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Treeny
Sep 4, 2007, 07:26 AM
My daughter wants opinions. She was at her boyfriends house and she broke his glass
Table, her elbow knocked into a vase and fell on the table.
He was a little upset. She said she was sorry and gave him her last $50.00
Before leaving. He took it and said its OK forget about it.
She wants to know if you guys think he should have taken the money.

Emland
Sep 4, 2007, 07:42 AM
I see nothing wrong with him accepting the money. She broke it and did the honorable thing to offer to pay for it.

SAB123
Sep 4, 2007, 11:58 AM
I am a guy, and if my ex did that to my table and she was truly sorry I wouldn't have taking the money either.

Skell
Sep 4, 2007, 03:55 PM
Personally I wouldn't have taken it from my girlfriend. Maily because I'm fairly self sufficient and if I seen it as an accident I would be happy to take care of it myself. I can afford it and I would be of the opinion that if the shoe was on the other foot I'm sure my girlfriend would do the same. But that's me / us! We are maybe in a different situation finacially than your daughter and her boyfriend. I think it was entirely fair for your daughters boyfriend to take the money to either go towards replacing or repairing the table. Why not? She did break it after all.

As long as he wasn't rude about it then I don't see too big an issue. There are a lot of variables in a situation like this that would determine my opinion on whether he should or shouldn't have taken to money.

s_cianci
Sep 4, 2007, 04:18 PM
Probably not. Accidents do happen and any homeowner has got to be prepared for a little damage now and then. I don't think a caring boyfriend would have wanted to take her last $50. It would have been a little more classy for her to have bought him a new table and/or vase, finances permitting. How much was the actual damage in question? Small amounts, like I said, have to be expected and written off. For large amounts, that's what insurance is for.

davimarti
Sep 4, 2007, 04:24 PM
I think she did the right thing to offer, but I feel he was wrong to accept

nicespringgirl
Sep 4, 2007, 05:55 PM
Is that his table or his parent's asset?
He might not want his parents to blame on himself, so he took it then will give it to his parents helping explain the whole situation.

I personally think since that was an ACCIDENT, and your daughter truly felt sorry and apologized for it, it should be ended as an apology. If I were him I wouldn't take it.

It is just my opinion, again everyone is different, some people are weird about money.

talaniman
Sep 4, 2007, 06:00 PM
She did the correct thing to offer, and its his choice to accept.

michealb
Sep 4, 2007, 06:18 PM
If your daughters boyfriend broke something in her house won't you want him to pay for it.

Treeny
Sep 5, 2007, 10:29 AM
It was at his parents house, she is 18 he 20. She has not been dating him for long about 7 months on and off. She has a job at a pizza place and gos to college full time , she don't make much money and he knows this. She thought he would not except the money and now that he did she thinks he is cheap. He gos to college to and has a job making a little more than she. She says that when they go on a date he don't offer to pay either unless it is something that he planned. She is ready to quit himI think.
Also she said that if he broke something at our house on accident that she would not except the money but would be happy that he offered but that she would pay for it because it was something of ours that was broke and because he is her b/f.