View Full Version : Will I ever b happy
yma69
Sep 4, 2007, 04:47 AM
I'm 18 and just come out of a 4 year relationship I have baby, who is now one. I meet a man who is a bit older than me but the only trouble is he already has a partner and two children. When we do get the chance to meet iwe have a lovely time and we have so much in comman. I am really falling for this man, he has never said anythink like he will one day leave his girlfriend for me but I want him to. He is always getting kicked out of hs own house by her and he finds her unatractive and is embaressed of her iu asked him why he was still with her and he said because of the children. Do you think me and this man could ever be happy and do you think he will ever leave his partner if I can show him there eis more to life than being in a relation ship that your unhappy in?
Trouble321
Sep 4, 2007, 12:44 PM
You cannot make him leave his relationship to be with you. Only he can decide to change the situation he is in. I don't think it is healthy for you to become involved with a guy who already has a partner. No matter what their situation is. Remember you are only hearing his side of things.
Just coming out of a long relationship is tough, you tend to seek comfort from the first person you end up latching onto. This is not healthy nor does it guarantee future happiness. You are just trying to fill an emotional void left by the last person you dated.
LearningAsIGo
Sep 4, 2007, 01:11 PM
If he wanted to leave, he would have already. If the relationship he's in was really rotten, he would leave... even for the sake of the kids. Sometimes leaving is a healthier way for children to grow up than to be around 2 parents who don't want to be together.
Take some time for yourself. Tell him if/when he breaks up and moves out of this relationship he can give you a call.
You don't have to show him there is more to life than a bad relationship... he's old enough, he knows that by now. Besides, what he's telling you is what many married men who cheat tell their girlfriends. You don't want to be the "other woman". Find a man who's willing to let his world revolve around you. :)
talaniman
Sep 4, 2007, 06:43 PM
Your so miserable with your own life, you will fall for anything. Bet you can't explain why he keeps going back to this other female, if he is so miserable and gets kicked out all the time?? Come on, Get healthy, and find happiness and then you don't have to settle for someone else's crumbs.