Okay so I have a boyfriend and he always puts me down by calling be names like, b!tch, slut, screw up and stuff like that..

I try to make him happy but no matter what I say he's like whatever..

What do guys like to here?

GUYS: if I was your girlfriend how would you treat me? Is he a good boyfriend?

No he does not treat you right, and you should leave him. I doubt he is making you happy with those names so why take it? If you really want to be with him, tell him how you feel, if he changes and you like what he has become then stay with him. If he doesn't change and go find someone else.

I never treat a girl like they are a piece of garbage, it doesn't matter if they are sluts. People are people and that's the end of it. You should be treated like a friend or more, nothing lower.

Thanks chris... your right its just hard to break up with him I just called him and he started yelling at me because I called him while he was skating..

:(

He is not a good boyfriend if he is calling you names like that and always putting you down and yelling at you for no reason.

That is not a boyfriend. A true boyfriend would complimant you and lift you up , etc... Would be supportive.

Joe

You need to boot him! He sounds like a classless piece of garbage! Hun you are probably going to have a lot of boyfriends before you settle down, and don't ever let any of them treat you that way. You deserve way better. If you let one treat you this way, then yourself esteem will be lowered and they will all think they can treat you this way. You should stand up for yourself! :)

Thanks guys I've been with him for a little over a year...

Well that's a year too much of verbal abuse! Why do you allow this?

How long have you guys been together?

okay so i have a boyfriend and he always puts me down by calling be names like, b!tch, slut, screw up and stuff like that..

i try to make him happy but no matter what i say hes like whatever..

what do guys like to here?

GUYS: if i was your girlfriend how would you treat me? is he a good boyfriend?
ITS called dumping you are special not a slut or dump him plan simple his not worth it GOT IT

I said I've been with him for a little over a year!

I n=know I should dump him.. I don't know why I tAKE T

i said ive been with him for a lil over a year!

i n=know i should dump him.. i dont know why i tAKE T

There are so many guys out there that you can choose that won't treat you like this. I am sorry this is happening to you and I hope you can find the courage to let him go, because now that he knows he can do this, he probably won't stop. :)

OK I'm calling him now help me out.. okay.. what should I say..

"im leaving you, you don't deserve me."

Wow.. talk about being under pressure.

Just be honest with him. Tell him how you feel. If you are tired of taking his crap, then tell him. Remember he can't force you to be with him if you don't want to be.

Well here's how it is if you let him call you those things he will... you have to give him a reason not to call you those things like leaving him. Once it starts and you let him continue to degrade you like that then he will because now he has no reason to stop treating you like that. You need to put him in his place and let him know that's not what you and those are not your names.. say hey do you want to see my birth cerificate that's not what it says... emotional abuse is usually the beginning to something worse.. honey get out before he gets worse

So ill say hey chase... uh, uh, wow ill like be heartbroken! What do I just say hey chase its not working ou its over?

I don't want to force you to break up with him if you don't want to, but if you truly do want to break up with him just tell him exactly what you said in here. Its not working. You can also say you're unhappy (if its true), and you're tired of being treated like dirt.

Okay here it goes..

Ahhh! I love his voice!

Ahh! He can't here me! Noooooo!

Umm I froze! Hellp

Someone! Help I'm just sitting here on the phone... scilence! Help

Just say what everyone told you to say before. You just have to spit it out.

Or, if you aren't ready to break up with him, don't. You have to do it when you're ready.

I can't breath and I'm studdering! Ahhh! I'm ready to do it its just I need the courage!

Tell him he doesn't appreciate your beauty and that he's got to go... tell him when he gets a better vocabulary maybe you will accept an apology but that's it your moving on to better things

Okay... so... *cry*

Just be yourself. Show your true feelings and do not pretend anything. Just do what you feel is right. Good luck.

Joe

okay.... soo... *cry*

Aww hunny don't cry. If you aren't ready to break up with him then don't. I don't know about anyone else here, but when I gave you my advice back on the first page I never intended or thought you would break up with him right this minute. If you need more time to gather your courage and your thoughts, then that is okay, but in the mean time don't let him treat you this way. If you stand up for yourself, even just once, he may realize that this kind of behavior is not allowed.

I'm ready to break up with him I don't need his $h!t anymore!

Well then all you have to do is just take a deep breath and let the words flow out of your mouth. Don't be mean, just be honest and truthful.

You need to ask him why does he call you all of those things and then tell him if you feel Im all those thing why are you with me? Say I don't know of any guy that wants to be with a slut or any of those other things... be strong... you can do it something tells me you want to leave him but you just want a push

Okay here it goes..

I asked him why he calls me that aND HE SAID BECAUSE I AM and I asked why he's wityh me and he says because he loves me! Now what?

Tell him if he loved you he wouldn't call you those names.

He says he loves me an dhes sorr y

This is just my opinion, but he needs to show how sorry he is before you should believe him. Actions speak louder than words.

Tell him last time you knew that wasn't love and when you love some one you don't hurt them... and well those are very hurtful words

He says he can't stop me and to just break up with him now if I don't love him...

Tell him he needs to check up on his defenition of love and then ask him what's next after the name calling a push or slap b.c you're a slut?

If you love him tell him I love you but I love me more

Ahhhh...

He's really sad, what do I say now?

He said he's sorry and he said he shouldn't have done that

Honey think about all the times you were sad and he didn't care... hes sad now but how about once this blows over and he gets mad again and starts putting you down again... do you think he says aww she's sad let me stop..? No!

Only you know in your heart if you want to give him another chance... and if he's worthy of it...

...

Okay so he's being sweet!

Soooo?? Did you forgive him?

Should I?

It is up to you. You told him how you feel he said sorry, not it is up to you whether you give him another chanch or not. This might be a difffulcult time for you but you need to remember that these are decisions that you need to make and again I would like to say good luck.

Just give me a yes or no... please?

It is not a yes or no answer. You need to make that choice for yourself.

You always forgive him... to forgive someone is a beautiful thing but that doesn't mean you have to be with him... forgive him all you want just don't take the abuse anymore

I'm sorry I didn't mean to say that you always forgive him... disregard the 1st you

Honestly? If I where you I would talk to him about it and if he doesn't stop then I would dump him. No boyfriend should treat their girlfriend this way, and visa versa. If he doesn't appreciate you then tell him to go stick his abusive mouth up where the cows don't moo (weird but true) If your boyfriend started like this when you both started going out, then I would have dumped him then and there. If I where you, I would just leave him. There's no point in being with someone who treats you like total @&!*... so think about it and if he treats you the same way the next day tell him to p(*s off coz' you can't be bothered with someone as crude and selfish and abusive as him. And if you are going to dump him, use a stern and hard voice, so that he know's that you mean it. But it's totally up to you I suppose.

Oky so now he broke up with me and I'm begging him to get back togeather? What the h*ll is wrong with me?

OK, sorry but I've had enough of going from one thread to another that you started Rachael, to get to know you and try to help.

DROP THE BOY NOW.. and find the real you, after you dump all the trash that has cluttered your life so far. And PLEASE don't get impatient.. and read this to the end. OK?

You have taken us from one problem to another as if in a CHAT ROOM... this is not a chat room. We do take questions very serious and really want to help.
It would seem that for some reason, you are sending pieces of a puzzle, piece by piece, and then expect us to come up with something that you 'desperately need immediate help' for in each thread.

Honey, you have some serious problems that need immediate attention, I don't deny that, but you are going about it the wrong way. It's not going to be easy for you, or anyone else in your life right now because nothing in your life has been easy.

It's unfortunate that you had to practically raise yourself. You did not get a chance to have a normal childhood therefore it's not easy for you to 'act' like a normal 12 year old.

Unfortunately, this is not something that can be 'fixed' piece by piece on the internet. This will take real people, some real hard time dedicated to helping you deal with your past and get you to a better future.

You need someone to be there for you when you get mad and cry, vent your anger, your fears, and your hopes. You've got so much bottle up inside that it will not give you room to move on right now. Please, please get some help from a councilor right now. Each day you wait, the angrier you will get - to the point of no return - and that's is not what you want.

If you can take that step to talk to someone and work with them, you'll see the difference it will make.

Stay with us and let us know how you feel, at any time, but promise that you'll get that help you desperately need, OK...

Lots and lots of HUGS!

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I wish I could be punished nobody punishes me! I want to know that someone cares and doesn't want me to be like this.. but no one tells me so I guess... yeah.

Your advice is great and I'm going to take.

Honey, you are punishing yourself enough as it is, don't you think..

Wishing that you had caring parents that helped set boundaries for you is too late. You will have to set your own boundaries, but should not blame yourself or punish yourself if a few things go wrong.

Even if you had someone that would be willing to discipline you right now, you'd rebel.

Getting even with others because they did not know better is also not a solution.

Find some things you would like to do in your life and start over with a lot of help.

Again good luck dear, and keep us posted.

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Okay thanks.. I will kepp you posted...

Trust me I will..

Lol..

He's a worthless jerk. Dump him like a hot potato. You shouldn't allow anyone to treat you like this.

Yeah I know...

But like he's addicting...

I don't know whyyyyyyyy...

He comforts me when I need him and holds me close saying everythings going to be okay.. that's all I really want but I always end up heart borken.. like my signature says..

"all i wanted was a hug, but i ended up heart broken"

I don't know anymore..

The reason you feel that way is because you do not get the kind of love and attention that you need in your life from the people who are supposed to give it.

However, and listen to me and HEAR me. You do not deserve to be called names. You are not a whore, you are not a bad person, you do not deserve to be treated badly by someone. Not now. Not ever.

I understand that he apologizes and is sweet AFTER he calls you these horrible names. However, if he was really a good guy he would NEVER call you those names to begin with. EVER. A good guy would love you. He would be supportive all of the time, love you all the time, never make you cry and ALWAYS make you feel good. Not some of the time.

What have I been telling you all this time Dolly? I want you to LOVE YOU. You are lovable. Will you please recognize that within yourself. You deserve healthy love not this dysfunctional nonsense that is going on now. I know its hard because its all you have ever been shown in your life.

Right now on all of these boards we are all showing how someone who cares should act. We want to watch out for your well being and make sure you feel happy and feel good. That is what care and love is about.

Yeah your right... there's so many guys that like me that says he treats me like $h!t and they would treat me way better...

But I turn them down because I try to work things out with chase but my heart can't take it anymore my heart broke so many times before and its not long before it completely breaks off and I have a meltdown..

It just feels good to have someone there beside me holding me telling me wonderful things but unfortunately my heart breaks... unno?

I know honey. It's a tough situation. Where you are in your life right now you need those reassurances but I'm certain someone who will always make you happy will give you that as well. You have to stop thinking that only Chase can give that to you.

Look at all of us here. We don't even know you and all of us want the best for you and want things to be okay for you. I tell you all the time I wish I could reach through the computer and just hug you until all those bad feelings are gone.

You really need some positive grown up influences in your life.

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This is the link for Big Brothers/Big Sisters. Please look into this. I want so much for you to have an adult in your life who can really give you a hug and tell you its going to be okay.

Thanks I will look into it!

Scrue that loose the guyy!

Maybe you should break up with him if you think he isn't treating you right. Why would you want a boyfriend if he calls you slut and and all that.

okay so i have a boyfriend and he always puts me down by calling be names like, b!tch, slut, screw up and stuff like that..

i try to make him happy but no matter what i say hes like whatever..

what do guys like to here?

GUYS: if i was your girlfriend how would you treat me? is he a good boyfriend?

He is a bad boyfriend. These types of guys grow up, get married, and abuse their spouses. You deserve better than this guy treats you. It's not okay for a guy to treat a woman that way, and it's wrong. I would personally leave the guy if I were you.

Thanks guys. You so I broke up with him aand I found out hat he was cheating on me all along and so I said screw you I don't need this and I hung up... ( then cried). Hehe

Good for you Dolly! You don't need someone to be mean to you and then be cheating on you on top of it! Oh honey! Remember not all guys are like this jerk.

There's my girl! Good job dumping the loser!

Believe me, when you find a real keeper, you'll know it! {{HUGS from Me to YOU}}

thanx guys. ya so i broke up with him aand i found out hat he was cheating on me all along and so i said screw you i dont need this and i hung up...( then cried). hehe

I'm sorry to hear that he was cheating on you, but the good thing is that you don't have a negative, abusive person in your life. It's someone else's problem.

The best revenge a woman can have on another woman cheating with her boyfriend, is to let the other person have the guy.:D

No he is not treating you right. He is treating you like a piece of crap. And when he's thruough with you he will do you like a piece of crap and flush you away.
Don't really mean to be so crude. But get rid of him. And try and make better choices in the future.

okay so i have a boyfriend and he always puts me down by calling be names like, b!tch, slut, screw up and stuff like that..

i try to make him happy but no matter what i say hes like whatever..

what do guys like to here?

GUYS: if i was your girlfriend how would you treat me? is he a good boyfriend?
SCARS.. you are still a teenager and should not even be thinking of a steady relationship, let alone a relationship with someone who puts you down.

Be serious and work on yourself- develop a healthier attitude toward yourself - and only then can you expect others to treat you with respect. It's hard for people to do if you don't respect yourself.
You have far too much on your plate: breakdown, cutting, school, parents, etc. Plus, a cousin who raped you... Believe me, all this adds up to the torment that you are going through right now in your life and until you get this worked out, you will constantly wonder who you are and who you think people want you to be.

Again, how can you expect other to treat you with love if you don't treat yourself better first. The right guy could come along and you would not know it because you don't 'expect' anyone to love you and care.

The first step must be made by you... So, love yourself first! The only one you should 'try to make happy' is YOURSELF!

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_22_19.gifDo you like what you see? If not, then get the help you deserve!
You have just as much right to be happy as anyone else in this world - but it takes work.

Lots of Hugs!

OKAY GUYS THANX FOR THE ADVICE! IT REALLY HELPED ME OUT ALOT! BUT I BROKE UP WITH HIM SO ITS OVER...

SHEEZ THANK GOD YOU BROKE UP WITH THIS LOSER !

It makes my blood boil listening to stories like this, I can't stand seeing someone mistreated like that, he sounds like the kind of person that would give "empty" apologies, and I'm sorry those kept you going for so long, grrr, I want to punch him in the nose!

Srry about my temper ! :-0

No he does not treat u right

Well first of all how old are you and he deffinitly shouldn't be saying that what are you thinking no guy should treat sumone like that

:rolleyes: ;) hey honey I no what your going through and yes its so hard because uria stuck between the man you won't to love and the man you have its hard I no but you do need to talk to him and tell him that he has a choose he can get help and straighten up or your gone and if he truly does love you he will straighten and become a loving person again [/FONT

Wow no guy should ever treat you that way.
Name calling isn't right.
Just brake up with him already
Its hard but you have to let go.

okay so i have a boyfriend and he always puts me down by calling be names like, b!tch, slut, screw up and stuff like that..

i try to make him happy but no matter what i say hes like whatever..

what do guys like to here?

GUYS: if i was your girlfriend how would you treat me? is he a good boyfriend?
That's not right, I mean every relationship has problems, but he shouldn't be calling you all that

If anyone has NOTICED... the last post here was 1 September! And the original poster had not responded in a while.

Please look at the dates before answering so that your time will not be wasted on those who post many more such as these throughout the site, and still don't accept the suggestions we make. - this young lady did just that..

C.U. in better threads on this site.

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OKAY GUYS THANX FOR THE ADVICE! IT REALLY HELPED ME OUT ALOT! BUT I BROKE UP WITH HIM SO ITS OVER...

As a matter of fact, this was her last response to this thread.

Just get rid of him girl! I wonder why you are still with him. A year or even 5 years duznt matter in this case! He is treating you more dirtier than a door mat! Break it up! U can get better guys dan this! U still have a long way to go! I'm sure u'll be more happier without him! I know its not as easy as we make it sound. Its going to be v difficult on u. but you really have to do this. You can't build a bright future wit a guy like that. Think about your life ahead. I'm telling you wots best for you girl!

Look. I've had this boyfriend for 4 years. He was the same way to me. I would treat him like a prince, I would litterly feel like I was the only one trying at the relationship. He would yell at me for being jealous that he was with other girls, he would lie to me, he dressed like a slob... he used to be a well up prim and proper kid... now he has his ears gauged, he wears braclets.. . I litterly had to beg him to shave. And when he's at my house I have to force him into the shower. He wouldn't want to hang out with me unless it was sexual favors.. . I broke up with him yesterday. . It was the hardest things in my life to overcome. But with some of my bestfriends cheerin me on, and hanging out with a real man, I realized all the time was wasted when I could be with someone that I really actually might fall in love with.

okay so i have a boyfriend and he always puts me down by calling be names like, b!tch, slut, screw up and stuff like that..

i try to make him happy but no matter what i say hes like whatever..

what do guys like to here?

GUYS: if i was your girlfriend how would you treat me? is he a good boyfriend?

Girl,
You Should Cheat on him It's the right thing to do after he call you them names.

My ex call me $hit like that and I dumped him and got with his friends.

If any of his friends like you ,go out with them!
Once he see's he will be madly jelous and Die for you.

Don't ever! Get back with him unless he proves to the world he changed and he's in love with you.! :cool:

Don't answer his calls and if you see him on the street ignore him if he looks at you

I did with my exboyfriend its why he my ex and your boyfriend should be ex