Me and my Ex were together for 7 months. Then one weekend I didn't feel well and I told her that I couldn't see her. She lives in baltimore I live in the D.C. area. We live like a 1 hour apart. Anyway she gets all mad that I wouldn't rush up to see her so she has a "old friend" from philly cpme to her house for the weekend. I would have been OK with this but she did not tell me he was going to be sleeping over for the weekend and she wouldn't pick up her phone or call me back the whole time. After I found out he was there I told her it's over. I am not the kind of guy to break up on the phone but this time was different. I didn't get to talk to her till Sunday she blew me off and on Sunday she kept saying I have to go ill call you later. Well I ended it because I thought she was doing something very sneaky. What she was doing was not right in my book. Well I felt like I had made a mistake so I drove to her house to try to work things out and she would not talk to me. The guy was still there when I came up.
Well I brought up the issue of working things out with her a lot with her. She told me she needed time but that she still loved me and missed me. Well this guy kept coming down again and again. Every weekend well I started to ask if she was with him. She said no. Then 2 weeks after the break up she tells me I am with someone new I don't want to work things out. I think OK it now it is time for me to move on. So I go to a festival that night and met this new girl I am still with her now. Well I told my Ex about the new girl then she starts to lose it crying telling me that she broke up with the new guy and she wants me and only me. So me and my Ex are talking about working things out for the next 4-6 weeks. Still she has this guy down telling me that she and him are just friends I don't beileve it. I called her out on it many times and she denys it over and over. Well this went on for awhile. Now three weeks ago she wants to see me and I told my new girl that I am not over my Ex yet she knew this before. She told me I understand so me and my new girl take a break. Because I don't like being with two people at once that isn't right.
Well My Ex comes down 3 weeks ago on a Friday. We patch things up that day then that night she heads to philly I don't know why I didn't end it right then but I didn't. Well two weeks pass in philly. I asked her again and again "why are you up there still" she says "because I am waiting for money so I can go home". I ask her are you still with this guy in philly she says no and gets mad every time I ask. So I get fed up with all the bs and Im her new boyfriend and tell him thanks for taking care of my girl while she is stuck there.
He says that's my girl. We get into it I show him proof that she was talking to me about being with me and how she wants me back. Well after this I go back to the new girl I just met and we are together now. I just don't understand why my Ex won't let go after all this. I found out about her lies 1000s of them. After all this she still keeps asking for me back and telling me that she loves me so much. I don't get her. If I Iqnore her she will call 20 times a day. If I talk to her she will think that I want her. I have told her strait up I don't want to be with you anymore. That seems to make her come after me more. What is going on in her head is this some sick game. Why is she doing this crap. What should I do I am afraid of a pop in from her if I cut her off. I am sorry for the long story hehe.

I also wanted to say that I am having problems getting this chick out of my mind when she calls I feel like I must pick up. I feel like there is still hope.

Hi,
You will have many, many disappointments with girls before you find the right one... it's normal.
Meet some new people, get out and try having a good time.
Leave this ex alone, don't call her, and if she calls you, hang up.
It will take some time to get her out of your mind; but in the long run, will be for the best.
Best of luck,
fredg

GET RID OF THIS GIRL.

My god. She has lied to you the whole time.

"I have to go to Philly"?? She's still seeing him.

Wake up Pal and end this NOW!!

She is kind of Psycho for leadning you on. This is creepy. Get rid of her. It is sick.

She treated you like complete dirt. SHUT HER OUT OF YOUR life and she will go away.

Just one weekend of her with a guy staying over and it would be over.

You were right to end it the firs time... but I think you shouldn't have went back to her so quickly and easily, and multiple times :P

You can NEVER trust someone who has lied to you so much. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Get her out of your head!

Your ex is a conniving, sneaky, lying, insecure bimbo. Why waste time with her? There's plenty of fish in the ocean and you want one who'll play by your rules, which certainly doesn't include entertaining old boyfriends from Philly for weekends at a time. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated by her headgames. People do stuff like that when they can get away with it and it's up to people like you to keep people like her from getting away with this kind of nonsense. Dump her, don't call or visit her and don't let her call or visit you. Go out and have fun with all of the eligible women out there. When any of them start with the headgames, scratch them off your list and move on. Stick to your convictions and don't let anyone else convince you otherwise. Trying to be "nice" , "flexible" , "non-judgmental" , etc. will only get you burned and turn you into a fool and a sucker. Of course, it's certainly OK to keep your own options open so long as it's not at your expense. The minute a woman blows you off or gives the appearance of blowing you off, switch the tide and blow her off once and for all, no turning back. Now, if they come crawling back to you and you decide that you want to have some fun with them, then have your fun but after you're finished then move on to someone else. Don't try to go back to them for more ; let them come back to you for more. Become the pursued, not the pursuer.

I was in a similar relationship - not quite the same events but the same ideas... constant lying, etc... I really loved her and I always felt like there was a chance because she always came back to me. But I eventually realized that she is like this all the time and will never change. I know she really loved me and still does (we had a two-year relationship) but there is a line that, once it is crossed, that needs to be the end of it. You need to leave her alone... she is not worth your time... there are so many people out there.
I thought I wouldn't be able to find someone else who could put up with me and all that mumbo jumbo but I just waited a little while and eventually I was blessed with a wonderful woman who is caring, friendly, very pretty, and most of all TRUSTWORTHY! There are good people out there - they just need to be found!