childish and told him that im gonna be here for him. He told me right after the break up that i was his one and only and that he did not want me going anywhere and does not want anyone to have me but him. I dont understand why he would say that if he has been hanging out with this girl while we were together.


It sounds like he found someone "closer to home" but that he wants you to hang on just in case things with her don't work out.


He means the world to me and If i could change everything i would. I even told him i would move hundreds of miles just to be with him. It has been a while since i have talked to him. I think about him everyday.

You telling him that you would move hundreds of miles just to be with him, tells him that you are dependent on him. He has full control of the situation because you have given him full power.



I dont even know if he has feelings for me. Im not even sure if this girl is just around as rebound because at first she was never in the picture and he didnt want much to do with her. Do i have to worry about her? Im scared of losing him. we broke up this time last year because of the distance but i was lucky to get him back after christmas. but im not sure about this time. he talked about marriage and having a life together.

Why would you move hundreds of miles to be with a guy when you don't know if he has feelings for you or not?
You can't be scared of losing him if you already broke up. That basically means you have lost him. Why play second fiddle to another girl?

You were lucky enough to get him back?? What you should be saying is; "he was lucky enough to get me back".
Don't decrease value of yourself!


he even was the one that came up with the idea of me moving up with him in the next semester. is that even an option now? how do i know he still loves me. can you please give me some advice?

I would move on. Its not about him loving you.
You need to love yourself more and realize you should and can be treated better.
Find a guy who will consider you #1 in his life. A guy who will be willing to move hundreds of miles to be closer to you.
Don't ever cheat yourself in love.