So I have been with my girlfriend and we hung out all last night till 5 in the morning with 10 other friends and we were having so much fun. But last night she started getting mad because I kissed her in front of her ex. I asked her before I kissed her if it was all right to kiss in front of her ex. So now she is pissed and doesn't want to talk to me or kiss me or anything what the heck should I do?

She sounds like she still likes the ex, and didn't want to make him mad by kissing you in front of him.

I think you need to have a talk with her. If she still likes the ex, then you should tell her to go be with him. It is not fair to you, and it is not right for her to treat you this way over an ex that she is not with anymore.

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but the thing is that I talked to her about it and she said she didn't want 2 make her x get mad at me should I believe that?

It depends. What was their breakup situation? Who broke up with who? Was it on good terms?

If they are broken up, I don't see why he would care who she kisses.

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I don't know how 2 talk to you except this umm she broke up with him and she said before this that she didn't want 2 c him.

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If she doesn't want to see him, I don't see why she would care what he thinks. After this kiss happened, did he look mad? If he looked like he was okay with it, I think she may be the one with the problem with it.

yea but I just think that her x is my best friend and she is a little bit worried about that we aren't going to become friends anymore. And I know that my boyfriend likes her so I don't know what 2 do.

If he is your best friend, I think he would probably tell you if he had a problem with it.

Don't let a girl come between you and your best friend. I have gone through this with my best friend before, and let me tell you, the guy was out the door. I would never choose a man over my best friend. Luckily for me, my husband and my best friend get along. :p

Yea but the thing is though that me and her were friends way before we went out so I am really best friends with both of them. They are friends with each other but they just don't like each other dating other people. Like I know she doesn't like him she just gets jealous and stuff. I hate drama lol

I hate drama too :p

Have the three of you had a talk about this yet? You all need to agree that this is okay so no one is angry or unhappy. You will feel much better about dating her if everyone is on the same page.

She could be over-reacting about kissing you in front of him, and he may not even care. You will never know until you all talk about it. :)

Yea I talked 2 both of them about it they just don't really want to talk about it with each other . Umm so I know what they think but I just am so confused.

Yeah I agree with nauticalstar. It does sound like she still likes her ex. If she was over her ex then she wouldn't mind you kissing her in front of him. You should probably leave her if she's going to be like that. Because if you don't... who knows... she may cheat on you with him or something

Can you give us some more information like
1. How long were they together
2.How long ago did they split
3.Was their split ammicable
4.Is your best friend OK with you 2 going out

And any other info you might think is relevant

They need to talk about it. The way they are acting is putting you in an uncomfortable situation. I can honestly understand why you are confused.

What did they say when you talked to both of them? Did they say they were okay with it? If so, I would say you have nothing to worry about.

Yea they both said they are all right with it they just but don't like each other and I know that now I just talked to her a second ago. And my boyfriend said that he doesn't like her. But she still says she won't kiss in front of him I don't know why I need girl advice

Umm they were going out 4 2 months my best friend is fine with it and they broke up about a year ago and my best friend is going to probably ask out this girl this week.

If your with her now then you two should be able to kiss when ever you want to. It shouldn't bother her that her ex is there. Unless of course... she still likes him or if he's really violent and would get too upset and try to hurt someone.

Yea I'm a little bit afraid of him hurting her. I really have been keeping an eye out on her. She is really getting a little bit afraid and I have told him 2 back off or I'm going to really hurt him. He knows I can beat him up I'm just really worried cause a lot of her ex boyfriends were really mean. I am not like that at all

yea they both said they are alright with it they just but don't like each other and i know that now i just talked to her a second ago. and my bf said that he doesn't like her. but she still says she won't kiss infront of him idk y i need gurl advice

I agree with kt1205, I don't see why it would bother her if they are over each other. Seems like there are issues here. Did you ever ask her why she won't kiss you in front of him?

yea she said that she doesn't want to get him mad and he really doesn't like me dating his x I asked him before I asked her out but now he is being really rude to her. She

Should I believe that?

This whole situation sounds like it is leading to no good. It sounds like he still has her on some sort of "leash", and that is not good for you or her.

In my opinion, I think you should get away from all of this madness.

Yea but the problem is that she now said she wants to go out with me and my best friend I am really really WORRIED

Go out as in date? Or go out as in hang out?

Umm dinner then going to the movies. Should I say no just you and me or what?

If they don't like each other, why does she want him to come along?

She sounds like a very confused girl, and until she knows what she wants, she shouldn't be stringing you along.

No but should I say no because I don't know if she wants 2 apologize but she also said that she will bring a friend for him but y the heck would she want him to come.

That was my question, why does she want him to come? You need to ask her this before you agree or disagree.

I just asked her and she said that she wants 2 become better friends with him because she doesn't want anything to happen to us hateing each other

Sounds like a legitimate reason, but it still sounds to me like she is confused and stringing you along.

If you agree to this, be alert as to what is going on around you between them.

Has anyone asked him about this little date? He may not even want to go.

He says he wants to go. Hmm I just asked her if she will be fine about me kissing her. She said it will be fine so I don't know why she didn't want to get kissed earlier. I think it was just because she doesn't want to be the only one I guess

Just be honest with her and tell her this whole situation is confusing you. Ask her what she wants, and try to help her the best you can.

Ummm well I just asked her that and she said that she wants me to go in her house later 4 some "fun" not sex but fingering that is just good for me. I don't understand what is up with that all of a sudden.

I meant what she wants emotionally, who she wants, etc.

She needs to be more open, honest and upfront with you.

Haha yea that's what I told her afterwards she just said nothing hmmm.

In my opinion, it sounds like you could do better. It sounds like she needs some time to think things through, because it doesn't sound like she knows what she wants as of right now.

Yea but the thing is that she had a death in the family and I know that is contributing towards it I think what I am going to do is just give her some time off. Her family member died about a month ago but she is still sad and I have had to try to keep her mind off it. I feel really bad about it. I am not going to do anything really sexual because I know she is really off and I don't know if she really wants that.

How old are you guys?

Ummm y do u want 2 know?

With all of the issues going on in her life right now, it sounds to me like giving her some time and space is a good idea. When she is ready, she will come back. If she doesn't want to be with you, its for the best, so you can move on and find someone else.

How old are you?

I think it could make a difference to the advise we can give you.

So how old are you you start

Hun its okay to tell how old you are. As friend said, it could help.

I'm 23 :)

Yea I'm 19 I just don't want some old geiser coming in

yea I just can't stand people right now. I have had a bad day I lost my wallet one of my friends broke up I can barely walk. I just have had a bad day =[

There are people of all ages on this website, and most of them give very helpful advice. The "older" people are wiser and have lived life longer than the younger ones.

Haha are you sure you are 23 because you sound really old. I just like some advice from older people like 5 years not that old because things have changed since then.

Yes I am 23, 24 next month.

You just need to be honest with her about your feelings. If she doesn't care about your feelings, she doesn't care about you.

Yea I know she cares about me because like if I'm having a bad day she really wants to come over to my apartment and just cheer me up. She cancelled something with her friends cause I got hurt.

Thnk you so much for the help I will go straight to you for advice thanks.

You're welcome and good luck :)

OK thanks I'll call her tomorrow and just ask her some stuff make sure it is all good. So thanks and happy labor day o well it is no anymore I can still believe