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InTheEyesOfALI
Aug 26, 2005, 02:01 PM
OK look I have an attitude problem which probably drives girls away even though I don't like to express it in front of them. I don't know why girls don't like me anymore like when I ask them to do stuff they make up excuses and yes I'm sure they are excuses. There's not much I can do about my anger even though I don't think it is a huge factor but what can I do. When I have a girlfriend everything else in my life that stresses me out goes away. How can I ask girls on dates without them really thinking it's a date. Because if I do that maybe they'll start liking me. And when I'm around them what should I act like to make them like me. I need more than just be yourself


-brandon

shenda
Aug 26, 2005, 08:12 PM
Why do you feel that you have an attitude problem? Do you feel that you are a direct person, one who shoots from the hip, do you say what you mean and mean what you say; See, when most people claim they have an attitude problem, they are nearly saying, they are full of pride. They are concerned with self and not much else. So I ask, why do you feel you have an attitude problem. As far as meeting girls that offer excuses, let it be; at this time, it is more important for you to like yourself. When you like you, every one else will, you will not have to force the issue, it will come naturally because you have placed value in yourself. You state that when you have a girlfriend, all that once stressed you out does not matter, how is that. Does she have the magic potion or do you exert minimal energy to these stress areas. I have more questions than answers; however, to be yourself is the best answer, but do you even know who that is. Do not hide behind the attitude.

InTheEyesOfALI
Aug 26, 2005, 08:49 PM
Wow you really brought a new perspective to my attitude... my whole life I've been real I am now realizing... I let people know how I feel I don't keep it in at all but they take advantage of that because its not only them who I take it out on... I also take it out on myself by coming home from being angry in a bad mood wanting to just die. Most of the time my attitude is inside me and I just separate myself from the people who make me mad... but the fact that I let them get away with it makes me mad... do you think I should take a stand and start standing up for myself... let them no I'm serious and not let people think I'm some circus act... and about the thing how a girl makes the stress go away,. it doesn't totally go away... just the fact that she is there for me kind of helps because usually when you girl says she's there for you she really is and my "friends" just say it because it's the rigth thing to say... I don't rele feel like I have anyone here for me... I feel like "it's me against the world". I swear I was born in the wrong body because I feel like I need homies more than friends... I feel like I needa be in a gang more than a group... and those people are the only ones who actually let me no they care... not my friends now... there all about popularity... homies are more about brotherhood