Why do some guys leave good longterm relationships for ho's??

I guess that says a lot about their character... don't you think. Sometimes guys feel the need to experience freedom in all aspects and unfortunately this can be obtained from "easy" women.

I guess that says a lot about their character...don't you think. Sometimes guys feel the need to experience freedom in all aspects and unfortunately this can be obtained from "easy" women.

His character was fine until all the blood rushed from his brain to other parts we need not mention.

Oh so this is a real situation? Why don't you elaborate so that we can further help you?

Oh so this is a real situation? Why don't you elaborate so that we can further help you?

OK it was a 5 yr relationship. We got along fine. 3 weeks ago he breaks up with me and says he hasn't experienced the world enough yet and 3 days later ends up dating a known $lut.

Ouch! Only men do this?

DJ I'm sorry for your broken heart, but... at least he did do the right thing and not sneak around behind your back.

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Hes not ready to commit and ran when the time came for that point.
Ive seen many cases of it, usually the guy ends up with another girl right away.Anyone will usually do, anything to distract him will do.

Use your energy focusing on you instead

If he leaves for a "ho" it obviously wasn't a good relationship for him. BTW women do this too.

He must be a "smart" man then.

I am sorry about this but remember one good turn deserves another! He will suffer from it!

Why do some guys leave good longterm relationships for ho's???
Boredom, fear, insecurity, selfishness. The same reasons some women do it.

He couldn't decide what he wanted... so he opted out and am sure... the slut will definitely tell him what he lost... rest assured on that... till then take a sigh of relief...

My ex boyfriend did the same thing 6 weeks ago so I feel your pain. You just can't imagine why they would give up something good for something nasty. It doesn't make sense to me but I know that when the regret sinks in he will be so sorry. I also think it has to do with him being in a committed relationship with me since he was 18 and I think he's sowing his wild oats. Some won't agree with that but I seen it before with other couples I've known. In 2 other cases. When the next step in a relationship seems to be marriage sometimes young guys bail and take up with someone totally unlike the one they were with.

I know that every relationship is different. With that said I can only speak from my own experience. First I'm a guy. 2nd I have never actually broke off a long term thing for a slut. However in most cases when a relationship that I was in came to an end I would sort of hook up with someone. That someone( rebound ) usually did not require a lot of my energy. And I did not have to be all there mentally. So I guess my point is, Don't judge yourself... He is being immature, He doesn't know what to do really. So he's going after something EASY to take the edge the loss of your guys relationship. IT WON'T LAST...

I know that every relationship is different. With that said I can only speak from my own experience. First I'm a guy. 2nd I have never actually broke off a long term thing for a slut. However in most cases when a relationship that i was in came to an end I would sort of hook up with someone. That someone( rebound ) usually did not require alot of my energy. And I did not have to be all there mentally. So i guess my point is, Don't judge yourself... He is being immature, He doesn't know what to do really. So he's going after something EASY to take the edge the loss of your guys relationship. IT WON"T LAST....

I see your point stressedout but in my case if it was the end of our relationship he didn't let on to me. Everything seemed great and then he was gone. Took up with her in a matter of about 3 or 4 days. Actually I found out later she was pursuing him at work for a few weeks before that. Musta been a temptation he couldn't refuse

Wow, I was in a similar situation almost 2 years ago, when my guy started sneaking behind my back with a married woman at his job (who was like 35, and he was 26). So he lied for about 2 months before I caught on and then to throw salt on a wound, she lied to me too! I guess I was being naïve to expect a woman to admit it. Anyway it took me only 6 weeks to save for a security deposit (we lived together) for my own apt. He went to work one day and while he was there, I moved my stuff out. When he came home, I was gone. So some women are just desperate and some men are very stupid and immature, but I guess it was the best thing for me because I am now very happy with someone else who seems to know what he wants. Don't dwell on it, just put your energy and focus into getting to know what you really want so you won't fall for losers like him again. Oh and by the way the two of them are having problems now (he got another girl pregnant and he's cheating) and he's trying to get back with me (no thank you). Karma... what more can I say?

wow, i was in a similar situation almost 2 years ago, when my guy started sneaking behind my back with a married woman at his job (who was like 35, and he was 26). So he lied for about 2 months before i caught on and then to throw salt on a wound, she lied to me too! I guess I was being naive to expect a woman to admit it. Anyway it took me only 6 wks to save for a security deposit (we lived together) for my own apt. He went to work one day and while he was there, I moved my stuff out. When he came home, I was gone. So some women are just desperate and some men are very stupid and immature, but I guess it was the best thing for me b/c I am now very happy with someone else who seems to know what he wants. Don't dwell on it, just put your energy and focus into getting to know what you really want so you won't fall for losers like him again. Oh and by the way the two of them are having problems now (he got another girl pregnant and he's cheating) and he's trying to get back with me (no thank you). Karma.....what more can I say?

That's rough dreamangel. At the very very least my guy said he would never cheat on me but he did leave me to do it and that hurts bad too. I guess sneaking behind my back would be worse though. I at least feel he had a small shread of respect for me not to cheat behind my back.

I don't think about it now, although I was just a little gleeful when I found out that he's doing to her what they did to me. But as for you ex and this slut, it won't work.

Thats rough dreamangel. At the very very least my guy said he would never cheat on me but he did leave me to do it and that hurts bad too. I guess sneaking behind my back would be worse though. I at least feel he had a small shread of respect for me not to cheat behind my back.


I don't think about it now, although I was just a little gleeful when I found out that he's doing to her what they did to me. But as for you ex and this slut, it won't work.

Why do some guys leave good longterm relationships for ho's???Hello DJ:

I don't know. Maybe if some long term relationships started acting like ho's in the bedroom, your guys wouldn't leave.

excon

Anyway it took me only 6 wks to save for a security deposit (we lived together) for my own apt. He went to work one day and while he was there, I moved my stuff out. When he came home, I was gone.
I like your style. You could've dragged it out for six months or six years and the result would have been the same, except for your wasted time and life. Better to pull the tape off quick and get it over with.

Hello DJ:

I dunno. Maybe if some long term relationships started acting like ho's in the bedroom, your guys wouldn't leave.

excon

I'm sure that is true, I for one thought things were great in the bedroom. His reactions seemed to indicate it was. But what about the other aspects of life. Like going fishing together and watching Football on Sunday or any one of the hundreds of things we loved doing together. All the people that know this girl says she's a complete idiot and babbels on and on about nothing because she's a dumba$$. She might think she can keep him in bed all the time but when his Football game comes on she better get out of the way.

Hello.

Sending you a Great Big Hug.

Many Men hit their 40's and get scared that life has passed them over. Most of them deal with it by starting a hobby or maybe doing a little more flirting to make them feel wanted. The ones that can't control their lower head, do as your husband has done. Its not all about sex its them trying to regain something they think they lost.

I know its not going to help right now but the chances of them staying to get her is slim to none. The only question is do you let him come back when he begs...

Dennis777

Hello.

Sending you a Great Big Hug.

Many Men hit their 40's and get scared that life has passed them over. Most of them deal with it by starting a hobby or maybe doing a little more flirting to make them feel wanted. The ones that can't control their lower head, do as your husband has done. Its not all about sex its them trying to regain something they think they lost.

I know its not going to help right now but the chances of them staying to get her is slim to none. The only question is do you let him come back when he begs...

Dennis777

Good Point Dennis but what if he's 25 and not 40 Is it basically the same? And about letting him come back if he begs, that's the one million dollar question. He hasn't tried to come back so I guess I'm not sure what I would do at this point.

It could be because they just want to get into another girls pants or they are just plain asses.

Maybe you're the only one who thinks it's a good relationship. Never speak for the partner who obviously has different ideas. And before you list all the things that you do for him, it doesn't matter. That's why he is gone.

Hello.

Depending on what he has gone through in his life, 25 is a little young to be looking back at his life because his life is just starting.

I have the feeling that you had your head in the sand so you didn't see the problems he was having. Its not your fault that he was unhappy, now you have the chance to find real Love with your Mr. Right, he will be the Man that adds to your life, that makes you feel good about yourself and others, that gives more then he takes.

Dennis777

At 35 years old you chose a guy of 20?!

I guess subconciously you did not want commitment and this is what you have now ended up getting.

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