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natetheskate
Aug 12, 2007, 02:22 AM
This like most postes, the answer must be selfevident.
I am to the point that I am ready for my first serious relationship and at the age of 29 have had few casual relationships. I have turned down a few prospects over the last year and now my selibacy is starting to take its toll, one year now.:D
Should I hold out for Ms Right and take the chance of never meeting her or should I start seeing girls casually.

XenoSapien
Aug 12, 2007, 05:45 AM
Hold out for Ms Right. There are a lot of people on the planet. Half that number is probably married. Half that number is about the amount of single available women. By the numbers, I'd say Ms Right will materialize eventually out of those millions available.

XenoSapien

chuff
Aug 12, 2007, 06:49 AM
You say your holding out for Ms. Right but do you have any idea of who you are looking for? What do you want to have Ms. Right be like, what does she like, what is her personality. Answer those questions then perhaps finding her will be easier.

nicespringgirl
Aug 12, 2007, 07:08 AM
I am always holding for Mr. Right.
I am sure you know what you look for from a woman. It takes time, and she will come when you are not looking for.
I encourage everyone to be serious about having a relationship,don't even start one until you are mostly sure you will get along,willing to work things out.
Never rush into one, lose rationality, and end up getting hurt.
Dating is not just for fun, it's about building trust, respect and a spirit connection with the other person.
Good luck.:)

talaniman
Aug 12, 2007, 08:20 AM
Date and have fun, that's what youth is about. You should be enjoying your freedom, and seeing what the world has to offer. Doen't mean you should be bedding everyone, but it doesn't mean not having a great time being single either.

natetheskate
Aug 12, 2007, 09:59 PM
Dating around sounds great, which is what one half of me is pushing for as I am sure Ms Right is doing exactly that, as she should be, having fun. Tho I would rather that she be waiting for me. The other half which is emotionally ready to have that significant other is worried about becoming attached vise versa to a girl that does not fill my every desire which becomes a headache.
You know, I want the basics that every guy does, and then I want the extra, a girl that shares my interests. That's where the trouble is finding a girl that matches. I know in the long run that if I were in a fine relationship and happened across my perfect match that I would be malcontent, so waiting seems to be the right choice, (as the world passes by) maybe the answer is to make sure the relationships I'm in are just for dating, though those add up and each one takes a little of who I am. I want that spark.