:confused: :confused: omg! All my friends say I'm a slut!

I wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, a lot af makeup, and I look at least 16... I'm 12.

I had a 11 grader ask me out and I'm in 7th.. and whenever I'm walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to each other and then smile.. its weird.

I developed faster than most girls too. If you know what I mean..

Do you think I'm a slut?

I know people are looking at this...
Please...

No I don't, but cut back on the make up, at least till 9th grade. Slut is a harsh word, and I doubt if you sleep with everyone that whispers about you.

-P.S.- guys are pervs and girls are moody, try to tone down your appearance a little (make up is a good start).

What's the definition of "slut"? Buy clothes at Lands' End and there won't be a problem.

Oh, where's your mother?

Well not really slut. Because I don't sleep with every guy I see. Just how I dress.

Just be careful you don't want to draw too much attention to yourself. There are a lot of creeps out there. What do your parents have to say about all this... or do they buy you those clothes?

Um I doint live with them... m moms has been in a hospital sense I was 3 or 4 for o.D. ing

My dad? He sells drugs and who knows where he is... I get the clothes from my friends get money from my grandma..

Sorry to hear that but just be careful. You don't want to send out the wrong message.

Thanxzzzz...

Your right, I don't want to send the wrong impression.

well not really slut. because i dont sleep with every guy i see. just how i dress.

That implies that you DO sleep with some guys. And if you do, at 12 then I'd classify you as a slut.

You obviously have no one controlling you. No one giving you the limits, examples and direction that a 12 yr old needs.

By asking this question I think it bothers you that people think you're a slut. So what does that tell you? It really doesn't matter that much whether you are one or not. Its how people perceive you. And if you don't like people perceiving you are a slut, then stop being one. Cover up more, cut back on the makeup, stop playing up to boys. Act more your age.

Let me make that clearer... I don't sleep with guys at all..
Sorry I didn't make that clear.

Oops!

Hello.

It's not important what I think, its important what you think and because your asking the question you think you are at least dressing like one. That's not to say how you dress makes you a slut but in general terms a Girl that shows more then she covers is slutty. If your actions are like how you dress then I can see how people will think your doing more then you are sexually. You know the guys are going to say they have been with you even if they haven't. Its how most young Men try to look cool with their friends. We all know they don't get anywhere near the action they say they do but that's another question hehhee.

I have the feeling that you are a sweet young Lady that wants to look and act like a young Lady but because of your home life and friends you feel like you need to act older. Be who you are, You're a special Girl and every one would see it if you let them. So give yourself a chance to live your life and dress down a little, let people see your sweet face without all the makeup and enjoy how people will treat you better. Wouldn't it be nice to have friends that wanted to be around you not want what you have or try to make you do things you don't want to do.

Good Luck
Dennis777

Omg! Dennis!

Thanks soooo uch!

Your advice is really good but just one problem I don't know who I am.. I typ who I am and how I feel I just can't act like it in person! I just don't know anymore...


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Okay soooo I don't sleep with guys but I have a feeling I might.. but not a lot just one.. well my boyfriend... or, or, or... my boyfiriend?

If your 12, you shouldn't need make-up, and as many have said before, just becareful. There are so many perverts that would love to take advantage of you. And be thankful that your pretty, and remember that you should only date boys your age at the moment. But as someone said before, who cares what we think? Be yourself and enjoy each day of your life.

Thanks chris...

Great advice!

I can't tell you what to do because only you know what your going to do... but please be smart before sleeping with your boyfriend you're a little too young to give it up... especially from what I've seen on your other post he doesn't deserve your purity... And about being a slut NO! Just calm it down on the dressing so sexy.. you have a lot of time for that... you don't want to give older men the wrong impression... Sometimes just by the way you dress you can provoke the wrong people... remember your body is your temple no matter what you put on it on who you let touch it...

Ohh and friends don't call friends sluts

I know!.

My boyfriend calls me one too!

Don't show your belly, make sure your skirts are at least down to the half point between your knee and your hip and don't have sex! 12 is too young. If you're doing all that then yes I'd call you a slut

I think you need to talk to someone about these issues. I've read about three of your new questions and all of them seem to put you down.

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Hi
No I don't think you a slut, just tone down on the makeup.. you way too young for that.
As for your parents, I'm sorry about that, why don't you show them that you can become better then that?

I don't think you're a slut unless your sleeping around with everyone which you say u don't,so no your not a slut, u may dress like one, why don't u start wearing different clothes I mean girls can look very nice in sum stylish pants, maybe u should cut back on the makeup it only gives u pimples and it makes you look fake or like u have something to hide. If it bothers u so much, CHANGE UR APPEARANCE

Thanks haze.. your right! I should definitely cut back on make-up... and wow! Hey cool my 12 year moler is loose! Ya-hoo!

let me make that clearer... i dont sleep with guys at all..
sorry i didnt make that clear.

oops!

I apologize if I interpeted what you said incorrectly. But the rest of my advice stands. I would suggest talking to a school counselor or maybe a clergyman to try and help you decide the type of person you want to be.

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Hi dear, this is not a chatroom, so nobody needs to be 'online' when you are.
Different parts of the world have different timezones - which makes it better as there are more competent and caring people coming on this site to help others.

In your life, there will be many experiences where you can later say 'been there, done that' and the heavy make-up and too revealing outfits should be a 'done' deal now.
It is exciting at any age, to have guys take a second look - but how we feel after that is our choice.
The lookers should mature as we grow, so try a new look to attract new lookers. Believe me sometimes it is worth it, because the lookers get better too.

There is not much we can do about the 'talkers' because what has been said cannot be taken back, so get over it. You know your are not a 'slut' and those who care enough to find out who you are will not call you one.

Now, once the 'rebel' in you is tired of playing with your parents, go to them and tell them that you will be trying out something new and to work with you. That will warn them of the next phase of your growth. Parents went through all kinds of stages too, so unless your are learning from a martian, it will be nothing new, maybe a little different - but not new.

Oh, and stay with us and let us know how you progress and have fun

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_18.gifhttp://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif The outside sends messages, so what do you want to say, really?

:confused: :confused: omg! all my friends say im a slut!

i get the clothes from my friends..
So how can your friends call you a slut for dressing the way you do... when THEY are giving you those clothes?
If you ask me anyone who called me a slut wouldn't be my 'friend' as it's not exactly a compliment is it?
You're not a 'slut' as this describes someone who is sexually promiscuous and as you've said, this you are not... but by dressing the way you do then people may have that impression.
I agree with most though.. wear less make-up and cover up, you're only young and have plenty of time ahead for all that, plus you'll find by leaving a little to the imagination it's sometimes more attractive!

:) Hope this helps

Hello again, cars:

I know - you don't like my advice. Too bad.

If you don't sleep with people, you're not a slut. That's just so, if go by what the word means, and we do here. But, you're going to BE a slut pretty soon here if you keep going on the way you are.

Don't get me wrong, sluts are good people too and the world needs 'em. There's nothing wrong with sluts. If you want to be one, be a good one.

However, you'll have plenty of time to do that - the REST of your life. Right now, you're a little girl. You'll NEVER have another opportunity to be THAT again, so that's what I think you should be and act like.

But, I'm not your parent.

excon

Hello

You Said

"your advice is really good but just one problem i dont know who i am.. i typ who i am and how i feel i just can't act like it in person! i just dont know anymore..."

I understand your confused because all your life you have tried to be older and fit in. You have never lived life as yourself, that is until I hope now.

You can be anyone you want to be in this life. Your young and have years ahead of you so now is the time to make your changes and be who you want to be not who your friends want you to be. If your friends can't understand why you want to change then they are not real friends. I bet you have a few friends that you have pushed away over the years because they where not cool so contact them and get back into the life you know you want before you make some mistakes that will make things harder then the have to be for you.

Dennis777

You may not be a slut YET, but you are on the right path.

I have to wonder why you don't respect yourself more. Your mother is in the hospital and your father is a drug addict. Is it right to guess that you want to be like them when you grow up?

In my opinion, no 12 year old should be showing her body as you do, yes that is slutty. In my opinion, no 12 year old should be wearing make up unless it is a special occasion and it is worn subtly. In my opinion no 12 year old should have a boyfriend of 1 year (that made you 11) who calls you names and verbally abuses you. In my opinion, no 12 year old should be swearing and using the language that you do.

So, yes, you are following the right path to becoming a slut.

I tell you, if my 13 year old did ANY of this I would tan her hide and lock her in her room until she learned some morals.

I just hope you don't turn up pregnant when you are 13.

U do need to be careful about what you wear!

I would guess you dress to get attention the attention that you are not getting from loving and caring parents. Be very careful, it is a short walk from dressing like a slut at 12 and being a porn star at 18. Please try a more appropriate way of getting attention like getting straight A in school. It is far more challenging and noble to overcome the hardships in life than to give in to an easy fix like putting on a shorter dress for quick attention. Study do good overcome that gains a long lasting attention people respect.

Attracting a good boy is very simple actually. Dress as though you respect your body, dress in a sporty or casual fashion. Very little or no makeup. Moderation is the key to everything in life.

Less is more, and I don't mean the amount of cloth used to make the clothes. Less frills, less cleavage, less SKIN.

:confused: :confused: omg! all my friends say im a slut!

i wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, alot af makeup, and i look atleast 16.... im 12.

i had a 11 grader ask me out and im in 7th.. and whenever im walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to eachother and then smile.. its weird.

i developed faster than most girls too. if you know what i mean..

do you think im a slut?

i know people are looking at this....
please...

In your post you say some things that makes me feel like you think that you look like a slut. So what is your true feelings, do you feel like a slut because of the way you dress and the way you wear makeup?

If your dress does make you feel like a slut then change the way you dress, that way you will know that you are not a slut and others will not think of you a slut, if what others think matters to you. If it doesn't matter don't change the way you dress and leave everyone wondering if you are or not.

Thanks guys... I'm ganna try your guys's advice it sounds easy ut hard unno? Well I hope I'm not pregnant when I'm 13 too. :(

I'll start with the make-up... not as heavy

And clothes? No show? Okay...

Ill try-jk
I will no show...


Okay I will tell you guys how its going!

c-ya

Cut back on the make-up and get some jeans. :-)

ultimate_user_name agrees: good advice, I've always thought jeans can be just as hot as any skirt. I'm 15(male)

LOL, when my husband was younger he would tell me to trade in a pair of jeans for a skirt any day. Most real boys and real men like a little left to the imagination.

J_9!

You're a girl?

Omg! LoL! I thought u were a guy!

Sorry! Hehe..

:P

J_9!

your a girl?

omg! LoL! I thought u were a guy!

sorry! hehe..

:P

Giggle, I am a mom of 4 kids, one just a little older than you, she's 13.

LOL..

Their lucky to have a wonderful mom!

Hun, the first thing you can do is place an age appropriate pic on here.

Okay... hold on

There...

Its my dog.. better?

LOL thanks..

It's a girl. Her name is bebe/baby!

<3

Much better, a great step in the right direction!

You and... I'm wearing not as much makeup... I don't look hungover, my skirt is a little longer and it has shorts under it, a neaklace, and a yellow star shirt!

Ya-hoo!

Hehe. Where did you normally shop at. Abercrombie and hollister? If so my friends call me a slut all the time for wearing abercrombie lol. Just don't be too easy with guys I doubt you are a slut

Thanks.. yeah and hot topic, wet seal, oh hehe... and a lot of other places..

Well you don't seem to walk the walk but you definitely "talk the talk". Not literally, but it's the idea of the impression you give off. Giving off an impression, in and of itself doesn't make it so. But if you fear that you're giving off an impression that you don't want, then don't give it off ; it's that simple. Don't dress or act like it ; then people will have no reason to think that of you.

Okay thanks...

Good advice guys!

thanx guys.... im ganna try ur guys's advice it sounds easy ut hard unno? well i hope im not pregnant when im 13 too. :(

i'll start with the make-up...not as heavy

and clothes? no show? okay....

ill try-jk
i will no show...


okay i will tell you guys how its going!

c-ya

I think you will like yourself much better if you do the things you say you are going to above. Good Luck to you and I hope life gives you exactly what you desire.

Thanks! Omg! Yay! My song is on! Its slipknot!

I felt the hate rise up in me, kneel down and clear the stone of leaves I wander out where you can't see inside my shell I wait and bleed!
Goodbye!!


Omg. Okay sorry I can't but sing it! LOL!

omg! dennis!

thanx soooo uch!

your advice is really good but just one problem i dont know who i am.. i typ who i am and how i feel i just can't act like it in person! i just dont know anymore...


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okay soooo i dont sleep with guys but i have a feeling i might.. but not alot just one.. well my boyfriend... or, or, or..... my boyfiriend?



Your 12 hunny chill you do not need sex and cover up and loose the makeup your still a baby live it up

You inno thanks...

Loose the makeup? All of it? No eyeliner?mascara, Not fair... okay I won't put on as much but I'm not going to completely loose it.

Its hard... addicted to it. Hehe.

Yea I like make up too but I'm also 17 not 12 when I was 12 and came home with make-up on my mother scrubed my face until it all was off

ya inno thanx...

loose the makeup? all of it? no eyeliner?mascara,? not fair.... okay i wont put on as much but im not going to completely loose it.

its hard...... addicted to it. hehe.

You know. It's really not funny. The makeup should not be worn at age 12, ESPECIALLY eyeliner and mascara. What do you need it for? To make you look... well you know where I am going.

You are still a child. Dressing, acting, and swearing like you do is only asking for trouble.

Since you seem to not want to take anyone's advice, not want to change, I am unsubscribing from your threads. I will, though, be watching to see if your avatar is age appropriate and it will be removed if it is not.

I'm sure you will do whatever you want no matter what anyone says.

Well like everyone else said don't wear so much much make up anyway when you where a lot its bad for your skin and get longer skirts if you don't want so much attention
And your not a slut because you don't sleep with every guy you see or anyone at all

:confused: :confused: omg! all my friends say im a slut!

i wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, alot af makeup, and i look atleast 16.... im 12.

i had a 11 grader ask me out and im in 7th.. and whenever im walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to eachother and then smile.. its weird.

i developed faster than most girls too. if you know what i mean..

do you think im a slut?

i know people are looking at this....
please...
If your friends say you're a slut then their not true friends

You're not a slut but you are certainly not dressing appropriately for your age. You are too young to be wearing those kinds of clothes and that much makeup.

You have plenty of time to dress up in your life. If you try to do everything now what will be left for you when you get older? There is no need to rush anything. There is nothing wrong with wearing a little bit of makeup and nice clothes.

I agree with CheerU 75% because the make-up and the clothes can really persuade people to think you're a slut

I know your right...

Ill take you advice but ill take it slowly.. step- by step. First loose the mascara, coverup, and then eyeliner but slowly.. and all the other stuff.

Seriously it is going to be too late I have a strond feeling your going to be on the bullitin board in walmart saying have you seen her because you're a pretty girl and if you wear all the make-up and trashy clothes then men are going to take advantage of you and your only 12 your still a baby

:confused: :confused: omg! all my friends say im a slut!

i wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, alot af makeup, and i look atleast 16.... im 12.

i had a 11 grader ask me out and im in 7th.. and whenever im walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to eachother and then smile.. its weird.

i developed faster than most girls too. if you know what i mean..

do you think im a slut?

i know people are looking at this....
please...
Hi my name is charlie my sister is the same as you and all I tell her is don't u think yr a bit young to be dressing like that but I cnt tell you what 2 day you have 2 make these choises 4 yr self

let me make that clearer... i dont sleep with guys at all..
sorry i didnt make that clear.

oops!

That's not the point. The point is the way you're dressing is giving off that kind of impression. Accept it, cause the truth is that is how society works. It's up to you how you want to dress, but if your being hurt because people are calling you a slut then do the obvious and dress more appropriate.

Keep in mind that nobody here knows who you are, and in the end you just have to use common sense to decide on a solution. This is just advice for you to consider.

Also I'd like to make it clear that if your in the 7th grade and a guy from the 11th grade asks you out, it's for sex nothing less, because the mental gap between your ages is huge.

You I know...

I had a feeling that all he wanted because he talks about it to and I walk away and I'm like okay whatever perv...

You but he's still my friends nothing more. Anyway he thinks I'm cool and I hang with all his friends.. unno I'm like one of those girls that hang out with the boyz...

Hun,
You know that behavior determines if you are a "slut" not clothes. The problem I see is that you don't want IDIOTS to perceive you as something you're not by your outside appearance. There are jerks out there who would act aggressively toward you, party because they may think you are older, and I wouldn't want to see that happen.

Just be safe in whatever you do.

What is the first thought that comes into YOUR mind when you see a girl dressed provocatively?

If you slept with no guys than u CANNOT be a slut, a slut is someone who sleeps with a lot of guys. HOWEVER, u can give the impression you are a slut by the way you dress. High skirts and other revealing attire gives the impression of showing off for the men, getting their attention through what we all know makes them look.

But no your not a slut... my ex-girl... well that's a SLUT... LOL!

Let's put some responsibility on the guys who look at girls in a perverted way. Guys that are perverts will be so, regardless of what girls wear. No girl is suggesting that she will give away free sex by wearing makeup and a short skirt, that is simply the perspective of the one looking. It sounds like you are in need of some attention, even if it isn't positive. Yes, there are creeps out there that you need to watch out for, no matter what you wear! Also, I think slut is a strong word for a twelve year old. I don't think most girls who sleep around at age 12 do it because they love to have sex and be promiscious. IT is usually because they want to be loved and accepted by guys and they think that is the way to get it. They don't usually want to have sex, but they do it because they feel that is what will keep or get them a boyfriend. Don't allow yourself to be sterotyped in such a way. You have a difficult time already. You are a child, but what you have been through in your life is more than some adults that I know. It seems you want to feel like you belong somewhere, you want to be noticed and loved. That is normal. Everyone does. The people who should be giving you that love and security aren't in your life and that makes everything more difficult. It is hard to know what the right choice is sometimes, and the fact that you aren't sleeping with anyone, is very smart of you. I am proud of you. That isn't easy when you have no one really setting boundaries or limits for you. You need to get involved in something that you care about. Get your mind off what others think of you and if they approve or disapprove of who you are, what you look like and how you dress. If you continue to dress older than your age, it will continue to attract people that are older. Be the 12 year old that you are. Innocence is so precious and I speak from experience. I did way too many things too young and I didn't feel like a kid anymore. It changes you. You can still climb trees, use your imagination, start volunteering and work with people or animals, dress up and be goofy, dance and have fun with your friends. Start a club of some sort. Do something that you are good at and realize the talents and gifts within you that are waiting to come out. Don't allow other people to define you or determine your worth. This has to come from within. You are a good person, you are beautiful and intelligent and you have a lot to offer this world. IT doesn't come just from the way you dress. Live your life to be the best you can be, and remember never allow ANYONE to tell you that you are a slut, or stupid, or anything. You teach people how to treat you, and the better you feel about yourself, the less people will try to take advantage of you.
So, bottom line, answer your own question. NO, you are not a slut. YOu are figuring out how to be a young girl in this crazy society. You get a lot of mixed messages from many different sources. The media, magazines, the movies and of course, your peers. Listen to your own voice. That is the one that will guide you down this turbulent path of the teenage years. Continue to write down your feelings and express yourself, it is very healthy for you.
I wish you the best. You beautiful, young girl!! YOu are just trying to find your way, give yourself a break. You are your own worst critic!

Omg!

I LOVE YOU!!

Haha! What you just said says it all for me that's how I feel and, and, omg I couldn't agree more!

Oh and I like acting... that's something I could start. When I was little I used to fake cry and my dad would feel bad so we would go to chucky cheese! LOL! You and I've played in a lot of plays! So maybe.. I love to write poems.. I'm really good at it.. and they aren't likke about little kid things the are meaningfull...

Here's one I wrote at um 11?


Do I love him?

How do I know?

Is there any love left for me to show?

How can I find my heart?

I thought I loved him from the start.

Now I'm just confused not knowing what to do.

There has to be a way.

Should I let him go?

Or should I let him stay?

Right now I don't even know.

If he stays with me he will never be able to see

And he will always be lost.

My heart is what I have to find

And now I finally made up my mind.

I'm going to let him go,

But it doesn't matter anymore

Because love is something that I don't know how to show.

The memories I will miss a lot

I guess I will never know if I loved him or not…



Good huh?

LOL I made so many people cry with some of my other ones...

Hey thanks chery... you all my friends say I'm great at acting.. its sort of funny.

That is something to think about.

Acting and comedy are two of the chosen careers of former battered children and children (boys and girls) with really lousy pasts. Those that survive their childhood use this to keep their sanity.

It is far better than drugs and ditches as a choice for life.

Choose your path, dear, and don't let anyone stop you.

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Haha! I wish a could acctually become and actress.. I mean my grandmas filthy rich anyway cause my grandpa was the first mayor of villa park but you.. I really do wish I could becaome one that would make a lot of things better...

I have two friends that are modals.. so you..

Your not a slut unless you act it , slut is a way you act, a personality traight, not a way you look

You don't have to wish, you have to plan and make goals for yourself. To act and to write, or to be the mayor of your home town are all real possibilities for yourself. Sometimes those that have struggled and endured the most pain, come out on top! You have to begin by not worrying what your friends think. Stay true to who you are. Find ways to continue to develop your talents and make friends with people who have similar dreams and goals like you. You don't have to dress like anyone else or do what they say, in order to be like them. If you really like wearing what you wear and its for YOU, than do it. If it is for attention seeking behavior, then I would really evaluate if you want the attention from the idiots you will get it from. You are better than that. If someone likes you or notices you, you want it to be because of who you are, not who you are trying to impress. I am glad you liked what I wrote. I don't want to sound like a big lecture, but there are other people out there who can love and support you, even if your parents can't. Try to forgive them, because they just can't be who you need them. You will be for yourself. Be strong and share whenever you would like. I loved your poem. It was truly beautiful.

p.s. I love your pic now rachel its so cute

I'm still pretty new here.. but I wanted to to put my 2 cents in.. No I don't think you're a slut at all.. specially since you don't even sleep with guys... I know now a days the age is getting younger and younger for the way girls dress like that.. id say be young as long as you can :) maybe dress a little more, covered? Lol what I'm trying to say is.. you can still wear your skirts and all just don't wear something really bad on top you know? There are still really cute stuff out there that doesn't show off a lot of skin.. There are a lot of older guys out there waiting to just kidnap pretty girls like you. I guess guys take it as a message if you dress that way. Stay safe hun! (im only 20, so I still very much know what it was like to be that age.. I didn't dress like it at 12, but I did at about 15 and ended up getting pregnant at 16, can't say it was the clothes or anything.. but it did sure help get me boyfriends.. id take my time being young, I sure do miss it, and feel like I didn't get enough time being young :(

Omg.. I stopped being a kid at like 8 or 9? You those were hard times..

p.s. i love ur pic now rachel its so cute


Oh really you think? You I was 10 there.. or 11? I 4got.. but you thanks! No makeup! Woo!!

Thanks for the good comments :)

You I miss being young.. specially when you don't realise how much bad is in the world.. and how hard the real world really is.. you really miss just not worrying about those kind of things.. and just... sitting outside playing with friends :) I really do miss it. All though.. some of my childhood was tooken away anyway, when my little sisters dad molested me.. I guess I didn't let that stop me from loving childhood all though it frightened me. Having kids however though sure did stop it lol cause you basically give up your life and share it. Can't really regret it though because I love them more than life itself... but I do wish they could have come later...

I know I ramble. Lol

Just cut back on the short skirts,make-up, and be a 12 yr old girld you will have plenty of time to dress older when you are OLDER. Good luck sweety

If your dressing thαn in things like thαt then YEA you'd look like one-- however α slut is α girl thαt bαsicαlly sleeps αround or is pαrticipαtes in sexuαl αctivities with α lot of guys.. whαt your thinking is more "hoe" αnd yeα by thαt description αnd previous posts it gives me the impression thαt you must be one.. girls usuαlly dress like thαt for αttention-- well it isn't so pretty once the wrong kindα guy comes αnd wαnts to rαpe you-- don't be foolish αnd go out αnd dress like some two-cent whore.

! your 12 for goodness sαke! Stop weαring tons of mαkeup αnd strippers outfits.. this is the wrong kind of αttention girlie..

sαve yourself before you develop α bαd reputαtion...

Persoanlly... if you go out of the house with those clothes YOUR asking for the trouble you get and in my opnion your not a slut. Your dressing like whore. So of course people are going to say things about you I would. One day your going to come across the wrong guy and he might try to voilate you. Do you want that to happen? Are you secretly trying to get attention? Sounds like it to me. Your 12, your parents shouldn't let you out of the house like that, but since they do have some self respect and dignity. Dress like a young lady stead of a prostitute. Wear a skurt that goes to your knees, shirts that go right to your skirt line. Makeup that is light if any. Why do you need make up anyway? Are you ugly or something and trying to hide it? LOL I doubt it. I think you got yourslef thinking that dressing this way is cool or that it will score you guys. Get serious, and change your wardrobe or some guys might change your life... and not for the better either.

Give her a break, she is asking questions because her parents aren't there to guide her. Maybe you shouldn't be so hard on something you don't really understand. It is narrow minded ideas like yours that make people think it is OK to hurt people based on how they dress or how they look. NO matter if you walk naked down the street, it gives no one the right to abuse you or put your hands on you. Rape has nothing to do with sex, it is an act of violence and it is due to a lack of self control, regardless of what the victim is wearing. Say what you want, but for goodness sakes, be more kind about it. Read her previous posts and you would understand where her parents are.

My point is that itsnot OK to dress that way. Id rather get to the point then beat round the bush. If it hurts, most likely some one knows its true and will hopefully take control of their life and do what's right by themselves. No one said they were judging people likethis, but it's a fact that many people dressed like this are cheap ho's. Sad but true. Ppl first opinion are on first looks or conversation. If u look like this chances are you wolnt get a job, make new friends that aren't shallow and etc. If parents aren't around you got to find out things the hard way, but you can skip that by listening to people who give you sound advice.

I've reαd her previous posts shαttered.. I know her pαrents αren't there.. still it tαkes common sense to think thαt when you dress like thαt guys will think you in α negαtive wαy-- plus there αre α hell of α lot of perverts αnd well "bαd people" lets sαy out there thαt could do more dαmαge [this is α definαte wαy of helping them initiαte the αct/ provoking them-- is it not?]

She might be 12 but thαt doesn't meαn she is stupid.. she needs to stop mαkinf poor choice mαny people out there hαve no guidαnce αs children-- no pαrenting or poor pαrenting don't justify whαt you become in the lαter future..

True besides we all know you can be a better person then who you think you are, we all see the good in you or we would not have posted ( whole pages (and more to come) if we all didn't love and support you a little

No but you should dress better and wear less makeup just baisically dress and look you own age I understand you may develop faster than other girls but don't show it off so much because you will give people the wrong impression and I am sure you don't want that. Trust me no body looks good with a lot of make up I don't even wear any and I am 17. So if you don't want people thinking you are a slut take peoples advice.

I didn't spoon feed her anything and sometimes it is all in the delivery. I don't think I am hurting anyone by using compassion to teach her differently. If you read through my posts, I told her that dressing that way will get reactions and responses that she may not want. I told her to reevaluate why she is making the choice to get such a reaction from people. I think being nonjudmental works better than being critical or attacking someone's character. She is a child. At 12 years old it is hard enough to make your own choices.
You have on your signature that you will not be a product of society, that means living by what you believe to be true. I think she should dress the way she thinks is appropriate and realize that there are consequences for her actions. Calling me a liar is completely out of line and not true at all. So, if you where black clothes, eye makeup and funky jewelry to the mall, does that mean you are asking to be harassed by security or police. Part of the reason we have so much prejudice in society is because of that kind of thinking. That was my point. I don't think she is looking for a job just yet, she is trying to figure out who she is, and the kind of people she wants to attract. My advice was to choose wisely.
SARAII, I know what you are saying, I was there and I remember the age. I

do you think I'm a slut?

No you are not, but I think you do a lot of things positive and negative for the attention you want from parents who are not there for you. I was amazed at the interactions between you and the people that have posted and it shows that all you really need is good people around to guide you. You are talented and quick of mind and sorry you had to go through so much hardship so early, but I have to give credit where its due as your mind and I think your heart is still good despite the obstacles you've had to endure. Please don't waste anymore time trying to get everyone attention, and let people see the good talented smart side of you more. There is a lot there and I wish you luck in seeing it and growing to know yourself.



All i wanted was a hug,


Put your best forward and you'll get plenty of hugs

So let me get this Straight u don't sleep with guys but u dress in really revealing cloths so tone it a bit like make up & the short skirt OK (so how short r they) because it all depends on how short they r.:confused: :o

Hey if you put hands to you sides do your fingertips go past the skirt?
If so you need to find skirts that touch your finger tips
That's what they make us do in school

I do think scottgem was a little harsh about that but just coverup a little more that's all and cut down on the makeup abit I know you dondt think your a slut but you might be giving people that impression of you and that's not good especially your age. The worlds full of perverts and you just need to be careful.
Good luck

My friends call me a slut too I hate it and no that doesn't sound slutish if you were you would be doing things with guys I have develped a lot and unlike most of the girls at my school I'm not half anorexic I think I'm fat people say I'm not but I'm really curvy I kind of a big butt and OK boobs so if I wear anything kind of revealing everyone think of me bad

Hey I'm 13; I don't think that you're a slut. I just think that you dress like one. Don't take it offenseivly. You should "tone" down your appearance. Don't were laced shirts & mini skirts . The make-up you should tone downn just a little bit to. I know perople develop faster then other girls do . I developed faster then some other girls but that doesn't mean you should show it off though. What does your parent or guardian say about you wearing this stuff ?

Your not a slut babe. At 12 years old your friends don't know the real meaning of a slut.lol weni was in 7th grade and girls would kiss a million other guys they were called sluts. Now I'm in college and everyone's sleeping with each other I look back and say how innocent that was.lol. But if your going to dress like that people are going to judge you. I do the same thing so here what you do when the say those things. PROVE THEM WRONG.

Why do you wear those clothes!! Just don't wear them it's easy... If you were walking in those clothe I seriously would think that you are a slut or something like that Criss you're just 12 years old.. Guys think like that when a girl walks in short skirts and see you're belly they think you're slut or trying being ONE!! But this is my advice to you... wear normal clothes
For you're sake

Peace out

Dressing slutty doesn't make you a slut. Sleeping around makes you a slut. But either way, you shouldn't dress like a slut if you don't want people to think you are one.

It's impossible? Then you don't want to change.

People!! We have ten pages of answers.. i think shes heard it already !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You sound like you LOOK like a normal teen, but because you're only 12, its not right.
Sorryyyy...
I know everyone has the right to dress and act the way that they want to, and I love that, but if you are getting negative impressions from other people, maybe wear a little more conservative clothes (no belly shirts) and slim up on the makeup.
But you're not technically a slut unless you SLEEP with everyone who talks to you.

Its not a stretch if you dress like a slut, to assume you are one, that goes for adults also. So if the world is fooled by the way you dress or act, then you have fooled them into thinking you are a slut.

Let me put in perspective guys see a short skirt and they think slut I know its stupid but that's how guys are, we are dumb. But if your friends call you that them maybe its time for new friends and if being called a slut hurts you then maybe a change a close can go a long way. Presentation is very important at 12 you won't understand but maybe at 17 or 18 like me dressing like a thug makes me a thug get what I am saying I do not know you real well but listen to 2pacs You wonder why the call you b**** and maybe you will understand

PEOPLE HAVE ALREADY SAID ALL THIS, can we chill and leave this post alone!!

If you think your original, scroll through the other TEN PAGES ! Chances are, someone has said it already.

PEOPLE HAVE ALREADY SAID ALL THIS, can we chill and leave this post alone !!!!!!!!!

If you think your original, scroll through the other TEN PAGES ! chances are, someone has said it already.


Wow. Calm down.
Jesus.

PEOPLE HAVE ALREADY SAID ALL THIS, can we chill and leave this post alone !!!!!!!!!

If you think your original, scroll through the other TEN PAGES ! chances are, someone has said it already.
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Dress like a 12 year old and you won't have a problem. It sounds like you are starving for attention. Dressing provocative is going to get you the wrong kind. Try and find some good solid friends in life that are not into drugs and booze.

No offence but you are oviosly a slut. Read how you described yourself. I mean dress hiw you want. But if you are going to dress lik that you are oviosly going to be called that

thanks for the good comments :)

All though.. some of my childhood was tooken away anyway, when my little sisters dad molested me..




Hey I know how you feel... my cousin raped me... :(:( :( :(

Read all the posts before replying I am very happy that you are trying to change and I guess people do have bad experiences in their lives and I guess I was abused the same as you too... and I hope that even if those things have happened we should look through the future and I hope you continue changing because I really think you are an intelligent person :)

And for the clothes yeah its batter to wear the clothes your age and the make ups too there is a right time for that hope we can be friends :) I really have a good feeling about you :)

hey i know how you feel... my cousin raped me... :(:( :( :(

OK, have you told this to your therapists? Does your mother know? This might be one of many reasons for your past and present behavior. Apparently you still have a lot that needs to be worked on with help.

I sincerely hope that you gain a better attitude toward yourself and life.

Again, good luck.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_19_1.gifYou have a lot on your plate...

No, I don't think you are a slut, but some people judge the book by its cover. Slack up a little , you will be grown and out of school and on your way to college before you know it.

hey I wear make up and everything I have never slept with a guy and I never will until marrige! I'm in the 7th gr.and I just I'm *cute *well myfamily tells me so but they r just my family-i live with my mom and dad -my dad isent a great role model either but I get though very well I can see your position and yes I agree with the others - cut back on make up wear bright tones maybe with make up if u like them? I wear pink eye shadow and black eyeliner(not ALOT)and black mascara =] and yeah if u give guys the impression that you are a *hoe* or whatever u want to call it then everyone else will treat u like one =] hope I helped a little bit
wenesday I'm getting my cartlige pierced! Ahh I'm so excited! Lol I know.. totally off subject:D

You may dress like they do but that doesn't mean you are. If you start doing a lot of things with a lot of people then yeah

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I sOOOOOO! Agree!just don't type if you don't like our posts!

How about I do whatever I want, I was suggesting that people at least check the other 100 answers, can you deal with that?

No my dear you are not... but you give the impression that you are by the way of dressing and make up... you should know that you are too young to apply makeup & wear this type of clothes... every age has it's beauty... so enjoy your age... you grow up so fast and soon you will have to apply make up and change your style of clothes... so do not rush... stop applying make up... wear something decent... but cute match with your age...

Take care of yourself.

Ms. Redress

:confused: :confused: omg! all my friends say im a slut!

i wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, alot af makeup, and i look atleast 16.... im 12.

i had a 11 grader ask me out and im in 7th.. and whenever im walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to eachother and then smile.. its weird.

i developed faster than most girls too. if you know what i mean..

do you think im a slut?

i know people are looking at this....
please...

Hello Scars,
No, you are not a slut! How a young lady dresses says a lot about the type of person they are on the insided, deep down in their heart. You my dear are only young and it takes time to mature to an adult. You show some maturity in that you wrote this post asking people's opinion. That takes maturity and corage. Good for you.

You are very valuable and what is yours you must protect. Some young men are just out for one thing only, (you know what that is, don't you?) Well that is one of your most treasured possesions and it should be valued and saved for that special guy who you want to be with the rest of your life.

How you as a young lady dress and speak and carry yourself, will tell others how much you respect yourself. If a young girl wears very revealing clothing such as short skirts where her back seat is hanging out or shirts that reveal too much, then she is saying to a guy, "Here I am. I am easy, come and get it." No young lady would want to give that impression. Instead she wants guys to look at her for her bueaty on the inside and not just the outside. Have you ever tasted something to eat and the wrapper was really nice and when you opened the wrapper the inside tasted really gross? Well, that is how a women can be. We want to be seen as bueautiful on the inside first. You see scar, if we are bueatiful on the inside, the outside will also be beautiful.

Now as to the make up, Why so much. A girls bueaty is her skin and natural bueaty. Not a bag of caked on goog. That is artificail bueaty. Would not natural bueaty and the bueaty of youth be more appealing to the eyes of those aroung you? In your post your said: " wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, alot af makeup, and i look atleast 16.... im 12. i had a 11 grader ask me out and im in 7th.. and whenever im walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to eachother and then smile.. its weird."



Why are they staring at you and whispering to each other and then smiling weird? Because of the way you present yourself. You are looking as if you are an easy to get into bed with them. That weird look is the bad thoughts they are having about you. They are thinking you are a slut. But I know you are not a slut or you would not have posted you question here asking if you are. My reply to your question is, "NO YOU ARE NOT A SLUT:" You are just a sweet young lady trying to grow up in a world that is geared toward young ones like yourself, trying to mak them think that wearing short skirts and short shirts and pack on makeup, that the world will approve of you. All the world will do is deceive you and use you and then by the time you are 18 years old tell you you look old and worn out. The world I am speaking about is the bad people in this world, who really don't care about you or anyone else. They are selfish and only care about themselves. The 11 graders who date you, do you think they truly love you? Of course they will tell you they do, but by the time you are in 11th grade they will be in college or even married to someone else and may even have a child or two. Again remember, they are looking for one thing and it isn't really you, but what you have.

Please don't think of yourself as a slut but a young lady who needs to present herself as a beautiful gift to the person you will one day will fall in love with. Save that gift for then, don't wate it on those who truly are not wanting you but who are wanting to go to bed with you and that is all. Watch how you dress and wear makup, that will tell everyone what kind of young lady you are on the inside. I bet under all that caked on makup there is a princess underneath. God made you beautiful on the inside and the out, but as you grow up, don't let others change your beauty to ungly. How we dress and wear makup can make us truly beautiful or ugly..

I have a daughter and if she dressed as you say you do and wear makup as you say you do, I would worry about her. Why not ask your mom to help you find an adult who is naturally beautifull on the inside and out and ask her for some advice on what helps her to be pretty on the outside and the inside. YOu are not a slut, just need some help on finding your real beauty. I am sure if you dig down deep within your heart and mind, you will see the beauty that God gave you and use it wisely to help you grow to a fine adult.

You know how they say: "You are what you eat." Well in your case: "People will think of you only what impression you present yourself as." If you dress and make yourself look like a slut, they will think of you as a slut. On the other hand, if you dress and wear makeup as the sweet and precious young lady you are, then that is what people will think about you.

Take care and a big hug to you.
Hope12

Oops! I meant to put... :'(

Honestly I really don't think the way you dress matters. I'm starting the 11th grade, don't wear makeup at all, and dress pretty covered up for the most part, and people still call me a slut. So it really doesn't make sense, because I haven't slept with a guy on top of everything, so if it bothers you that people are saying, then yeah, maybe cut back on the make up, and cover up a little more, but ultimately, people will always talk, no matter what you do, and as long as you know what they're saying isn't true, then leave it

Forgive me if somebody already asked this but I broke my own rule and didn't read all the pages. But, why do you dress the way you do? I don't think it classifies you as a slut but it does seem odd that you feel like the attention your getting, good or bad, is a motivation for you.

:confused: :confused: omg! all my friends say im a slut!

i wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, alot af makeup, and i look atleast 16.... im 12.

i had a 11 grader ask me out and im in 7th.. and whenever im walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to eachother and then smile.. its weird.

i developed faster than most girls too. if you know what i mean..

do you think im a slut?

i know people are looking at this....
please...
I thonk that you are only a slut if you sleep around.

I don't think your a slut.. Just Try To Wear Like light Make up and If u think u Dress like a slut then Ur own Feelings are telling you to Stop Wearing Clothes like that. I was Raised Up by Grandparents So I know how it is not having your mom or dad in your life. But Wearing all the Makeup and Dressing sexy is not Going to get you nowhere but rape or killed. And if you have friends That Give u Clothes Then they r Trying to make you look like a slut and they don't care about u.. U need to buy your own clothes and wear what a 12 year old girl should wear.

Well since you don't sleep with guys then your not a slut! U friends are saying that cz they c u looking different than them and cz you wear diffrently than how girls your age should!

Look, for your own good! get clothes that would cover up a lil' it's not bad to wear skirts or shorts! But wear them with something that wouldn't attract that much attention! @ your age your starting to develop and starting to feel different stuff and I'm sure you want some attention and it's showing. Well o.k u'll still please guys with your nice personality, nice smile, I duno.. a lot of things it's not just physical o.k? Try to make everyone like you for who you are not for the person u'r showing!

I duno if I helpd, I hope so! If you need anythn just tell me and I'll do my best to give you good advice!:) ♀