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Sperm Donor's are basically fathers who were meant to be dads but failed somwhere along the way...:D

Basically anyone who has anything to say about either parent is free to b*tch until they see fit.:D

Like mine! Lol.

I haven't seen my sperm donor in about 7 or 8 years. Hope he's happy with his wife!

Mine... is trying to come back into my life for the like 50th time (I don't think I'm being too sarcastic is the sad part:p)... Mine is married (though he met his wife when she was a stripper while she was at work (HAHAHA!) and it was one of the biggest mistakes of his life (I already know it)

My dad met my stepmom while out driving cross country in a big rig. Nice huh?

LMA0! Classy... But I don't think there is a worse one then mine.

My sperm donor wants to see his kids when he has a new woman to hide from his current wife, so he tries to use us for a motel. Not on it, we don't let him stay so I do not know why he tries it so often. You would think a man in his 60's would do some changing, I heard he has a new baby on the way. God only knows how many siblings I have.

My sperm donor wants to see his kids when he has a new woman to hide from his current wife, so he tries to use us for a motel. Not on it, we don't let him stay so I do not know why he trys it so often. You would think a man in his 60's would do some changing, I heard he has a new baby on the way. God only knows how many siblings I have.

Oh me too. I know mine has one with his current wife, but I don't even know how many others. I have nothing to do with him, his wife or my little brother (mainly because I'd have to communicate with them to talk to my little brother).

00000H... thats pretty bad. But you know the old saying; a leopard don't change it's spots. And I hope you have under 30... not calling your donor a whore or nothing:p

Never one time did he ever pay child support for us. Btw he has a very good job. Isn't that sad. There are animals in this world that take better care of their off spring than some people.

My dad had his wages garnished for our child support. What he would do is, when he started getting his wages garnished, he quit and got a new job, and when they discovered where he worked and started garnishing again, he'd quit and find another job. This process took place until me and my siblings were all 18. As soon as my brother turned 18, the day of his birthday, my dad filed paperwork to stop paying child support. Didn't even wish my brother a happy birthday, but he did that. What a piece of crap.

I know a girl in her 30's and her dad is still paying back support. He did the same thing as yours Nali, child support did not lock him up until she was 18 and then they went after him. I think she gets 25 dollars a week until he gets it all paid up.

Well my husband brought up a good point. My brother is a full time student in college, and I believe that because of that my father still has to pay child support. I could be wrong, but I think it worked that way with my sister.

Naut I think that is how it works until 23, or so I've heard.

Well he is only 18, so I'm going to have my mom look into that. :)

I have never recieved child support in my life... irresponsible jerk:p

I have never recieved child support in my life... irresponsible jerk:p


I always just figured that I didn't want his money anyway. I didn't want to feel like I was obligated to speak to him.

Only recently have I seen it as "he took my life so I want his cash". Not saying that money can replace love, but saying that I want something of his...

I used to feel that way too, but then I realized he didn't take my life. I have a perfect life now without him.

Well, he made my childhood rather hectic and I even had reocurring nightmares. I would even wake upsome days wondering where dear old daddy was..... you could say i'm rather spitefull.

I used to ask for my dad in my sleep too. When I was younger I was "daddy's little girl" and then when he moved out he said I could move with him and live with him. But then my evil stepmother said I couldn't live there, and if he wanted me to he had to choose me or her. Well, needless to say, he chose her.

Well, if you ever need a father, I'd be glad:D

LOL thanks!

Although, to have me as a father, you must call me papa!:D

LOL okay... PAPA! :)

Wow, it seems no one has "sperm donors" but us.. lol

That's because usually people who give advice aren't those who had sperm donors... I like proving life wrong:)

Yeah no kidding. You don't need a father/stable family to give good advice :)

Yeahhh!!!:D
And on a seperate note, do you know anything about scholarships in Canada?:p

Sorry, but I have no clue. I'm from Florida.. lol

I know. I was just hoping it would be a random piece of info you might have:p

LOL nope, not this time. :)

Oh well.. thanks anyhoo:D

I had the freakiest dream last night....... I was like 6 years old and my father was standing at the foot of the bed asking me if I wanted him to make his famous blueberry pancakes (which I've never had ever) and I wouldn't answer him so he got mad and he started throwing my teddy bear (named Brandi Bear after my best friend who passed away) and I couldn't stop him so my mom came in and made him leave.

That's crazy! You know there are websites that tell you the meaning of your dreams. You should try it out, just for fun! :)

L0L! I might just... what's the site?

And btw, I analyze dreams for fun (even for my friends) and I'm usually right. I guess it's one of my tallents:p

Here you go I googled it for you : what does my dream mean? - Google Search (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=what+does+my+dream+mean%3F)

There are a couple of sites there. :)

Awe, thanks<3

No problemo! :)

So what's your story? Like, your 411:)

What do you mean? What do you want to know?

Nothing too personal, just I donno, about you:p
I like knowing about people....... it makes it easier for me to help/analyze. Y'know?

Mine is stalking me. He has been out of my life for 17 years and was only in it for 11. As soon as her left my mom he cut off all ties with us. He never let my mom work (he was abusive to all of us) so my mom was unable to get a decent job and she had to work three jobs to feed, cloth and house us. My mom had to fight the courts everywhere to get child support from him.

A few years ago my dad was arrested in a child pornography sting and I wrote a letter to the judge detailing what a terrible person he was (I thought it might help since he had no priors) since then he has been stalking me. (his case was thrown out on a technicality btw). Nobody will do anything because his letters are not threatening they are just well, creepy. He lives across the country so restraining orders don't work.

Everyone in family tells me to let go and let it be. I've forgiven him for everything but he is such a disgusting human being who is impossible to have a relationship with. Everyone feels like I shouldn't be mad when he won't leave me alone. But my family doesn't understand that I'm the one that has to deal with being harassed all the time. Its so frustrating.

This is a man who would quit jobs or take jobs where friends paid him under the table to avoid garnishment for child support. He was so bad to all of us and I tried once as an adult to get to know him since he kept saying he changed. Well he didn't and all he did was berate me and put down my mother.

Just needed to unload. Thanks guys

Mine is stalking me. He has been out of my life for 17 years and was only in it for 11. As soon as her left my mom he cut off all ties with us. He never let my mom work (he was abusive to all of us) so my mom was unable to get a decent job and she had to work three jobs to feed, cloth and house us. My mom had to fight the courts everywhere to get child support from him.

A few years ago my dad was arrested in a child pornography sting and I wrote a letter to the judge detailing what a terrible person he was (I thought it might help since he had no priors) since then he has been stalking me. (his case was thrown out on a technicality btw). Nobody will do anything because his letters are not threatening they are just well, creepy. He lives across the country so restraining orders don't work.

Everyone in family tells me to let go and let it be. I've forgiven him for everything but he is such a disgusting human being who is impossible to have a relationship with. Everyone feels like i shouldn't be mad when he won't leave me alone. But my family doesn't understand that I'm the one that has to deal with being harassed all the time. Its so frustrating.

This is a man who would quit jobs or take jobs where friends paid him under the table to avoid garnishment for child support. He was so bad to all of us and I tried once as an adult to get to know him since he kept saying he changed. Well he didn't and all he did was berate me and put down my mother.

Just needed to unload. Thanks guys

I'm so glad you were able to unload! It helps people sometimes, just to talk about it. I'll tell you what though, I'd love to unload too, unload a can of whoop a$$ on my dad. Just because they give sperm does not make them "Dad". :)

No kidding we actually refer to him as the sperm donor. I always say I look forward to getting married and having my kids have a great dad. I also can't wait for my brother to have kids because I know he'll be an awesome dad and it will just be the best thing in the world to see.

That's why I made this thread. Feel free to go on for hours if you wish. And I'm happy you've moved on from that so well:)
And that's right nauticalstar, sperm doesn NOT equal dad.:D

Oh, and how I know my momis truly humble and amzing as a human being... whenever she hears me call him "sperm donor" (or something worse) she tells me to stop because even though he is a dirtbag, he is still my father. I always come back with that might be true but if I say he isn't enough, maybe it'll come true:p

It took along time to get through it. I remember when I first started getting letters I would just sit in the middle of my living room crying hysterically. Then he would call my house non stop for hours, we would just unplug the phone and turn off the machine. Finally my roommate just started collecting the mail and not letting me look at anything until she went through it and we blocked his number. It was so tough. It still is but I feel better, its like I'm at the point that I just feel sorry for him. My brother and I are awesome amazing people with great lives and he is missing out on all of it. He has no one. He is estranged from his family after what he did to my mom.

I'm glad you've been strong and soo proud of you. I'm still affraid of my dad. I'm not sure how long it will be till I'll be okay.:(

It takes time. It really does. I never did therapy or anything like that I found it easier to work it out on my own. But it took years. I'm sure you'll get there one of these days.

Awwwe, thank you so much Glinda. It's goodto know that I'm not the only person out there who has big issues with her father for being a sperm donor:)

They sound like kids that need to grow up