I met the man of my dreams last year. We had a very, very strong love that grew. We were each other's world, making plans to get married. I am very traditional and was waiting to have sex before marriage. I just knew we were going to be married and made significant plans. He was very good to me, and treated me with kindness and respect. I can be a little feisty and jealous but he learned to live with that a little. Anyway, during this wonderful time we also had rough patches, full of lies and deceit. We tried working it out and things were getting better. He helped me through my alcoholism, and childhood trauma issues. We were making strides. Then, he found out about my last lie, and he could not take it anymore. He broke up with me, but said that we could try it again in a few months. During that time, I went into a coma and my life had changed. I feel now since my coma I am a lot more appriciative of things, and realized what I had in that man. However, he did not want me back. He always wondered if I was okay and how I was doing. However, he told me he did not want anything to do with me and that was it for about 3 months. The out of the blue, he contacts me, telling me he apologized for being so harsh during that final blowout. From there we began talking more, ot see where things could go. He wanted to take things slowly to figure things out, and see if he could be in a relationship again. I think I was a little too aggrerssive in getting back together with him and he told me he was done again. And that was it. I was very upset and crying thinking I had ruined it again. He has not called me, BUT... he has talked to my little brother(21y/o). He mentioned to my brother that he still cared about me and when my brother told him that I had been a little depressed about the situation, he was concerned, and when my brother mentined that I had my phone turned off... (as in shut it off for three days with the pwer button ) my ex concerned if it was disconnected. Like perhaps he wanted to call me. Then, he told my brother, that he oftentimes wanted to call me and see if I was okay, but never thought it was a good idea, because he did not want to lead me on. But he should never think that because I NEVER ONCE TRIED TO CALL HIM DURING THAT TIME. My brother thought that he might still have some feelings for me still, but it was hard to tell through Instant messenger. What do you think. Unfortunately, I still have feelings for him, but will never ever put myself out like that.

I met the man of my dreams last year. We had a very, very strong love that grew. We were each other's world, making plans to get married. I am very traditional and was waiting to have sex before marriage. I just knew we were going to be married and made significant plans. He was very good to me, and treated me with kindness and respect. I can be a little feisty and jealous but he learned to live with that a little. Anyway, during this wonderful time we also had rough patches, full of lies and deceit. We tried working it out and things were getting better. He helped me through my alcoholism, and childhood trauma issues. We were making strides. then, he found out about my last lie, and he could not take it anymore. He broke up with me, but said that we could try it again in a few months. During that time, I went into a coma and my life had changed. I feel now since my coma i am a lot more appriciative of things, and realized what I had in that man. however, he did not want me back. He always wondered if I was okay and how I was doing. However, he told me he did not want anything to do with me and that was it for about 3 months. the out of the blue, he contacts me, telling me he apologized for being so harsh during that final blowout. From there we began talking more, ot see where things could go. he wanted to take things slowly to figure things out, and see if he could be in a relationship again. I think I was a little too aggrerssive in getting back together with him and he told me he was done again. And that was it. I was very upset and crying thinking I had ruined it again. he has not called me, BUT....... he has talked to my little brother(21y/o). He mentioned to my brother that he still cared about me and when my brother told him that i had been a little depressed about the situation, he was concerned, and when my brother mentined that i had my phone turned off...(as in shut it off for three days with the pwer button ) my ex concerned if it was disconnected. Like perhaps he wanted to call me. Then, he told my brother, that he oftentimes wanted to call me and see if i was okay, but never thought it was a good idea, because he did not want to lead me on. But he should never think that because I NEVER ONCE TRIED TO CALL HIM DURING THAT TIME. My brother thought that he might still have some feelings for me still, but it was hard to tell through Instant messenger. What do you think. Unfortunately, I still have feelings for him, but will never ever put myself out like that.
I think you should take care of yourself first... get stronger, and THEN worry about sharing your life with someone. Start with a casual friendship with him, and build it up again from there. Casual dinner dates or movie nights with no expectations... then when something good happens, you'll be pleasantly surprised. Good Luck!

I would say that it sounds as if he is concerned for you which seems only natural as it seems you have a troubled past.

He said he doesn't want to lead you on which means that he is not interested in starting back up again.

As the poster said above you need to work on you before getting involved with anyone else.

I would say that it sounds as if he is concerned for you which seems only natural as it seems you have a troubled past.

He said he doesn't want to lead you on which means that he is not interested in starting back up again.

As the poster said above you need to work on you before getting involved with anyone else.


We are luckily back together... 1 year later and doing GREAT!! Thanks

That is great that it worked out for you