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Jenyfer
Aug 23, 2007, 11:01 AM
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and half now. There was no pressure whatsoever to have sex right away or anything like that. But once we did, we did it all the time. Usually twice a day. I then got pregnant about a month later. We moved in together and since I was about 6 months pregnant, he never wants to have sex. At first he would say it creeped him out about the baby being right there. Understandable I suppose. Then he was too tired. Then he wasn't in the mood. Then he had something to do. I got fed up and asked him straight out what his problem was because I don't think that's normal. And he said it was just stress and he never feels like it. I have literally sat and begged (pathetic I know) and the only thing he does is get mad. He watched porn on the computer all the time though! He tells me everyday he loves me so much and he wants to get married and everything else. But I can't help but think he's lying. And he rarely goes out so I know he's not cheating on me. He doesn't even have a phone (we only have my cell phone to use), so I know it's not that. But we're not the same as we used to be. I know a baby changing things, but... I don't know.. I think I'm losing him. Anyone have anything that might help? :confused:

Haplo
Aug 23, 2007, 12:51 PM
People's libidos change, especially during periods of stress. It sounds as though you're being very pressuring about this (confrontational, etc) which will only make the problem worse.

Be understanding and helpful. Try to seduce him, play out a fantasy, whatever. And if he shoots it down, try not to feel rejected. Just keep trying and things will change.

CaptainRich
Aug 23, 2007, 01:21 PM
Did you two talk about having children before you got pregnant?
Are you taking precautions now?
He may fear you becoming pregnant again.
Just a guy's thoughts on that...

Ash123
Aug 23, 2007, 02:34 PM
Uhhh, you were having fun... hooking up.. and something kind of changed.

I don't think he was planning on this and has still not adjusted.

The bigger issue here is what about the kid?

Sort that out first, then get back to the bedroom one day hopefully

talaniman
Aug 23, 2007, 05:56 PM
I think he has been shell shocked, about what life is about, and needs time to adjust. This is a life changing event, so have mercy, Not temper.