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bspr1601
Aug 15, 2007, 04:02 PM
What advice would you give me to deal with my jealous husband?
XenoSapien
Aug 15, 2007, 04:59 PM
Have you given him reasons to be jealous?
XenoSapien
Oracleofwisdom
Aug 15, 2007, 05:19 PM
what advice would you give me to deal with my jealous husband?
Honesty is what I would recommend and openness. Only you know if you can be totally honest with him and tell him how u feel, but if u have a mobile phone for example tell him he is welcome to look at it for texts etc you want to move to a new level of open honesty in your relationship. If he is jealous its possible not always though that this could be a trust issue. Thing is if he thinks your beautiful he is going to think other men will want you. Don't be too cross think of it as a compliment as as long as its not ott and you can work together to make it better. Talking is always the answer in my view with issues like this.
nicespringgirl
Aug 15, 2007, 06:16 PM
Nothing can kill a healthy relationship more quick than jealousy. Healousy itself is a sickness. One should never be jealous of anything. He is lack of inner peace but it is not something he will overcome overnight!
HE NEEDS TO:
Love himself. Insecurity breeds jealousy. When he don't feel good about himself, it's hard to believe that someone else could. He projects these doubts onto you, and then he becomes suspicious. Self-confidence is jealousy's kryptonite.
Heal his wounds. If he has been abandoned or cheated on previously, then he may still be sore from the experience. Forgive and move on. Let go of the past before it ruins your relationship.
Trust himself. Have confidence in his ability to choose a partner who wouldn't deliberately hurt him. Have faith that he can handle whatever happens.
Stop comparing homself to others. There will always be someone with a better whatever. The total of who he is is what makes him special.
Focus on what is, and not what could be. Jealousy is often the fear of something that hasn't even happened. He has no foundation for these thoughts other than his insecurities. Stay present in his relationship instead of worrying about hypothetical situations.
Trust you. If he constantly fears that you will leave or cheat, he will drive away the person he loves. Jealousy makes him controlling and unattractive.
Human beings should not be jealous of ANYTHING. Get over with it!!
Finding one's inner peace is the key to a balanced life.:)