My name is ryan I am 14 and I am straight but when I see a guy I automically say he's cute or he's ugly. Is is I was born gay and won't accept it or what.Please help I am really confused:confused:

Well I know how you feel and I am wondering I am going through a phase or not (Read Below). I found these questions on a link, I believe they are valid as this is what my health teacher once told me.

Am I Gay?

'I'm very confused, just recently I've started to notice that I'm having feelings for my mates. I've had quite a few girlfriends but they have never lasted longer than a couple of weeks because I start to feel guilty that I'm leading the girl on. Am I Gay?
Gary

Many young people have feelings towards other people of the same sex, and wonder whether this means that they are Gay. For some these feelings can be very intense and disturbing. Some who are attracted to others of the same sex are gay and go on to have loving relationships with others of the same sex. But others who have gay feelings find that these change over time and become attracted to the opposite sex. Others are attracted to people of both sexes and have relationships with both.


Is being Gay a phase young people go through?

'I thought, well, this is just the phase bit. Sooner or later I'm going to start finding women attractive. I never did. As I became more attracted to men, and I was still wasn't attracted to women, I thought, your Gay. It was really quite a shock when it hit me.'
Luke


Is it a phase we go through? For some people yes, and for others no. Some people do not have their first gay experience until they are well into adulthood. For others gay experiences may well be part of growing up. This is hardly surprising given that this a period of change in which young people find out who they are and what they want for themselves in adult life. Whatever your feelings, it is OK and perfectly normal, it is who you are!

Eventually all people who are gay realise that they are only attracted to members of the same sex and that this attraction is not going to go away and others who are straight realise that they are only attracted to members of the opposite sex, the same applies to those who are attracted to both sexes, whatever you feel is OK and perfectly normal.

Well there is a difference between thinking that another guy is good looking, and thinking you want to be with him because he is good looking. I am a straight female and when I am with my BF and we see a pretty women I will say don't you think she's pretty, but it doesn't mean I want to kiss her. Its okay to think someone is good looking. If you are gay or not that is okay, and you need to accept yourself before others will.

Looking at guys and wanting to be with them are two differnet things.

It is a phase, not one that people make out to sound silly and unimportant. But something we all go through at one point in our lives, some times more often. We begin to wonder about our sexuality, after noticing the way we look at memebers of the same sex.

You might not be gay. But you need to assure yourself of that before you can assure others.

You could just be bi sexual, which there is no shame in. or maybe you are just going through a stage, when you notice the attractiveness of the same sex, either way, there is nothing wrong with you.