I found out that my husband of eight years whom I would have given a lung to in a heartbeat has cheated the entire while. I have kids I can't end it all BUT I really have an ache in my heart AND now throwing up and diahreah. I am sick to mt gut literally . I threw him out. WHY did he cheat when I was so good and sacraficing?? Ps I can't trust him he cheated he's out and it hurts but I just can't ever trust again or forgive.

I'm sorry for your situation what a damn pig he is. You did the right thing throwing him out. It will take a while to mend your broken heart. Find comfort within your family and friends.

Thank you jrb I only have my kids and a brother that is estranged from me for marrying HIM that pig. OMG I said to him what about diseases and he said nonchalantly That's what the rubber in my pockets for... the pigs the 'sckeeves"

It's time for you to kick him out of the house.
Once u have all the evidence of he is cheating on you make sure you do it rationally.
No scream, crying, yelling...
All u need to do is packing his language, leaving it at the door don't ever talk to him.
Silence can be the most powerful weapon!!
He is not worth of talking to any more!
Sorry again I hope u feel better.

Thank you. He's OUT for GOOD but I am SO SICK LITERALLY the neighbors he 'had sex with over 12 of them omg all these yrs those women pretending to be my friends. Dam he cheated on his first one too. Im a dumb bell.

What a worthless POS (piece of sh*t) he is. I'm sure your kids will help you get through and when more of the ladies come on and read this you will get plenty of support from all of us.

Jaxie, I am sorry that he cheated. I thought you to have been broken up for a while now. And you had moved away.

Did you just find out?

I know what you are going through - first hand. It is awful. I think the sickness comes from the stress. I couldn't eat and when I did - I threw up. I felt like the world was on my shoulders. It gets better. I promise.

Just found out. Oh thank you to those helping me. Im sick.

That just sucks. You have invested so much of your time with this man. And from your previous posts - he has not made it easy on you. Now this.

DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. You are not Dumb. You were in love. Not the same thing.
I know that you want to question what YOU did wrong. Sister, you didn't do anything wrong. It is ALL HIM! Know that, believe that! You have put up with more crap from this guy than any person should or would. You gave 100%. He didn't. It is his loss - NOT YOURS!

What a worthless POS (piece of sh*t) he is. I'm sure your kids will help you get through and when more of the ladies come on and read this you will get plenty of support from all of us.

Thank you yes he is a POS but to my heart he was everything to me kids are older now thank God I have them. AND they are froom my first marriage when I HURT my first hubby and he said its OK TIME is an AVENGER I just called him and told him he was right but I didn't have SEX!

I would run a hot bath, light some candles, put on some music and try to relax (which I understand will be hard to do). This guy isn't worth getting sick over.

I admit I thought about drinking and stuff but I can't the kids you know? How do I get out of my head??

May I add I suffer from depression for 22 yrs panic disorder and attacks and he knows that

Time will have to take care of that... maybe your kids can stay at a friends house so you can have time to let some stress go. I would really try to avoid the drinking it will only make you sadder and you don't want that.

jaxie agrees: Silence can be the most powerful weapon!! Yup I didn't even shed a tear till he left

Very good! Just like that! Proud of you!
Did u say he cheated on you with 12 women? I am really sorry about it Jaxie.
U go ahead find out who are those women then tell their husbands see what they say!
They need to be punished TOO

Sister, you didn't do anything wrong. It is ALL HIM! Know that, believe that! You have put up with more crap from this guy than any person should or would. You gave 100%. He didn't. It is his loss - NOT YOURS! [/QUOTE]

THANK YOU HUN

Well, let's see if I can give you a pep talk :) Those pearls of wisdom that are easier said than done - but here goes.

He has hurt you for so long. Don't let it continue. Make up your mind RIGHT NOW that you will NO LONGER be the victim. This man can not hurt you anymore. You have to be strong. You are better than this. You deserve better. You are worth more. You will get through this. You have no other choice. You will not resort to self medicating. You will not let this man ruin you. You ARE NOT A VICTIM.. You are a SURVIVOR.

Very good! Just like that!!Proud of you!
Did u say he cheated on you with 12 women? I am really sorry about it Jaxie.
U go ahead find out who are those women then tell their husbands see what they say!!
They need to be punished TOO

Twelve that I KNOW OF I AM A LOSER

I KNOW hun but I want to get out of my head right now but cant

Okay you go tell their husbands,
U don't need to put up with it, they are not your friends any more!
U need to do something, cause and effect, those whores deserve it .
THey will blame your husband more than blaming you if they find out you tell their husbands! And their husband will be angry at those whores!

why in hell do I want to hurt MYSELF>?

So, you get out of your head (as you put it) - the problem will still be there and you will have a headache on top of everything else when you come back. It's not worth it. Don't let this situation ruin you.
YOU ARE NOT THE LOSER!!

No need to raise your voice, cry or fight in front them
Be firm and use your wisdom

I was so nice to them NOW they SEE he is free oh God now he will be in whore heaven

Yeah and he will also be in STD hell as well. Focus your energy on what is important... You and your kids. He will realize he lost the best thing he ever had.

OMG! I just found a bag of cocaine in his closet Im calling the cops OR should I WAIT for his coke whores to tell him to go back and get it. HOW DARE HE with kids here. son of a BEOTCH as my girl says

Yeah and he will also be in STD hell as well. Focus your energy on what is important...You and your kids. He will realize he lost the best thing he ever had.

God forgive me I said I hope the rubber BREAKS!! :mad:

It might be hard to prove it is his... I'm not sure what to tell you about that. I would probably flush it or call the police department and see what they say

I would flush it away. Get rid of it.

I FLUSHED it cause HE might have LIED and I Don't WANT THAT here

I just talked to the next door whore brrenda. She said "well you just didn't have what it took so I TOLD HER SHE wasn't the only one now her? FOUR kids FOUR different guys NO husband OR boyfriend. Now the other one sally.. her hubby said he knew but for the kids sake he stayed

He made a total a$$ of me I have to move now I don't want to be here I pleased him I did all he wanted so why did he do it?

With a chronic cheater - what good does it do to get into battle with all these women? They obviously don't feel bad about it. You aren't going to get any satisfaction from confronting them.

It would be best to get away from that scum. Your neighbor brenda sounds like a real winner there. You are so above all this crap you are going through.

OMG he was with 2 of them at the same timel Im hurt so bad thanks for being here

Let it go you are torturing yourself with this. Don't waste your time with all of these losers.

Just found out from my friend kathy her daughter was with him while I was away she's 22 he is 48. Son of a beotch the more I hear the sicker I get and kathy said she didn't tell because she was afraid I would end our friendship over her daughter with her 3 kids at 22. I told kathy its not her fault then kathy told me he also laid carol.

It would be best to get away from that scum. Your neighbor brenda sounds like a real winner there. You are so above all this crap you are going through. thank you

You should treat it like he is dead to you. Get all the stuff that reminds you of him out.

You should treat it like he is dead to you. Get all the stuff that reminds you of him out.
I don't know why they won't let me rate people anyway he sent a tex message to me where are you I replied with a real man . Thank You.

Don't even answer him. Block his number. He hurt you so many times don't give him any more satisfaction from seeing.g you hurt over this

Trust me, the heartache does mend in time. If the physical symptoms don't abate? Get yourself checked out k? You don't know who or what he was with.

I'm so sorry for what you are going through, my heart was broken once and I could'nt manage the pain well so the nausea starts and I felt drowsy and tired all the time, I began to lose track of time , my brain did'nt fuction well anymore and it actually made my heart stopped beating for a few seconds, I was a mess. Please go see a docter. Marily...

If I were you, I'd go to the doc and get tested to make sure that vicious lying turd didn't pass anything on to you.

I'm sorry he was such a scoundrel toward you. What an @$$! Good luck to you, I know it can't be easy. :(

You did the right thing. Just try to focus on you and your kids, and on healing yourself.

Thank you ALL will do. Love hurts but I guess it doesn't when its REAL LOVE?

Boy this is one hellova way to lose weight when I can't afford to lose an ounce

Hi Jaxie, how are you feeling?
I am so sorry what has happened to you.
U know that night you posted your case, I was so mad, I couldn't even fall asleep myself.
That SOB( I don't curse, but I must to him! )
I am thinking if there is a way to sue him, I think he is way too ridiculous!
12 women! Have you told their husbands or bfs?
Get all of them to the court and your kids, sue the SOB...

Stumbled upon this accidentally... m sorry and I know what yr going through now... hope everything is all right... 4 years right...