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mahm6266
Aug 14, 2007, 11:28 PM
I do not want to have sex with my boyfriend because I want to wait till marriage and he respects that. I just want to know some other things me and him can do for sexual pleasure that doesn't involve us having sex.

KISS
Aug 14, 2007, 11:42 PM
I do not want to have sex with my bf because i want to wait till marriage and he respects that. I just want to know some other things me and him can do for sexual pleasure that doesn't involve us having sex.
Define sex. Is oral sex = sex? Is petting = sex? Is sex intercourse by your definition?

mahm6266
Aug 14, 2007, 11:44 PM
Yes. I don't want to have sex meaning intercourse or any other type of sex for example, oral sex, anal sex etc.

KISS
Aug 15, 2007, 07:41 AM
Masturbation. Mutual self masturbation while you watch each other, take a shower/bath together, cuddleing, watching erotic movies and kissing within your limits. Learn to give each other a massage.

Pleasure can be derived by many things. A hobby that you both like. Helping others. Even being in the same room doing different things.

Again, there is pleasure and a subset is sexual pleasure.

Choux
Jan 8, 2008, 11:25 AM
You are in a perfect situation to develop your sensuality properly without rushing into copulation and oral sex! If you aren't too goal oriented. :)

You might want to read some material about exercises sex therapists recommend to increase sensuality. While nude, lightly stroking the face, abdomen, legs and so forth(not genitals yet) to begin... and so on!

Best wishes!

aggie4life08
Jan 25, 2008, 04:36 PM
Hun, if you have any type of sexual interaction being anything for oral to touching, you will eventually break down the barriers you have set up and will have sex. Everyone that I talk to that has had premarital sex tells me that they started only allowing touching because they were going to save sex for marriage. But eventually that doesn't satisfy you and you move onto other things. Really, you and your boyfriend should masturbate, but on your own time, meaning when you both are separate from each other.

Spiker2008
Feb 7, 2008, 02:16 AM
I agree with the Aggie... I found it very hard to squirm my snake around her front lawn without sticking it to the bush...

Xrayman
Feb 7, 2008, 03:11 PM
Oh brother...