Before people say "not everyone has a hymen & not everyone bleeds".. I know so you don't have to bother spending an extra minute typing it.

I want to know in a girls first time if she does bleed, is it the second the hymen brakes or is it after the penis comes out of her vagina? Does it change from person to person? What was your experience?

I am just a little worried , when I do finally have sex with my boyfriend he has finished - looks down and his penis has blood on - might not be very pleasant for him.

If the hymen is intact, the bleeding will occur upon penetration when the hymen breaks, but will not be noticeable until withdrawal.

Poor him, that's not going to be the most pleasant sight..

Hun, rarely is it like a TON of blood, but more like a trickle.

If you or he are not ready for something like the blood when the hymen breaks, I have to wonder if you are ready for intercourse. This is something normal and natural, it happens. Mature men and women are aware of this and expect it.

poor him, thats not going to be the most pleasant sight..


I hope you are not for real here??

If this is the boy you intend having sex and losing your virginity to, I'd seriously think about his level of maturity..

Hun, rarely is it like a TON of blood, but more like a trickle.

If you or he are not ready for something like the blood when the hymen breaks, I have to wonder if you are ready for intercourse. This is something normal and natural, it happens. Mature men and women are aware of this and expect it.

Well said--exactly right.

(Sorry J, I have to spread the rep)

Its like a pin drops of blood. Its not like your period. Neither of you may not even notice. However I agree with everyone else if he would freak out over that or find it gross or react negatively then I suggest waiting until you are both mature for everything that comes along with having sex.

I of course agree with the above posts :)

As they all said, it's not a ton of blood, usually just a tiny bit that may not even be noticeable. And in some cases you won't bleed at all... I didn't. And some womens' hymens are super stretchy, and already have holes, so it may not break all the way. Every body is different.

**I know you said you already knew that but I thought it was important to repeat since you seem worried about it ;)

If your not trying to see it , you will probably not even notice it. There is more concerns here than rather you will bleed or not, and the amount of blood. And here it comes you and you that know me know where I am going with this, if you wait until you are married to give away your virginity, your husband will surely love you for whom you are and he will not mind the small amount of blood. Practice abstinence for now. That is the best policy for you.

Thinking about in rational terms I know he won't mind.

I was talking to a male friend of mine about it who said he would be disgusted, which worried me. Its no reflection on my boyfriend. Just a relection on my inscurities about what other people think of me and wanting to meet expectations .

He is very mature , I guess I am over thinking everything.
Im just plutzing.

As for this waiting for marrige, I have always known that I wasn't going to do that for a number of reasons. I respect people who do wait but its just not part of how I believe relationships and how I work. Everyone has their preference.

My dear, I just want to say that you may want to save your llittle body for mr. "right" Everybody is not having sex. Please reconsider the thought and keep your virginity for the man you will marry. You will be so proud that you waited, I promise. For now concentrate on getting your education.

rbritto