aanthonyy
Aug 17, 2007, 06:21 AM
After 4 years of lies, manipulation from emotionally the most needy individual I have ever had the misfortune of having a relationship with I am questioning whether I will ever be able to open my heart and love again.
She caught me on the rebound from a great 7 year relationship when I was feeling lonely and vulnerable and totally overwhelmed me with her presence. Hated the fact that I had a life and interests and controlled me completely, until finally leaving me kicking in the dust and telling me I was abusive. If demanding some space to enjoy my life as an individual is abusive then so be it! From being (eventually) totally dependent on her, I have now regained my emotional independence through support from my great friends and family (and therapist).
SHe cheated on me throughout the relationship and spent all of in on internet dating websites until she finally found a new man who is now financially dependent on her and 20 years younger... I am glad he came about and got me off the hook, but I get really low thinking of the problems she has caused me and in my faith in love and honesty and respect and goodness.
She tells me now that she misses me but that I was an addiction and like a recovering alcoholic she would be unwise to take another sip... That she still loves me but is in love with her new man. That she is happier in mind body and soul than she has been in years.
I agree - but feel as though she has almost read my mind and stolen my narrative.
I still miss her - I hate that fact. I also hate the fact that because she is so damn needy she will be back in touch with me when her new relationship ends. By then I am praying that I will see her for who she is and will not be feeling so alone and rejected...
PLEASE give me your thoughts.
She caught me on the rebound from a great 7 year relationship when I was feeling lonely and vulnerable and totally overwhelmed me with her presence. Hated the fact that I had a life and interests and controlled me completely, until finally leaving me kicking in the dust and telling me I was abusive. If demanding some space to enjoy my life as an individual is abusive then so be it! From being (eventually) totally dependent on her, I have now regained my emotional independence through support from my great friends and family (and therapist).
SHe cheated on me throughout the relationship and spent all of in on internet dating websites until she finally found a new man who is now financially dependent on her and 20 years younger... I am glad he came about and got me off the hook, but I get really low thinking of the problems she has caused me and in my faith in love and honesty and respect and goodness.
She tells me now that she misses me but that I was an addiction and like a recovering alcoholic she would be unwise to take another sip... That she still loves me but is in love with her new man. That she is happier in mind body and soul than she has been in years.
I agree - but feel as though she has almost read my mind and stolen my narrative.
I still miss her - I hate that fact. I also hate the fact that because she is so damn needy she will be back in touch with me when her new relationship ends. By then I am praying that I will see her for who she is and will not be feeling so alone and rejected...
PLEASE give me your thoughts.