Hey.. I'm 12 but I act 16. I stay out late, lie, stuff with my boyfriend, and all that.. I grew up with no mom.. a dad and his girlfriend-S. and I used to stay home all night by myself with a razor.. if you know what I mean. I said bad stuff to my boyfriend on text and I think my dad seen them.. and I hadn't talked to him in a while.. should I call him? Oh and if anyone will give me advice about how I act please do.:( :( :confused: :confused:

Wow.
That sucks what would you text your boyfriend?

I know how that feels I am 13 but I don't feel like a 13 year old.
I am real mature.
Everyone tells me that.
It sucks to be mature because you pretty much have no childhood.
:(
But life always has its ups and downs.

I text my boyfriend like bad stuff. Unno?

Well.
I don't text people.
But if you are texting him bad stuff then maybe you truly don't want to be with him.

Oh.
Uh.
What did he think about it?

Please give me advice! I can't take it! Please!! I'm so depressed not knowing what to do!

Please find someone to talk to about all of the things that are going on in your life. You need to find an adult you can trust who can help you. You got dealt a really yucky hand in this life love, there are two things you can do fall and wallow or stand and fight. God would not have put you in this situation without a purpose. I personally believe that children who are placed in difficult situation are because they are supposed to be like a phoenix, you know rise up from the ashes for greatness.

I know it hurts when the people who are supposed to love you and always be there for you are not. Your story breaks my heart so badly. I know how hard it can be to not have someone who you need to be there for you when you are growing up. My only regret as a child was that I tried to deal with everything by myself. I tried to stay tough and not show anyone how sad or hurt I was on the inside. It led to a really bad teenage years and a tough, hard road for me. My wish is for you to not go through with that.

I don't want to see you close off your heart. You seem like such a sweet girl who just needs someone to pull her out of this mess. If you don't tell anyone what's going on no one can throw you a lifesaver here. Please tell an adult you trust what's going on and how you know you need someone to help you. I want you to feel better and I want things to be better in your life. I have faith in you dolly, you can get through this life. God never gives you more then you can handle sometimes it feels like its too much but I know you have so much strength and so much good and light inside of you.

I know at your age it may be tough to talk to and trust adults, and you are more likely to want to trust your friends. However, this is something you need to talk to an adult about, because they are going to know how to help you. Do you have a school social worker, counselor, or psychologist? They will respect your confindentiality and will be able to help you find some resources, or just be there to listen. Otherwise maybe you could talk to a minister.

When you are 13, there are massive changes taking place in your brain- without going into a whole lot of boring scientific stuff, I will just say that it is very NORMAL to have a lot of strong emotions (and emotions that change often), AND the part of your brain that is supposed to regulate emotions and control impulses is "under construction", so basically you are being bombarded with all kinds of intense emotions at a time when your brain isn't actually ready to handle them! My point in all of this is that a) you are NOT alone in feeling like this b) there is nothing "wrong" with you and there is no shame in asking for some guidance and c) guidance should come from an adult, who can help you get those feelings under control a little better than your peers can

thankx guys... only one prob- I don't trust anyone in this world becides you guyz especially glindaofoz and learningasigo.. they really helped me. but so did everyone else.. don't take it personally.

does anyone know the band three days grace? Well their songs is how I feel... ALL OF THEM! And it hurts. It hurts so bad.
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Do you have a school counselor who you could go talk to? They are there to help you out of situations like this and give you guidance and help. They are there to help you not feel alone. I guess school is still out for you so that might be hard. But please open up to someone who can directly affect your life.

We can give you guidance but we cannot do anything concrete since we are out here in cyberworld and not in your day to day life.

I want you to remember that you are not your parents. You are your own special person. You don't have to make the mistakes that they have made. In fact you now know what not to do in your life because you've seen the tragic results of abusing drugs.

I want you to slow down things with your boyfriend and remember you are still so young. You have so many years standing in front of you. Please do not be afraid to reach out to someone in your school who can help. I know its hard to trust, but believe me you will find out when you reach out to those trained to help in these situations that you will get help. Don't let your parents shut you down... you can trust and love. Think of it as being the exact opposite of what they have done. If you keep your heart big and full of love and are able to reach out to people you will be rewarded with so much love in this life.

thankx glindaoz. I don't really know how old you are but I wish you were my mom!

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thankx glindaoz. i dont really know how old you are but i wish you were my mom!

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BTW I'm 28 and I'll always be more then happy to give you advice. Keep your head up and be good to yourself. Know that you cannot control anything but how you act in this world. You have so much good in you and you should not worry about letting it out. :)

Thanks you really helped me see that.

Love you! :*

You might αct like α 16 yeαr old but you αren't your psychologicαl self isn't α 16 yeαr old-- your brαin still hαsn't mαtured to thαt level.. it isn't α wise choice to be sexuαlly αctive αnd stαy up αll night with your boyfriend/friends (how old is he mαy I αsk?) αnd to cut yourself- I certαinly hope you tαlked to someone αbout it; your dαd, teαcher, guidαnce councilor, αunt/ uncle, cousin... etc.

I don't wαnt to scold you but seeming αs your mother isn't there or your fαther hαs αny pαrenting involved in your life [jumping from relαtionships, letting you go out so lαte- everyone knows nothing good hαppens αfter 11 especiαlly for α youngin like yourself].. you need proper guidαnce discuss it with your fαther- he'll listen αfterαll you αre his dαughter.

αnd this boy problem of yours : tell him your sorry αbout the meαn text if he αnswers the phone if not leαve α messαge telling him your sorry αnd leαve it like thαt-- don't keep cαlling or leαve αnother 10 messαges.. it'll be his choice to cαll you bαck

Good luck girlie<3

Okay.. how the heak can i talk to my dad if he is high! God! Oh and the taxt wasn't mean it was sexual and he liked it!

Isn't there αn αdult you cαn tαlk to?

bαd things hαppen becαuse of poor choices-- your obviously not sαtisfied with your results so chαnge whαt your doing by being more responsible- show your dαd thαt you cαn be more responsible thαn him!-- goodness there αre plenty of people out there with broken homes who succeed in life αnd you could be one of them if you stop mαking poor choices.

OK WHATEVER KNOW IT ALL!
Jk. Its fine I'm all right now sorry about the breakdown I had totally unecceptable

I've read a lot of your posts now and quite simply you need help! Your lifes a mess your boyfriend is rotten your parents are not in the picture to put it nicley your g-ma has parkinsins and you do things you shouldn't. If you love yourself and if you don't like how your life is, and if you don't want to be doing what your doing right now call someone, 1-800-668-6868 is a kids help phone they can help you a lot my step mom worked for them and she's an awsome person to talk to. There might be help lines like that where you live or like someone mentioned before a big sister big brother program, or even hun if you want to prevent yourself from being in any situation you are in now call child and family services and get yourself into a foster home or something to have change you must make it. Were your headed is not good, drugs, sex, homeless-ness, abusive bf's with your history, scars from childhood, suside. GET HELP !

I'm not sure but for some reαson I hαve αn eerie feeling this is αll just α gαme to you-- either α your bipolαr αnd your mood swings chαnge every 2 min or this is some sort of hoαx

OK I'm not playing with you guys... why woulfd I do that its not right and I wouldn't lie about something like this when I really need help..

Ok people get it right i did NOT try to commit suicide!

Just your mood certαinly chαnges- if this is true then I'm sorry I doubted you

Its Fine You Didn't Do Anything I Can See Why You Thought That..

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Hi hun,
Glad to hear my words hit your heart :)

You remind me of ME and some friends I had in school. When I had bad things like this, I don't really know how I found my way out~ but I did because I knew there was a way! Like others have said, you'll have to trust an adult to help you. It may seem weird right now, but there is someone nearby that can help. Sometimes I even found friends in my mom's boyfriends or my cousins, even one or two teachers. Its nice to sit down and talk with someone about your art, hobbies, music, etc. If you start that way, it becomes easier and easier to start talking to them about bigger things, like what's going on. KWIM? EVERYONE struggles at some point in their life, so you're not alone.. I bet you have teachers who had a childhood like you!

I want you to find something that feels good without being bad. No cutting, or sexual things with your boyfriend. (same guy who talks down to you? HOPE NOT!) Try art or writing (if you don't already). When I didn't have money, I would find chalk and draw on the sidewalk or even the side of buildings. I would write poetry and letters to people. I never liked to keep a journal, but I would write a letter to someone I was mad at to VENT, then tear it up so they'd never see it, and let it blow away in the wind. It sounds cheesy, but it was amazing how much better I felt afterward.

I just had to make up my mind that I was going to have a better life than my parents and they weren't allowed to tear me down.

That's what you need to do. You're a smart kid and you can accomplish any goal you set your mind to! No one can hold you down but you. Just remember that you can have a good life without hurt and abuse, but since you're still so young, you need an adult to help you right now. You can do this.

Thinking of you... <3

Its funny a lot of people say that you remind them of themselves, take it as something awsome if people can see there heart ache and troubles in you and then realise where they are now and there doing so good they overcame it , which means you will too takes the steps you have to get where you want to!

Thanks lotz..

I do write poems! A lot!

Here's one

Do I love him
How do I know
Is there any love left for me to show
How can I find my heart
I thought I loved him from the start
Mow I'm just confused
Not knowing what to do
There has to be a way
Should I let him go
Or should I let him stay
Right now I don't even know
If he stays with me he'll never be able to see
And he-ll always be lost
My heart is what I have to find
And now I finally made up my mind
I'm going to let him go
But it doesn't matter anymore
Because love is something I don't know how to show
The memories I will miss a lot
I guess I will never know if I loved him or not...


So do you like it? Depressing huh? I have more but yeah

Kind of depressing but a good healing process

Yeah...

Here's a little bit of knowledge for you kiddo, love is not supposed to hurt or make you feel sad. If a boy makes you sad more then he makes you happy then he is not a good guy and you should let go.

Yeah... I know but he's addicting I don't know how or why though he just iz unno?

Should I still be hiz friend? Is kind of hard to let go because he understands me and knows me better than I know myself, we've been together for a little over a year now..

So itz not so easy.. :(
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I know but its probably like that for you because you don't get a lot of love and attention at home. But know that yo deserve to be treated well and when he treats you badly or tries to pressure you into anything know that you deserve better because you are worth more then that

Omfg! I can't take it he said "rachael im sorry i know im a bad boyfriend and you dont desearve to be called names and be treated badly and your too good for me"

That broke my heart to here him say that! I need him in my life and I think he truly does care but I understand that it gets hard sometimes so maybe I should give gim a break?

You should tell him that he is on probation and that if he is mean to you or calls your names he is gone and you need to stick to that. You deserve to have someone treat you well all the time not just apologize for treating you bad.

Tell me he must start being nice to you. You have a right to ask for that.

Hun, I hope you're listening to Glinda because she has some rockin' good advice.

When he says he's sorry, its nice to hear. Like Glinda said, you have to put him on probation and stick to it. I'm worried that he'll keep doing rotten things and keep aplogizing so you'll keep taking his abuse. You're young and you have lots of opportunities in life that haven't even found you yet... you don't have to stick by anyone who doesn't treat you right.

Your boyfriend shouldn't be someone who makes life harder for you. You have enough problems with your family... friends and boyfriends should be there to support you, not tear you down in anyway. Remember, you have the right to choose friends/boyfriends. If any of them are bad, they aren't worthy of being part of your life.

Well sometimes you need to talk with someone you don't know someone who won't judge you OK

Ally

SO... thts means I should talk to someone who doesn't judge me? Huh?