My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my dauther his stepdauther.
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesn't look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. What can we do?

You really are kidding right? You would really put your children through this again?

Personally, and this is my opinion, there is no person lower than a child molester. This man should have his wanker cut off in my opinion.

What do you do about the law? You follow it!!

How can he see his kids? He SHOULDN'T!! He sexually assaulted at least one. He took her purity away. He doesn't deserve to see the light of day.

In your heart, yeah, I have heard that before. That is what an enabler says. You would risk putting your daughter in danger again. Child molesters, yes he is a rapist, are master manipulators. They will say and/or do anything to get near little children again.

What can you do? Keep them far away from him or risk losing them to DCFS, that's what you do.

And by the way, it's spelled DAUGHTER!

Sorry but I agree with the above, I don't believe the kids want to see this guy again, are you sure your not the one who wants to see him and asking the kids to go along with it?

He shouldn't be involved in their lives again.

I doubt your daughter has gotten over the trauma of her father raping her. Has she been in counseling or is this your judgment that she has gotten over it? It takes children typically well into adulthood to get over the fact that they were molested by a family member.

If I knew where you lived I would call Child Protective Services. Your husband will most definitely do this again. Child molesters are the most likely criminal to re-offend. There is no treatment, including chemical castration that ceases a molesters urge to molest.

Please keep your daughter away from him. If you do not he will rape her again and again and again and again. That blood will be on your hands.

You want to know who is lower than a child sex offender is the mother who wrote the above ?

My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my dauther his stepdauther.
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesnt look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. what can we do?
I know my husband was wrong!!
But, he didn't rape her.

What you have to understand is that It was presented to me that she wanted her dad in tears. She was crying, that is heart broken. It is hard to believe that a girl would say she doesn't hold that against him. I would say that our case is very very very rare. HE DID NOT RAPE HER!!

Yes he did. He took her virginity before she was able to fully understand consensual sex. He raped her. A parent that does this to a child is raping the child. PERIOD. I'm surprised he made it this far in prison. Even murders don't respect rapists.

Then why is he in prison for molesting your daughter?

I would say that our case is very very very rare. HE DID NOT RAPE HER!!!!!

Yeah, you know how many times we hear that!!

Again is your daughter in counseling? Sometimes children have strange reactions after being molested. It is your responsibility to make sure your daughter is okay and is mentally and emotionally healthy. Only a child psychologist could determine if your daughter is really okay. I'm sorry but you are not trained in this situation.

My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my dauther his stepdauther.
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesnt look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. what can we do?
You may love and have forgiven the father and the children may love and have forgiven their father?. BUT IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS! With that said you would be sadly mistaken to believe that he has been rehabiltated. Would you even want to run the however small a risk you may perceive putting your kids in a position that it MAY happen again... I know that would make me sick... wait until they are adults and can make their own decisions and then they also cannot become victims again... also if you haven't already get yourself and your daugthers some counseling and support. God bless

Your children should come before any relationship... their safety should be number one on your list, NOT reuniting with the molester.
I can't believe you would even consider it... or post such a question on here an expect to get a different response.
You better be careful... if you endanger your children... they could very well likely be taken from you and placed with someone who knows what's best for the children, and protects them.

If you let her see this man, even if she claims to want to see him, she will hate you for it when she's older.

Here's the way I see it. You have been reminiscing about this monster in front of your kids, feeding crap to them about how he's changed, he loves them, he's their "daddy", he won't do it again. You may have told your kids that you prayed for him, he's found Jesus. I wouldn't be surprised if you have been telling your daughter Jesus wants her to forgive him. You may even be shaming her into thinking she has to forgive him. She knows it'll make YOU happy if she forgives him, so she pretends that she has so you will still love her. Am I warm? I know I am.

He ain't her daddy, he ain't her father, so stop calling him that.

I've seen this exact scenario play out over and over and over and over again with women who stay married to these slimey dregs of flesh that dare attempt to use the title "man."

You are manipulating that poor abused child into thinking she wants to forgive him. The fact that you don't look at this experience as "a painful experience any more" makes me sick to my stomach over the torment your little girl is going through and you don't even see or apparently care about. That fact that you are willing to split hairs over molestation versus rape says it all. How selfish can you be? Are you honestly willing to put your marriage to a depraved child molestor ahead of your flesh and blood's emotional well being? Real good parenting there!

I have no sympathy for you, but I pray for your three daughters.

Lady I know a woman (former neighbor) that married a man that was accused of raping his ex wife and molesting his 2 sons ages 1 and 2. Yes he served time in prison for this alleged rape. Of course he did not do it. His wife was from a differenty country and was using this to take his kids away from the USA that was about 7 years ago and she is still in the same state. So my neighbor marrys this child molesting loser. But now he is in prison for RAPING my neighbors 9 year old daughter (her STEP FATHER) and he fathered a son with this woman. She does have a brain and refuses to let him see them from what she said the lasst time I talked to her. Did he penetrate her vaginaly? No but he did other things to her. He raped her of her childhood, She goes to school with my daughter guess what? She is sexually active and cuts herself and is in therapy and is only 12 . If your daughter knows you want her to forgive the molester she will say she does to make you happy. Do your daughter a favor and be a mother to her and forget about your need for a man until she is grown.

Please don't make your daughter become a victim of his again. A man like that can never be trusted. He emotionally and physically damaged your daughter and those scars may never heal completely.
You all may be able to forgive but this is something that doesn't allow for a forget.

I wonder if you really thought we would be on the side of the rapist. Did you really think you would come here and have people tell you how to make sure your child was raped again?

Did you think that we would fall for the old "I've repented and found the Lord, I am sorry for what I did routine?"

This man is sick, sick, sick, and in my opinion should be castrated.

And you, my dear lady, are sick to even consider placing your child (oh that's right 3 daughters, and supposedly only one was raped), so children, in the care of this pervert again.

I really hope for the mental well being of these children that they are in intensive counseling. And if you believe for a moment that this will never happen again, you live in a fantasy world.

Just one more point what happens if you let this vicious monster back in the picture and then your daughters bring friends over... and he takes advantage and tries to destroy another innocent life.
This post nearly made me vomit you need counseling more so than your children.
If you have ever seen dateline to catch a predator... guess what almost all of them are repeat offenders.
If you want to take this scum of the earth back please place your children in another home.

After this I think I will hug my daughter after I pick her up from cheerleading.

If this woman was so concerned about doing the right thing she would have contacted Child Protective Services and talked to the Social Worker there. Someone who would place her daughters in the same company as a convicted sex offender needs to have her children placed in safety - safe from her and the step father. Cannot believe how sick this poster is.

Everyone else who posted said everything exactly right. You cannot get more clear counsel than what has been posted.

Hello turn:

Fortunately for your children, even though you are considering it, the courts will NEVER let him near his victims again.

excon

This question upset me so badly that I fumed about it for several hours last night. I have a little daughter, and the mere thought of it just made me so angry. Everything I do in life, since the day she was born, has been for her or in her best interest. I know from experience that there are parents out there who have no business raising kids. And social services rarely does enough to protect them. I've experienced situations where everyone knows that abuse is occurring, but the little girl is too afraid to speak up because either the abuser or the enabler has convinced her that being removed from the home is worse than being abused.

I think everyone in your family needs therapy. You must not be thinking clearly. How could anyone forgive someone that touched their child. I know he didn't rape her, but it doesn't make it okay. He is obviously a sick man, don't let him near your kids.

My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my 14 year old dauther his stepdauther. my husband did not have sex with her!
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesnt look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. what can we do?
You got to understand...

you got to understand...

What are we to understand? That you husband molested your daughter. You tell you daughter that God wants her to forgive him so in order to please her mother she cries for her father.

Your husband is a scumbag.

Are we missing something?

This question upset me so badly that I fumed about it for several hours last night. I have a little daughter, and the mere thought of it just made me so angry. Everything I do in life, since the day she was born, has been for her or in her best interest. I know from experience that there are parents out there who have no business raising kids. And social services rarely does enough to protect them. I've experienced situations where everyone knows that abuse is occurring, but the little girl is too afraid to speak up because either the abuser or the enabler has convinced her that being removed from the home is worse than being abused.

I hate that you were upset about this issue, however please understand that my dauther is fourteen years old and she is old enough to tell me her feelings. We were at a store and I asked her "what's wrong"? She said "I want Daddy". Mind you this was a shock to me I went to my sister/Friend and said to my friend her dad did this! She wants to see him. I was shocked and in confusion somewhat. You guys must understand that if this was a smaller child that didn't understand this ordeal then I wouldn't want to ask anyone this question. I am not trying to be weird niether do I want to affect anyone in a negative way.

you got to understand...Hello again,

Oh, I understand. So do all these fine people. I understand that you "feel" he won't do it again, and I understand that he wants to come back home. I CLEARLY understand...

What YOU DON'T understand, is that the LAW, the COURTS and his PROBATION OFFICER will NEVER let that happen. So, it doesn't matter what any of you want.

That's as it should be.

excon

You have not answered if she has been in therapy.

How do you know that she does not want to see him to confront him over what he did to her?

Yes, we understand. We understand that molesters are master manipulators. He may have brainwashed her into believing that this is love and that this is what "Daddys" do. But it is not and she needs some INTENSE counseling. PERIOD.

This is sick, sick, sick. You need to teach her that what he did was wrong and that he doesn't love her.

Also YOU are the parent. You should be telling her that what he did was wrong and that because he hurt her he cannot see her again.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get her into some counseling. You can get low cost to no cost counseling through your town's mental health department or as J-9 pointed out on another post through a university's psychology program.

Your daugther IS old enough to tell you her feelings but NOT old enough to have been able to deal with the enormity of the situtation. Wait until she is an adult to see him or attempt to and get everyone in some sort of counseling!

I hate that you were upset about this issue, however please understand that my dauther is fourteen years old and she is old enough to tell me her feelings. we were at a store and I asked her "what's wrong"? she said "I want Daddy". Mind you this was a shock to me I went to my sister/Friend and said to my friend her dad did this !! she wants to see him. I was shocked and in confusion somewhat. you guys must understand that if this was a smaller child that didnt understand this ordeal then I wouldnt want to ask anyone this question. I am not trying to be weird niether do I want to affect anyone in a negitive way.
Lady you should have told her, daddy's do not molest their daughters. I love you too much to put in harms way, again. When you are an adult you may see him if you want. But for now it will be just me and your sisters. Tell her that is your job as a parent, doing what is best and safest for her.

Dear Turnera!

I am so sorry that you have had to go through this and then be attacked by all of these people when you were just looking for a sounding board. My ex husband molested his niece and my daughter. (5 times his niece, twice with my daughter) When his niece found out that he was going after my daughter she told me. I did all the right things, called social services and the police, divorced him after he went to jail. Supported my children in everyway I could. But what they don't realize is how much pain is caused to everyone. Not just the children. I was in court more than he was as I was question over and over to see if I had any knowledge of the events. I lost my husband, my income, and for a while my sanity. I can remember crying hysterically because I missed garbage day two weeks in a row, because that was something he always did. As devastated as I was upon hearing what he had done, sickened, I remember feeling relief because he was finally talking to me again and I knew what had been bothering him for so long. You are in a very vulnerable state right now and you need support too! Not attacks. But please listen to reason. 1) They don't help him in prison and he is still hiding from the truth and depth of his actions 2) When in rehab after his release is when he will finally be surrounded by others like him and truly see what he has done and hopefully start being honest about what led up to this. ( It's so hard to be truly honest when every one thinks you should just Die!) 3.) Most cases will not allow him to see his victim until they are 18 unless it is his own child She is a step child and this will not happen.
So you have to move on. Let the pain and anger out don't block it. (Years later I still hate my ex on some days) Go on with your life. Use the love you have for him to be his friend help him get through this, but not as his wife as a friend an honest one. Let him know when you are angry or sad so he can understand his actions. Tell the kids he is sick and needs help and he can't be around them for many many years. Don't get there hopes up falsely. As awful as this is it does get easier in time. My ex and I are still the best of friends, my daughter and his niece are grown and although both have emotional scars they are doing just fine. If I had given in to my desires ( and yes I did have some) to stay together I truly believe my daughter would have felt as thou I loved him more than her she would have had no respect for me and I would have had none for myself. Even now I am battling myself. Because I greatly desire to get back together with him after everything. The love has never died. But the children come first, they have too. And I desperately want to see my grandkids ,when I have some at my house, without risking them getting hurt or my daughter feeling uncomfortable. We can't always choose our path but we can make the best of it. You and your children are stronger than you think. Grow closer to them and God and the situation with your husband will turn out in it's own time if it was meant to be.

I'm going to take a different tack here. You have not answered the salient question here about why was he convicted and what did he actually do.

I would also ask how long ago this happened, how old was the victim and the other girls at the time? Why did the 14 year old, all of a sudden ask for daddy? Did she offer an explanation?

I fully understand the hard line taken by some of your other responses. While I don't disagree with it, I would like more info before I make a recommendation.

My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my dauther his stepdauther.
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesnt look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. what can we do?
This is just an opinion but if your daughter really wants to see him I think you should let them but just don't leave them completley alone with him. I know you believe in change and all that but you can never be too careful and I highly doubt you want the same thing or something worse to happen again (not saying it will but be careful its your decision)

Ppl screw up BIG time. Ppl also do time for it in some way. It's an issue of trust, and compassion. Your kids if 15 or up should make there own choices. But if he's sorry then let him see his kids. How would it be for you if u screwed up and then couldn't see your family again...

If you let her see this man, even if she claims to want to see him, she will hate you for it when she's older.

Here's the way I see it. You have been reminiscing about this monster in front of your kids, feeding crap to them about how he's changed, he loves them, he's their "daddy", he won't do it again. You may have told your kids that you prayed for him, he's found Jesus. I wouldn't be surprised if you have been telling your daughter Jesus wants her to forgive him. You may even be shaming her into thinking she has to forgive him. She knows it'll make YOU happy if she forgives him, so she pretends that she has so you will still love her. Am I warm? I know I am.

He ain't her daddy, he ain't her father, so stop calling him that.

I've seen this exact scenario play out over and over and over and over again with women who stay married to these slimey dregs of flesh that dare attempt to use the title "man."

You are manipulating that poor abused child into thinking she wants to forgive him. The fact that you don't look at this experience as "a painful experience any more" makes me sick to my stomach over the torment your little girl is going through and you don't even see or apparently care about. That fact that you are willing to split hairs over molestation versus rape says it all. How selfish can you be? Are you honestly willing to put your marriage to a depraved child molestor ahead of your flesh and blood's emotional well being? Real good parenting there!

I have no sympathy for you, but I pray for your three daughters.

This girl nailed it right on the head!

If they want to see him then let them but make sure they are not alone with him because when you do something like he did you may believe you are a changed person but most likely you will still have the same urges you did before. So if you let him see them remember that because no one has the right to be hurt in anyway and not letting him see them is probably going to hurt him. Be careful. Best of Luck

My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my dauther his stepdauther.
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesnt look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. what can we do?
First I would make sure tha tthere was always someone with when he is around her , because sex offenders have a sickness and may not be able to stop themselves.
The courts may issue visitation with a social worker, which I feel would be the best solution.
If he gos to counseling and swears never to violate her again, Don't take the risk!
Have someone their at all times! People can change but more than often they don't.
I bet he was also violated as a child, it's a vicious cycle, don't let it continue on to your children.

There are afew questions you have not answered, what was he convicted of? And Have your children been to counseling for this? Without those answers I can only believe you are not totally forthcoming and can only give an emotional reply and not an informed opinion. So you keep him away from the kids until they are adults, and can protect themselves.

GoldieMae disagrees: You are advising her to break the law.
J_9 disagrees: I can't believe you suggested this!!!

Get over it, people screw up... if we all hated them for it and punished them for it for the remander of their lives... who would really be hurt by it? Kids need their parents, and by the way I never suggested that they should be ALONE with him. The mom should be around. Just kind of sad that when a person messes up they have to do time for it for the rest of their life.. not only in this situation, but in many others. And I NEVER suggested breaking the law, lol. Read between the lines here, if the law allows him to see his kids even behind glass or a padded room that's better then nothing. Too many people in the world believe once a bad guy always one. Ppl can change and time, or else what can I say they screwed.

GoldieMae disagrees: You are advising her to break the law.
J_9 disagrees: I can't believe you suggested this!!!

Get over it, ppl screw up...if we all hated them for it and punished them for it for the remander of their lives...who would really be hurt by it? Kids need their parents, and by the way i never suggested that they should be ALONE with him. The mom should be around. Just kinda sad that when a person messes up they have to do time for it for the rest of their life..not only in this situation, but in many others. And i NEVER suggested breaking the law, lol. Read between the lines here, if the law allows him to see his kids even behind glass or a padded room thats better then nothing. Too many ppl in the world believe once a bad guy always one. Ppl can change n time, or else what can i say they screwed.


Do you have any experience or knowledge of sexual offenders?

GoldieMae disagrees: You are advising her to break the law.
J_9 disagrees: I can't believe you suggested this!!!

Get over it, ppl screw up...if we all hated them for it and punished them for it for the remander of their lives...who would really be hurt by it? Kids need their parents, and by the way i never suggested that they should be ALONE with him. The mom should be around. Just kinda sad that when a person messes up they have to do time for it for the rest of their life..not only in this situation, but in many others. And i NEVER suggested breaking the law, lol. Read between the lines here, if the law allows him to see his kids even behind glass or a padded room thats better then nothing. Too many ppl in the world believe once a bad guy always one. Ppl can change n time, or else what can i say they screwed.

I'm sure your attitude will change when you have children.

I hate that you were upset about this issue, however please understand that my dauther is fourteen years old and she is old enough to tell me her feelings. we were at a store and I asked her "what's wrong"? she said "I want Daddy". Mind you this was a shock to me I went to my sister/Friend and said to my friend her dad did this !! she wants to see him. I was shocked and in confusion somewhat. you guys must understand that if this was a smaller child that didnt understand this ordeal then I wouldnt want to ask anyone this question. I am not trying to be weird niether do I want to affect anyone in a negitive way.


I was molested as a child by my biological father from age 3 to 12. I hate to tell you this but it is true that she is trying to make you happy. Please understand that she is confused and probably does love him, but you are the mother and must do the right thing and protect her. My mother let my father stay in the house after, although the abuse stopped you can not believe how uncomfortable it was. I am now 43 and still in counceling for this. Amazingly not because of my fathers abuse but my mothers lack of protection after learning about the abuse. I still can't understand how she could sleep with a man that molested her child. The only thing your daughter will learn if you let him back is that it was easier for you to let him come back and that my dear is sicker than what he did!! :

Do you have any experience or knowledge of sexual offenders?


You must be a child molester yourself to say that.

Dear Turnera!

I am so sorry that you have had to go through this and then be attacked by all of these people when you were just looking for a sounding board. My ex husband molested his niece and my daughter. (5 times his niece, twice with my daughter) When his niece found out that he was going after my daughter she told me. I did all the right things, called social services and the police, divorced him after he went to jail. Supported my children in everyway I could. But what they don't realize is how much pain is caused to everyone. Not just the children. I was in court more than he was as I was question over and over to see if I had any knowledge of the events. I lost my husband, my income, and for a while my sanity. I can remember crying hysterically because I missed garbage day two weeks in a row, because that was something he always did. As devastated as I was upon hearing what he had done, sickened, I remember feeling relief because he was finally talking to me again and I knew what had been bothering him for so long. You are in a very vulnerable state right now and you need support too! Not attacks. But please listen to reason. 1) They don't help him in prison and he is still hiding from the truth and depth of his actions 2) When in rehab after his release is when he will finally be surrounded by others like him and truly see what he has done and hopefully start being honest about what led up to this. ( It's so hard to be truly honest when every one thinks you should just Die!) 3.) Most cases will not allow him to see his victim until they are 18 unless it is his own child She is a step child and this will not happen.
So you have to move on. Let the pain and anger out don't block it. (Years later I still hate my ex on some days) Go on with your life. Use the love you have for him to be his friend help him get through this, but not as his wife as a friend an honest one. Let him know when you are angry or sad so he can understand his actions. Tell the kids he is sick and needs help and he can't be around them for many many years. Don't get there hopes up falsely. As awful as this is it does get easier in time. My ex and I are still the best of friends, my daughter and his niece are grown and although both have emotional scars they are doing just fine. If I had given in to my desires ( and yes I did have some) to stay together I truly believe my daughter would have felt as thou I loved him more than her she would have had no respect for me and I would have had none for myself. Even now I am battling myself. Because I greatly desire to get back together with him after everything. The love has never died. But the children come first, they have too. And I desperately want to see my grandkids ,when I have some at my house, without risking them getting hurt or my daughter feeling uncomfortable. We can't always choose our path but we can make the best of it. You and your children are stronger than you think. Grow closer to them and God and the situation with your husband will turn out in it's own time if it was meant to be.


Bravo to you to do the right thing instead of the easy thing. You daughter is truly blessed to have you as a mom. I was molested as a child and my mom took the easy way out and let him stay. You are right she would have felt like you loved him more because that is how i feel to this day and i am in my 40's. God bless you.

Hope I have a friend that was molested by her step father. Yes, her mother stayed. She feels the same way you do. I know how my friend suffered. My heart goes out to you.

Ok folks. The OP posted this on 8/9 and posted some responses on 8/10. She hasn't posted since. I don't know if she's been put off or what. But I suggest stopping this until she comes back with some more info. There has been too much speculation and knee jerk reactions here In my opinion.

As a parent and a mother of three girls I strongly encourage you to think carefully about what you are saying or about to do. This person hurt your baby and take away her innocence.Trust me she will always remember it .By the way did you get counseling for her. I hope you put all your effort and love into her.Wish you the best.

MY EX, THE FATHER OF MY DAUGHTER IS ALSO A CHILD MOLESTER.
I would say, you need to start by having him psychologically evaluated to PROVE he is not at risk to offend again. I am all for forgiveness and trust, just don't be foolish about it. If he won't be evaluated there must be a reason. Your daughter (the victim) may not realize what she's getting herself into. She may want him back because he is her dad, no other reason that our society says that children need a father in their life. With a child molester, they "brain wash" the victim into believing the offense is what they want too, as opposed to rape where the victim says no and gets something anyway. I do wonder if your daughter has had couceling to deal with the issue of trusting someone and being betrayed so thourouly. I know as someone who was sexually abused that I still feel it was my fault, she may be forgiving him out of guilt. It sounds crazy to forgive your abuser because you feel guilty about it, but I was there personally so give it a try and see... But PLEASE have the man psychologically evaluated.

If u let that man near your kids again... you'll deserve to get them taken away from you. You won't do nothing but let them suffer again and again. What u have to realize is that when a man is once a molester he'll always be a molester. They'll never change what they enjoy doing to little kids. That's sick. He need to be in jail and stay in jail because if he keeps walking free he could molest more girls

if u let that man near your kids again...you'll deserve to get them taken away from you. you wont do nothing but let them suffer again and again. what u have to realize is that when a man is once a molester he'll always be a molester. they'll never change what they enjoy doing to little kids. thats sick. he need to be in jail and stay in jail because if he keeps walking free he could molest more girls

Please pay attention to post dates. This was posted in August... I'm sure the OP made her decision as she stopped posting.