Hey all I am very new to these forums and I was wondering if you could help me figure this out. I am 19 years old and I've been going out with a girl for about 3.5 years now and she was first a virgin. Obviously she is not right now but lateley I've noticed than it's less and less often than she wants to have sex. More often and often she says she tierd or makes up BS excuses like thoss. Now I understand that a girls can be tierd sometimes and would be in the mood sometimes but it's just too often. I am down to once a week sometimes less. I am a very sexual person and I need it more often. In the beginning we used to do it SO often, like 5 time a day or even more and with the time it went down. I don't want to feel like a married couple, is there anything unusual I can try ? ( I've tried most of the usual stuff such as romantic dinners, gifts, flowers, new places, toys, talking, etc. ). I can tell you that I've gain a little weight since than which I am working on, could that be a factor ? How about the fact that I am the only one she's ever been with ?

Thanks for the advice, and please no stupid responses :) I have enough of those from my friends :)

Thanks again.

She may just be completely tired of it. You never know. You try you fail, you try you fail, try one more time. If that doesn't work tell her up front that you want to know why she is always tired or whatever. Best of luck!

Wow!! 5 times a day? Well no wonder she so tired! :) seriously, I am a female, and I can tell you although some of us are very sexual in nature, our sex drive is nowhere near as high as a man. After about the first or second round at it, anything else more that I do is just to satify my partner. She may actually be just tired, nothing more. Maybe, she did it 5 times a day in the beginning, just to satisfy you and now, well, she's just tired. Now, I ask you, to be more sympathetic to what she may need. I am speaking as a woman, it would get real old if every time my boyfriend was near me he was constantly wanting sex. I doubt very seriously if your weight gain is a factor here. You have worn the poor girl out! You might have to actually try spending time with her and try not to pressure her. Do some of the things that she likes to do, try more foreplay, pay more attention to her (above the belt). Women love attention and lots of it. This is going to take some time but trust me, it will work. You have to be patient.

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