Am I seeing what I want to see or am I seeing what is there?

I say, once a liar, always a liar honey, you are better off staying right AWAY from that guy!

i met this guy while on vacation turns out we live in nearby cities...after exchanging phone numbers he called all the time during the next few days and we went out on one date before we both returned home. one of the best dates i been on and i know the feeling was mutual, we had so much in common and felt soo comfortable with each other it was bizarre... he talked about coming to visit me...but as much as i tried not to, it turned into a one night stand. it didnt feel like a wham bam thank you maam, he was extremely affectionate the following morning and telling me how perfect i am... this is when he confesses he has a young daughter so i was like ..okay fine thats cool. i leave for home the next day and his phone calls and text msg's still go on saying that he misses me,, that im his girl hes going crazy w/o me there all that good stuff. the 1st night i get back home he calls me drunk saying that he loves me,,, when i would answer the other line he would say..oh ur talking to one of your boyfriends huh?..sounding jealous...now a cpl days later when he returns home, we spoke and i felt something funny so i asked him if he had a girlfriend, he didnt answer at first but then he said hes living with a girl hes been with for 2 years...and this is the part i wanted to laugh at..he says its one of those things that isnt working out and he going thru a transition...my 1st thought...riiiigghht who wrote that line.. then he said he had wanted to let me know but didnt want to tell me on the first date b/c he felt it was too much.

my problem with this is i like him too much by now b/c we hit it off tremedously and i thought he was single ( he did say he was at first) ...i feel he was really selfish for not letting me know he has a g/f just to increase his chances of getting me in the sack. i feel a guy should let u know this up front so a girl can have the right to decide if she wants to partake in a fling..if he had done this i would atleast have not allowed myself to like him so much had i of decided to go along. Since then a few days have passed and we dont speak as frequently but the last time i spoke with him he mentioned coming to visit me again....i really like him alot but im extremely dissapointed that he lied. Im pretty sure he said his relationship "isnt working" just to make sure im available for him on the side. I dont want that and i like him way too much just to be the other woman,,that is a dead end situation unless you dont have feelings for the guy. i also dont want to disprespect another woman...im not trying to take someone elses man away. i want to tell him we shouldnt continue unless hes single. I really like this guy alot and i dont want to stop talking to him but i dont want to perpetuate a sexual relationship with him while he is with this girl.

the confusing part about this is trying to see where hes coming from,,, does he see me as a thing on the side or someone he considers moving onto...i question this only b/c obviously he got what he wanted on the first night so why still talk to me afterwards, he didnt have to call again,,,secondly why would he confess he has a child the morning after (the woman hes with is not the childs mother),, when we could just say bye and go back to our hometowns...i feel he would respect me more if i refuse to date him while hes in a relationship but im afraid he will never speak to me again. sure as hell dont know what to do...i really wish he had told me this from the beginning so i wouldnt like him so much. am i seeing what i want to see or am i seeing what is there?
Hi don't want to be homewrecker,
Then don't be one! I say this with love my sister. How many times has this guy done this? You will probably never know. As the old saying goes, Why buy the cow, if the milk is free! Tell this guy that you cannot be involved as relationship, sex so on with a man who's married or living with someone and let the chips fall where they may. If its meant to be he will do what he has to do and you two can live happily ever after. The other scenario is waiting for him for 1,2 3, 4 etc yrs for the right time to get out of the relationship and spending xmas, thanksgiving, all major holidays alone! You are worth more than a Barbie doll on the shelf-he pull you down when he wants to play with you. God Bless and prayer will answer if he's the one. Take it from been there, didn't like it!

Yeah your absolutely right. Guess everything happened so fast and I just fell for the b.s. of living in the moment. If he want me so bad he can come find me, when he's single.