I've been n a relationship for 6 yrs. We have 2 kids together, out of those 6 yrs he's been workn off an on while I've been doing everything. I'M not happy at all. I tried to make it work.. I thinks he's been unfaithful during the 6 yrs.. like taking a his cell phone with him EverYwhere he goes. I think I just had enough.. it's hard because we have 2 kids together who I support basically myself... I don't k:confusednow what to do.. I know I sound crazy but I really want to get over him, and be by myself?? :confused:

Then do it, the more your unhappy your kids will sense that. That's not fair to you or to anyone else. If you can do it alone with out him, and if he is making you that unhappy then you need to leave. Do you guys fight a lot? And do you fight around the kids? How old are they? Everyone deserves to be happy, If you think he is being unfaithful then you need to leave. I know how much that will drive a person insain. I have lived though it so many times. Don't ever settle for second or third best. You and your children deserve so much more.

Thank you. We argue in front of them which I know is bad.. he tries to be controlling of them when I'm the one who takes care of them. It hard taking care of them myself.. I'm struggling but they're OK. I know it's over and the hard part is just dealing with him when he wants to see the kids.

Doesn't sound crazy at all. You already are supporting yourself and 2 kids the only difference with leaving him is one less person to support AND you get to be happy.

In regards to the kids all of that will be taken care of in your divorce decree and child support agreement .

If you are fighting around the kids then you need even more to stay away from that, your kids do not need to see that. Because when mom is stressed so are the kids. I had to learn the hard way when it came to my son. I noticed a HUGH difference with him when I got all the BS out of my life. Do yourself a favor and distance yourself from all the negative, I know its easier said then done, but once you have figured out how to do it, believe me you will feel like a totally different person. The only ones that you need to worry about is yourself and them littleones of yours. Not him. He has to worry about his children not you. If you left and do not love him anymore then he need to except that. Move on and make the nest of your children.

Hello.

Your not crazy you opened your eyes and now can see that the relationship is all one sided. Please remember the kids also can see what you see so giving them a home that is filled with Love is a very important part of your moving on. Kids will adapt to having one parent and seeing Dad now and then, much better then living in a home that doesn't show them any Love between the parents.

Dennis777

Do you have family or friends to support you through this? If so talk to them and get the ball rolling towards your own independence.

Sounds like you left this relationship emotionally a while back. As hard as it may seem it might be time to leave it physically as well. As Tal said get the ball rolling by talking to family and friends. If you've exhausted all avenues and the trust and love is gone then it is time to get out. It will best for all parties including the kids.

Good luck!