All right, so I always hear it is a huge turn on for guys to watch you "pleasure yourself." Well I tried it once, and he said it didn't turn him on at all, why ? I mean yeah, all guys are different, but maybe it was because he just felt akward watching me. What do you think?

How old are you?

22

Thank you. I am sure you will get some great answers soon, just had to make sure you were over the age of 18 to post in adult sexuality.

Oh that is fine. Thank you for checking.

Hello.

Some Guys feel like your trying to replace them by doing yourself or using toys, But most enjoy watching and playing along. You need to make it a game for him so he knows your not unhappy with what he does for you but your wanting to add to his pleasure. Try letting him catch you doing yourself OR do a little dance for him that ends in you doing yourself. Maybe when your watching a sexy Movie slowly start doing yourself and then let him help you.

If he is a little kinky tie him up and make him watch you do yourself then do him.

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Dennis777

That is one of those things that the guy has to be in the mood to enjoy. Just think how you would feel if he just came in and yanked it out and started his thing. You might not be in the mood for that sort of thing and you might not be pleased much less turned on. But if you were in the tub and you were having sexual thoughts and he came in and started the act you might enjoy it and it might take you to the point you would want to do yourself and I have an idea he would be turned on then.

Hello eustress:

Me?? I'd love it.

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Er, love it. Next!

Everyone is different, if you read though posts here and just from kowning people though life, there is no one turn on for everyone.

Some like talking dirty, or reading dirty stories, I read about someone in a batman suit last year

For a married couple in the privacy of their bedroom, they need to find what each other enjoys.

Personally I love it , but at 22 this might seem too advanced (scary) for a guy who is also young. Talk about it with him. We are not all the same in the sexual arena. What you might read or hear is often a misleading generalization.

I got turned on just reading the title. I don't know if I can take to many pages of this thread so you get a greenie in my book. What was your question again??

That right... My husband likes it but it is true everyone is different.. Ask him his turn ons if he is shy about it ensure him that you just want to make his experience better and you won't tell anyone else. Some men can't open up and its sad. Try different things with him slowly over time and when he gets turned on I'm sure you will know. Or maybe try it together and just keep your eyes locked in on eachothers faces and kiss. He won't have to watch and you won't have to try extra hard. Hope I could help

Some men love it. Some doesn't. I guess yours doesn't. For the ones that don't, it is a good tool to use when you are angry with them. :P

Many guys would enjoy it but not all, every man is not turned on by exactly the same stuff. Its possible he felt awkward... or not. I'm sort of indifferent about it, but lean in the direction of liking it However I do see it as a learning experience. It lets you see in a non-verbal way exactly what she likes and how to push some of her buttons since no two women like exactly the same thing in exactly the same way.

Thank you all so much for your help. I just feel like pleasing myself in front of him so maybe he gets the idea that I want some pleasure from HIM. He rarely pleasures me on his own. Usually I will have to move his hand down, until he gets the idea. Or I will have to nudge his head down south. I don't know, if he doesn't like pleasing me, then I guess I shouldn't make him..

I would love it but everyone is different I like seeing ma girlfriend using toys and me using them on her and love getting kinky both of us like I say I think everyone is different

And if the roles were reversed?

Thankyou all so much for your help. I just feel like pleasing myself in front of him so maybe he gets the idea that I want some pleasure from HIM. He rarely pleasures me on his own. Usually I will have to move his hand down, until he gets the idea. Or I will have to nudge his head down south. I don't know, if he doesn't like pleasing me, then I guess I shouldn't make him..?Some guys are too uptight about that. I bet he jumps if you slip a finger up his butt too. Or maybe he really doesn't have a clue how to go about doing it and is afraid to admit it.

I was lucky enough to have a bisexual girlfriend and her friend teach me this art when I was 18 so I basically went from an oral virgin to being taught in a threesome situation by two women how loved oral and never had to fumble through those awkward early stages.

Well no whenever he does do it, it is amazing. I just don't see why he doesn't start it. I have to initiate it.

Hopefully he paid attention. It was a demonstration after all.. . Of what gets her off. Specific areas to touch, movements, tempo, amount of pressure, etc.

She basically provided a road map to her Temple of Sexual Bliss.(street names and distances may not have been included) A skillful driver is all that is needed.

I personally would have taken notes.(very detailed notes) Because if she isn't left speechless, I didn't do my job.

I thought it was supposed to be a turn on too... My husband left the room but when confronted.. he says he likes it... how do u get them to join in?

Just my 2 cents worth. When I was about 18 I called on an ad for a '57 Porsche in mint condition. It was a Saturday and I called around 11:30 AM to sched. A time to see the car. I drove over around 1:30 PM, introduced myself to the owner's very lovely wife and she gave me the key and told me to take it for a spin. After less than a mile I knew the trans. Had a bad bearing so I parked the car and returned the key to the owners wife. I asked her if he'd consider less because of the trans. Work it needed. She said it would be best to wait for her husband to return home from a university football game and figured he'd be back in less than an hour. She made me comfortable in the living room and gave me a Coke. She was probably 22, slender and stood about 5'6" or so and had been in another room for about 5 minutes when she entered the living room holding a new born baby.. I said hi and made googleing sounds as "mom" with child sat on the sofa. Then she said she was going to breast feed her baby girl and she hoped it wouldn't bother me. I thought fine, no problemo'. Mom removed her sweater and bra and then left the room for 30 seconds returning with just her robe. She sat and opened her robe and began feeding the little girl. I was thinking I'd better get out of there before her husband returned. She told me it was OK and if he did come home she'd simply go to another room. Sounded OK to me. I was very interested in the car and was going to wait. The woman seemed to be enjoying the fact that I was able to see her feeding her child and her face was turning quite red. I admit my chest did pound a bit but I was able to keep my eyes on the TV most of the time. After about 10 minutes I couldn't help but notice this woman had her right hand under her robe and was moving it very slowly in a back and forth motion. I now wanted to get up and leave but I wouldn't have been able to stand very well so I sat and watched TV. I knew what was going on and I grew more and more excited. I could see the toes of her feet curled up as she rolled her feet to the side and then she'd point her toes straigh up. She was moaning softly and I had a huge burning, tingling and pleasurable feeling from the base of my lungs to the tips of my toes. I had never felt such intensity before and was not participating on a physical level in any way. DID I ENJOY the experience? YES; way beyond the blue horizon. I did not buy that little 356A but looking back I'd have to say it was one Saturday I'd not soon forget.

Lots of people *are not* voyeurs!!

He is best with a woman who *is not* an exhibitionist, like yourself!


Old saying, "Different strokes for different folks"...

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