Hey I an 18y.o gay male and a virgin and I want to know how I can stop being so easily aroused. Whenever I'm even just pulling/kissing a guy I get a full erection and its even wet. There is then a wet patch on my jeans. Even when I try thinking of different things it won't go away! Its really embarrassing walking round a club trying to hide this wet patch. How do I stop being so easily aroused? If I have sex will it stop? Please its ssoo emabrrasing, please help

Hello.

The problem is you're a 18 year old that thinks with his lower head more then his upper one hehehe... Don't worry we all do it but in time you will learn to control your excitement. If you know your going out you can jerk off first so your not as horny but that will only last a short time before your ready for action. You might try a thicker underwear that will keep the wetness away from your jeans.

Dennis777

I was 17 and often walked home from my gf's house with that condition. I look back at that time as a time of growing up and becoming a man. Not sure how you could cover up the evidence, but I certainly wouldn't worry about it. Hope you're not.

Well, I get the same problem. But I am 19... and I've been trying to control myself for weeks now and haven't seen any improvement's... does it just come all of a sudden?? Or does it improve thorugh stages...

Thanks

18 year old guys in general are easy to arouse. It's the hormone thing. Gay or straight it's the same. Try going to tighty whities (cotton briefs) and avoid thin materials or boxers. It worked for me at that stage. Just pack willy the one eyed wonder snake downward and the shorts keep it in a position that's hard to get hard... pun intended. Pack it upwards or sideways its easier get get in the embarrassing state, downwards and you'll find it won't get erect.

@ smoothy sounds like a good idea but aren't breifs like anoying and uncomfortable and also embarrassing for your girlfriend to see, not sure how it would look for your boyfriend if you are gay :S

@ smoothy sounds like a good idea but arent breifs like anoying and uncomfortable and also embarrasing for your girlfriend to see, not sure how it would look for your boyfriend if you are gay :S

Not at all, I think more guys wear breifs than wear boxers... and they are easier to find than boxers are as well. Any place that sells clothes has them. Hell you even have the low rise and the bikini type that will work just as well if you prefer that look, even thongs are available for men in the major stores by the same manufacturers. Actually anything BUT boxers work for this.

Like I said, I dealt with that as well when I was younger. Never wore boxers for that reason. And I find this method is 100% effective. Curl it downward and while you may get excited it may try to stiffen, but in that position its not going to, and its not an uncomfortable position either, therefore you eliminate the embarrassing stiffy in public.

More guys do wear briiefs than boxers... I think there is a topic about this somewhere.

Anyway, recently (90s) boxer briefs were invented. These are not as uncool as briefs, and will keep your junk in check. Try some out.

Well I do have a few pear's but never wear them when I'm visiting the girlfriend cause I think its embarrssing don't know what she will think :S

well i do have a few pear's but never wear them when im visiting the girlfriend cause i think its embarrssing dont know what she will think :S

Why would she think anything... odds are if she's been with anyone else they wore briefs... and odds are if you split up she's end up with a guy who wore briefs. There are plenty that are not white and definitely not what your father might wear. SO you can have those and not have something your father or grandfather would wear. As in the standard white Fruit of the loom undies.

I don't wear Boxers for example... I don't like them feels like I'm wearing pajamas under my clothes. But I don't wear the standard tighty whities either.

Check out Ebay for some examples.

Well, I've slept at hers many of times and wear boxer's so it will be kind of strange apearin with breifs and also what would her mum say when am walking about in my breifs cause I don't usually wear bathrobe or jamys

Try boxer-briefs. They're like boxers but tighter.

Sounds a bit better of an option will have to get some of them, but would have to be a rather smaller size so that they would be tight right??

Not really, boxers are just big for their size anyway.

Not sure about Boxer briefs... never wore them, if they allow your "package" to go anywhere but down like regular briefs will hold it they may not work. Following your leg won't achieve the intended results.

If you pack it down, arousal will hurt, but get a jock strap, and not only get support, but will insulate against your jeans as well.

Get a what strap? What might this be?

I have seen guys in boxer briefs and I believe they will achieve the same affect Smoothy was talking about with the briefs. Just get a little bit of a tighter pair.

A tighter pair meaning a smaller size so they fit tight?

Either get a smaller size or I know they make some out of different kinds of fabric than cotton that have a snugger fit. You might try those too. Just don't get a pair so tight that you are uncomfortable all the time.

Hey guys thanks for leaving answers, this is helping me and obviously flexel an aweful lot. Glad to know I'm not the only guy with this problem. Im sure I have boxer briefs around here somewhere lol so I will defo wear them. Thanks again people. Now a jockstrap, can you actually buy them in other places and not just america, like the UK? Lol. Because I might try that too.

Sport shops, as they are really athletic supporters for playing sports, but they work in all situations.

@cloud I don't beleave anyone who say they don't experance this or don't have problems we are all the same we go through same things different stages and length of times but yea thanks all for the help and tips... once again I can't sat I know what a jockstrap actually is I've heard of it many of times and proberly do know what it is... but not by its name :S:S

Thanks

To me jock straps would not do the job... They didn't provide just the right type of support for this. But its possible it would work for others.

As far as what a jock strap is... think of it as a thong that doesn't have the single rear strap but two that come around the side. Sort of like a brief without the rear panel. But typically they are cut in a certain manner to hold an athletic cup. Which if you don't know is like a helmet for the family jewels.

I have seen guys in jock straps before and honestlly, they are not the most attractive articles of clothing. The two straps that wrap around the sides just look odd and you will have a lot of extra room in the front where the cup usually goes so it will defeat the entire purpose of it being tighter there. My advice would be to stick with the boxer briefs or regular briefs. ;)

OK, so we are still sticking with these briefs or boxer brief's am going to have to get myself a pair as I cnat find anything of the sort in my drewer's so will have to get some pairs..

Thanks for the information and help guys!!

But is there no way I can traing this arousal as in learning to stop it or nothing... I can control it for so long but if girlfriend touch's me in right spot or touch's my turn on parts bam it goes??

margarita_momma, I have seen guys in jock straps before and honestlly, they are not the most attractive articles of clothing.
Jock straps are for protection and support, not fashion and are worn beneath you draws. Only you know your wearing them.
The two straps that wrap around the sides just look odd and you will have a lot of extra room in the front where the cup usually goes so it will defeat the entire purpose of it being tighter there.
Trust me, tight around this sensitive area can be painful, the jock supports the ball sack, so when you get a woodie its always up, and not stuck down a leg, where standing will hurt like a mofo.
My advice would be to stick with the boxer briefs or regular briefs. ;)
Sorry they don't make 'em like that. Don't take this personaly, but I couldn't resist as I know that you have no experience carry a load around all day, especially one that shifts from time to time, unexpectantly. As a fellow gets older his control improves a lot, and he can avoid the pain and embarrasment, of walking around with an erection. :eek:

If you pack it down, arousal will hurt, but get a jock strap, and not only get support, but will insulate against your jeans as well.

The reason I said its not very attractive is because you are suggesting they wear it when the go out or when they are with their bf/gf. I am just saying from a woman's perspective, if I was about get frisky with a guy and he takes his pant off and he is sporting a jock strap, I would think that is a little weird.

Trust me, tight around this sensitive area can be painful, the jock supports the ball sack, so when you get a woodie its always up, and not stuck down a leg, where standing will hurt like a mofo.

Sorry they don't make 'em like that. Don't take this personaly, but I couldn't resist as I know that you have no experience carry a load around all day, especially one that shifts from time to time, unexpectantly. As a fellow gets older his control improves a lot, and he can avoid the pain and embarrasment, of walking around with an erection.

I know that I have no experience carrying a load and I imagine it would hurt for a guy to be wearing tighter undies all day. I just thought maybe briefs would be better because they are more attracting looking. I know this may sound like a stupid question but, can't guys pull it upwards if they are wearing snugger briefs instead of letting it trail down their leg? LOL. This might be a really uncomfortable position but I have seen some guys wear it like that when they get hard and its a lot less noticeable. I could be way off! :o

No your not, as older guys do make adjustments, but a jock helps when it would be embarrassing for a young guy to have a woodie, as in church or school. You just never know. LOL.

Actually briefs cradle it like you hand would, and as far as I'm concerned its not in the least bit uncomfortable, I'm 45 and did this since high school, and yeah if I see a hot lady at the beach it still tries to do its own thing.. We aren't talking strapping it down like Transvestites do. But simply pointing it downward and gently cradling it with briefs since that's a difficult position for it to become erect in... and in fact is impossible if its in the right position. If you pull it upwards there is nothing to keep it from getting hard if you are the young easily excitable type. He is and I was as well at that age till I figured it out in high school... trust me few guys want that to happen in public. Unless they are hung like an Anaconda that is. And those tend to be the guys that strut around and rub it in.

Hey quick little add into this first your right about the boxer briefs they fit good and willie tucks down nicely. I can have a full erection and still hardly see it though my pants when he's tucked away. Nobody is out there wearing cowboy pant that are plastered on. Box briefs are great.

The solution to the problem may also solve the problem as a whole. I use to wear boxers until I ran into the same problem I started wearing boxer briefs it went away. So I returned to my boxers (for only one day), it happened again. So I sat down and found at what the problem was. It's those dang silky soft boxers that rub justa little and my 17 years old brain would start reeling and bam. Full erection smashed up against the top of the school desk. Who was talking about uncomfortable? Try the penis on the bottom of the desk thing, that is torture.

Ok to sum it up.

Problem: Soft boxers and horny minds

Solution: Box brief <--- Once you so brief, it's such a relief (hheh I just made that up)