Hi all-

This may seem dumb, but I have NO idea what about this guy at my school. We have been aquaintances for two years and taken many classes together. We have had deep conversations about many things, and though we do not always understand I walk away feeling fulfilled. We always have great chemistry, I mean the air is basically crackling between us when we interacting are one on one. The problem is when he gets around ANYONE else he is a different person. He acts like an idiot, saying things to be purposefully anti-culture. He sets me off, makes me mad, and is a jerk to everyone. (I hate when people are anti-society for no reason other than to be anti-society. They seem not to realize that they depend on society for their action.) On top of everything, he claims to be gay or bisexual at times. I have nothing against people who are gay or bisexual, but this kid clearly is not either. He does these things and it kills me. He is so different when he is around me. I feel like he hasn't found himself yet, but he feels more like he can be himself around me. I have put off my feelings for two years! It is back again. I feel like the more I deny them and date other guys, the more I think about the time I have spent with him one on one. I have tried confronting him about it and he almost denies the fact that he behaves so differently. I need advice!!

Tell him, exactly what you are telling the forum. He needs to be slapped in the face with a dose of reality. Be firm with him and tell him how you feel!

There is a saying that "people can't be changed." You may have to except him for who he is or walk away.

Who cares if he is gay, gay, straight a jerk is a jerk and if they are saying and doing things to make you mad, you don't need someone like that around.