Do you think I should just give up on this guy?
I mean I feel like I'm wasting my time on him
I'm 17 I should be living my life boy free right?
But then I want him so bad I'd do ANYTHING to be with him
Common I've liked him since I was 12 or 13 that's a long time
I have the right to feel like this...
Who am I kidding I should just give up I'm a fat girl and no one wants a fat girl
I donno :confused:

I think you're being too hard on yourself my dear...
You should be out having fun at 17, but it's totally normal for you to like a guy too.
If this guy isn't right for you, there is another one that is.
But, you'll never find him if your stuck on only one guy.
Not all guys like stick skinny girls - keep that in mind;)
Go out, have fun, enjoy yourself, be happy and confident... all of these things
Make a person attractive and desirable to be with.
Best wishes

You Sound Exactly Like Me :) Im A Chubby Girl And I Didn't Think Any Body Would Want Me But Im Doing Something About My Weight Now So I Can Look Good For Other Guys. Me And My Guy Broke Up Not That Long Ago And I Tell You Now I Was Waisting Me Time I'd Rather Be Boy Free And Live My Life Just Like You Should.

yea I've tried losing weight all the time but it just doesn't want to go away. For awhile I would just eat ice until I figured it was just putting more weight on. I want a gastric bypass I think it will help me a lot but I do not have that kind of money so looks like I'll be fat forever=[ I really hate it I feel like crawling in a hole to die.

Don't Be Like That I Used To Think The Same Thing I Thought Id Never Loose It.
But I Made Myself Go To A Personal Trainer She Pushes Me And I Work Hard.
Im Also Eating Right Now I Never Used To Its Only Been A Month And Ive Lost 3kg You'll Get There Trust Me You Just Have To Be Willing To Do Things
This Personal Trainer Is The Best Thing That's Happened To Me Forget The Guys Ha Im Doing This For Me.
Consider It A Big Treat But Without Having A Sweat If You Know What I Mean.
Good Luck Sweetie Xxx

If you want to lose weight, your not suppose to skip meals. That is because your metabolism slows down then because no food is being eaten. Eat some vegetables every hour or so and that is how you can lose weight because your metabolism is constantly working. Working out is a good way too. Do it with a friend so you don't get bored and quit. Also eat less fast food and burn off all the calories you get from eating.

Anyhow back to your question, being boy free would be good for you I think. I haven't dated anyone in the past 9 months, and I have saved money and I am still free to make my own decisions... And at our ages, weight does mean a lot, but oh well. Anyone who doesn't see you for who you are isn't that good of a person for you anyway. You'll find some guy who thinks your beautiful and you will live happily.

I think you're being too hard on yourself my dear...
You should be out having fun at 17, but it's totally normal for you to like a guy too.
If this guy isn't right for you, there is another one that is.
But, you'll never find him if your stuck on only one guy.
Not all guys like stick skinny girls - keep that in mind;)
Go out, have fun, enjoy yourself, be happy and confident ...all of these things
make a person attractive and desirable to be with.
Best wishes

Excellent answer above!

I also agree that you are being too hard on yourself. There is someone for everybody, it's just finding the right person that can be hard. Please just give yourself time and don't be in any sort of rush. "There are many fish in the sea." Not all of them are going to be the right "catch." "It pays to shop around."

In my opinion, I think that it is best to date a number of people before settling down on just one of them as being the right "catch."

Please just have fun while you can. The realities of dealing with adult responsibilities, making your way and also carving out your niche in life are going to be here almost before you know it. Please prepare yourself for those things before getting hooked on only one guy.

Be the best that you can be first. Please take care of yourself.

Well, I was stuck on this one girl who I have been with 2 times in 6 months and she broke my heart by going with my best pal... not I have nothing to do with them both just say hi on the pasin. Meanwhile this girls best friend and I started getting close as she was tehre to comfort me... meanwhile I had seen another gilr I had liked from my pipeband I play in and thought id never had the chance... so I was meant to get with the girl who was comforting me as I as getting close to her but didn't promise her anything... and eventually the girl from my band had started speaking to me and with in a few days had admitted to me that she liked me and I said to her I like her to... from there on life has been great as I got with the girl from my pipeband... the reason of this story is always keep your options open never close them down to a deadend. But now I'm so happy now as I've found the love of my life!!

Oh honey don't be so hard on yourself. This guy is clearly an idiot if he hasn't cowboyed up to ask you out properly. From what you've said about him he showed a lot of interest in you. Teenage boys and well, to be fair the majority of men out there are pretty clueless when it comes to the fairer sex.

I wouldn't hang all your hopes on this one guy. I never dated that much in high school or college. It wasn't until I got out of school that I started dating a lot more. Most of it was because I was always the chubby friend and I had low self esteem. As I got older I lost some weight and gained some self esteem and confidence. You will get there too.

There will be plenty of guys to come and go in your life some will stay as boyfriends and others will be passing crushes. All it does is serve to get us closer and closer to the person we want and need to be to find the right person for us. Until then keep your head up and love who you are. No one else can love you until you really love yourself.

Tahnk you all so much your advise has opened my eyes.
I'm going to ask my mom to buy me a membership for the gym
And I'm going to start eating right and stick to it
No matter how hard it is I'm going to try I just hope you all are their to help me through it

Of course we are! Everyone needs help to feel better and loose weight... we're here for you honey.

Hold you're head high and be proud that you're a great person inside and out! :)

Thank you

You know we will be, come talk to us anytime:D

I've said it before and I'll say it again your teenager years suck. Everything is really difficult and you constantly feel really unsure of yourself. You will grow up and grow out of this believe me. Insecure teenagers can turn into the most self confident women out there (I know I did it!).

We will all be here for you.

You're right. Nobody really likes fat people. I'd try to loose some weight or something

I meant the answer above to be a disagree in case anyone is wondering.

I meant the answer above to be a disagree in case anyone is wondering.

Fixed it for you Clough ;)

You're right. nobody really likes fat people. i'd try to loose some weight or something


Are your fricking serious why not just tell me to jump off a bridge?

are your fricking serious why not just tell me to jump off a bridge?

Don't listen to her missconfused. Fat people can always lose weight stupid people are stupid forever.

Fixed it for you Clough ;)

Thank you, kindly!

You're right. nobody really likes fat people. i'd try to loose some weight or something

There's always someone like this in every crowd. A person who has poor manners, insight and compassion. Best to just steer clear of people like this.

I'm not upset at the immaturity of ace it just makes me stronger

Look at it this way you got one negative post from one ignorant person and loads of helpful posts from people who care. Pretty good I'd say.

i'm not upset at the immaturity of ace it just makes me stronger

I am glad for that! :)

Diets work best when combined with exercise. Get on a good diet and exercise at least 3 days per week. It sounds as though you are more troubled by being obese than the boy issue here. Enjoy life. And work hard.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I'm 16. All I can say is that there's been times where I want to give up because I don't think things will work out and sometimes I'm even getting tired of how he acts. Or I used to anyway. But even if I wanted to I would never give up and its held us together a lot longer. And we used to argue a lot now we don't. Things are almost perfect. I couldn't see it any better anyway if I was with anyone. And I've felt like that where I just want to live my life and not have him or anything to worry about but I love him so much I didn't care. And if I ever would have given up. We may or may no be together right now. But it seems like he's end up coming back eventually anyway if I would have given up. And don't say that. I don't know what you look like but you seem like a nice person. And that's all that a guy ahould care about is your personality.

Thanks to everyone who cares
My mother and I are getting memberships to the gym and are starting to eat better

Do you think i should just give up on this guy?
I mean i feel like i'm wasting my time on him
I'm 17 i should be living my life boy free right?
But then i want him so bad i'd do ANYTHING to be with him
common i've liked him since i was 12 or 13 thats a long time
I have the right to feel like this...
Who am i kidding i should just give up i'm a fat girl and noone wants a fat girl
I donno :confused:


We can't tell you to give up on anyone... Well I would never tell you to give up on love... If you feel that you can't do it anymore then leave it alone... But if memory serves me correctly you weren't taught to be a quitter... Only you know if your wasting your time or not... See honey.. I did not find love until I was eighteen... I always thought I wasn't good enough also... I didn't give up... I found my SEXY hunk of chocolate and its been a bumpy 3 years but it was well worth it... Your too young to be worried about some boy... If he isn't worried about you you shouldn't worry about him.. I know it may seem hard but its true... What do you mean no one wants a fat girl? Shoot fat is the new skinny... I know a lot of men who likes big girls... Oh wait there not white... My bad... lol... xxmissconfusedxx... don't let it stress you... Worry about YOU and YOU only... If you don't who's going too? Love always... your beautiful sister :)