I am in an abusive marriage with a Christian... I plan to leave and divorce soon... will I be doomed for a divorce?

God would not want you to stay in a marriage where a man abuses you. In my opinion God is a loving and forgiving God who wants nothing but happiness for his followers.

I am almost positive that abuse is one of the very few acceptions to getting a divorce. So no, you're not going to be doomed. God wouldn't want you suffering:)

god is all forgiving, it is not a sin to leave abuse.

In fact your church may even be able to help you get out of this abusive situation. I know my church often did help financially as well as emotionally.

No you will not be doomed to hell for leaving a destructive, possibly deadly relationship. Your husband, I must say is NOT a Christian if he does these things to you and HE may be doomed to hell.

But not you dear.

Good lord... if your marriage is abusive, you need to get OUT of it.

Any god that would doom you to hell for getting yourself away from something evil is a horrible god not worthy of following, wouldn't you think?

No *good* god would condemn you for leaving an abusive marriage

Thank you all- I've stayed for 3 1/2 years because of distorted religious views and opinions and brainwashing from my husband. Was just interested in what others believed.

Hun, this man is NOT a Christian if he lays one hand on you and don't you believe a word he says.

He can abuse you mentally as well as physically. One can be as bad as the other. Never let ayone use the bible to make you put up with abuse. Please leave and start a new peaceful life. Good luck

Someone may call me sexist for this comment but in my opinion woman is more important then man for various reasons and my other advisor's are right you will not be damed to hell for saving yourself from an god would probable smile on you for proving that woman are not just mans tool

Well since there is no such thing as hell that should not one of your worries. Take care of yourself and shrug off all the religion crap.

Sweety, I wasn't replying to you, I was replying to the OP.

My apologies, but I still think the way you said that was pretty rude...

Just because you may divorce this man does not place you in Hell. Abuse is not allowed in the law and if your husband would read the New Testament, the Apostle Paul tells the man that he should love his wife as Christ loved the Church. Christ loved His Church so much that He died so that his Church would have the promise fulfilled of eternal life with Him. If you had a husband who treated you like that, you would not be abused. Read Ephesians, chapter 5.

When your husband is mistreating you, abusing you, he is violatingthe very laws of Christ he says he upholds. You do not have to be bound to him, he would be called an unbeliever. Please talk to your pastor about this. He may recommend counseling, which is what an attorney may even say needs to be done (depedning on your state laws). While you make an appointment to see your pastor, also make one with an attorney. If for no other reason, than to find out your rights and what you have to do.

You WILL NOT be doomed. Trust me. I have been down that road and struggled with those same questions, coming from a very fundamentalist church. There is life after a divorce and one much better too. The very best to you.

Only if you don't learn from your experience.

Kimberly... an ABUSIVE man is no Christian.

I believe the Bible says that ABUSE is one thing that CAN be cause FOR divorce... it also says some other jibberish after that too... but I personally have a hard time believing it inerrantly, but that's just ME! :)

Decide what your own heart and mind tells you from the readings/teachings of the Bible... not just those interpretations of a Sunday stranger.

REJOICE! No hell for you! Lol! ;)

You won't go to hell for divorce, even if it is a sin, which it probably isn't.
God forgives all sins, so there you go :) isn't god good :)

Wow- I've never even met any of you and I feel loved.. lol. Thak you all for your support!! God Bless Each and Everyone!

I am in an abusive marriage with a Christian..... I plan to leave and divorce soon... will I be doomed for a divorce?



Absolutely not. From my Jewish perspective, Moses gave permission for divorce based on abuse and no modern rabbi in his right mind would push to make a abusive relationship continue. IMO it's sounds like the man you married would like to use his extreme religious view as a psychological ploy in keeping you. If I'm wrong and this happens to be your own thinking concerning sticking out an abusive marriage, than get past it. If you have children think of them. I spent years making deliveries to centers for battered women and cringed every time I had to make those stops. Women with black eyes, busted noses, that were scarred emotionally, children frightened... it was not a pretty sight. Respect yourself because G-d wants you to be respected. You have a whole life ahead of you.


Bobby :)

Kimberly66:

If you believe in and love God, he will never leave you nor forsake you[deut 31:6].
Pray for your husband.


Grace and Peace

Kimberly, It is OK for you to pray for your husband if you want to. But it is also OK for you to leave him. My great aunt prayed for her drunken, abusive husband for 50 years and she died praying for him. Good Luck, you deserve peace in your life.

inthebox that was a very nice answer :) an encouraging word cheers a person up

I'd like to point out the assumption that everyone is making here... What makes your relationship abusive? Are you beating him? Is he beating on you? Are you emotionally draining to him? I think these questions should have been answered before one can assume who is to blame.

In regards to your original question... Yeah, you are probably going to go to hell, but not for divorce. I'm sure you have done other things, depending on your religion. In reality, look at all the people who believe they are going to heaven... Do you really want to spend an eternity with all of them? I mean, I know I wouldn't want to be neighbors in heaven with Jesus...

Could you imagine how his perfectly groomed lawn would look sitting next to my front yard full of concrete and hot rods? Not to mention, I like to stay up late and make a lot of noise. I'm betting our lord and savior is a morning person. So again, do you really want to spend an eternity with all of those people? I think we all know the answer to that.

Universal Truth I think you miss the concept of what heaven is like :)

Well I hope he's definitely wrong on the lord and savior being a morning person... because I sooooo am not!! Lmao! :D

He is wrong about the Saviour being a morning person, in heaven everyone will be in their theophany body

Could you imagine how his perfectly groomed lawn would look sitting next to my front yard full of concrete and hot rods? Not to mention, I like to stay up late and make alot of noise. I'm betting our lord and savior is a morning person. So again, do you really want to spend an eternity with all of those people? I think we all know the answer to that.

When you go to heaven, you leave your faults and failings behind, so the people would be perfect neighbours.

I don't believe in a hell. Why would God send anyone to an eternal hell for something we did within the frame of time, which is only temporary ?

God does not send anyone to hell.
We all go to hell by default.
God has just provided a way to go someplace better, to escape the fate we actually deserve.

I am in an abusive marriage with a Christian..... I plan to leave and divorce soon... will I be doomed for a divorce?
NO! You won't go to hell for divorcing an abusive man. In the Bible, when Jesus said "Any one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery" he was referring to the old testament canon law of Moses. The original law stated that anyone could divorce anyone for any reason. Jesus was saying that marriage is sacred and not to be taken lightly. If this man is abusing you he is not honoring his wedding vows to love, honor, and cherish. God is a god of love and forgiveness. You are doing nothing wrong by leaving this man. The Bible says that your body is God's temple and is sacred. By abusing your body, this man is violating both God's law and mans. Please get help. Go to the police or a women's shelter. My friend was killed by her abusive husband after 3 horrible years of bruises and broken bones. Don't let that happen to you! Please leave this man. God would want you to stay alive and happy. Don't let the devil make you feel guilty about leaving this guy. Please get help, honey. God Bless You and Good Luck!
Love in Christ,
Nikki

Anyway, you are never doomed, there's always forgiveness within your grasp. Always.

Get out of this relationship while you can and don't take anything. Run! Before he killls you.

Hopefully she left and preparing to celebrate her first year of being free.

The Bible says for wives to submit to their husbands and husbands submit to God AND your wife HE broke that link on both ends!

God see's everything and will know you had no choice

Blessings

No you would not go to Hell as your husband is abusive. However the Bible does state that as long as your husband is alive, you shall not marry again. Only if he Dies you are free to marry. As if you get married again it would be considered Adultry on your part and on his if he is aware of it. So just remain single, just to be on the safe side, as I would not want to be put into the fires of hell, which it seems in this society most people are headed for anyway.

as i would not want to be put into the fires of hell, which it seems in this society most people are headed for anyway.
Seems like the best part of humanity will be there than... IF there was a hell, of course...

:D

Seems like the best part of humanity will be there than .... IF there was a hell, of course ....

:D

Well Technically Speaking the Holy Bible is supposed to be the Inspiried word of God, so if God talks about Hell I would believe it, Because God would not give us any wrong information in his Holy Bible, anything in the Bible, I would take it as Gospel. Coming from the Catholic Background that I was brought up in, and my father being a very Strict Prostant and was an advocat of the Holy Bible he preached it to me since I was a child.
And those teachings stood with me, he was from the Methodist Church. But since my mother was a Roman Catholic, I was Bapisted in the Catholic religion.

Well Technically Speaking the Holy Bible is supposed to be the Inspiried word of God...
Yes. But no proof for the existence of that "God" entity exists.
"God" is entirely based on belief and on nothing else.

Note that "God" did not write the Bible. Good-willing human beings wrote the Bible!

That is why I stated :

IF there was a hell, of course...

And why I now add to that : IF there is a "God", of course...

:rolleyes:

Wow- I've never even met any of you and I feel loved..lol. Thak you all for your support!!!! God Bless Each and Everyone !!

Wow, that was a very sweet comment. I'm so glad you are feeling better and that you can be more empowered. The first thing that came to my mind when I read your original post was... Hell No!;)

Yes. But no proof for the existence of that "God" entity exists.
"God" is entirely based on belief and on nothing else.

Note that "God" did not write the Bible. Good-willing human beings wrote the Bible!

That is why I stated :

IF there was a hell, of course ....

And why I now add to that : IF there is a "God", of course ....

:rolleyes:

:rolleyes:
Can you look at the question hypothetically speaking or something?
Like assuming the Bible is correct and inspired by God what does the Bible teach on divorce? She IS asking for a Christian/Biblical answer after all!

god does not send anyone to hell.
we all go to hell by default.
god has just provided a way to go someplace better, to escape the fate we actually deserve.

I've always wondered. Why would God make the default be something so horrible. It's like this.
Man is born on whatnot island.
Man never heard of god
Man lives his life with love, compassion, and selfless.
Man dies and goes to burn in hell for eternity. OR

Man is born into jewish family
Man worships as a jew
Man spends his life helping others and making the world a better place
Man dies and goes straight to hell.

This "only one way" to get to heaven is filled with pot holes.
There are millions of really GOOD people that will go to hell with this set up.

That is why I don't buy it. The God of love and comfort and peace that I live to please would not be such a hard as the one that Christians worship.

That is why I no longer call myself a christian or any other religious label. I'm a god lover trying to live a life that pleases him . I don't even capitalize the G in god or the H in him. Why, because we are on a very personal friendly basis and he tells me to chill with the formalities.:o

IF man never heard of then God goes by what they had in their heart love or hate.

God is fair because He only requires men to respond based upon what they know (Rom. 2:11-12)

The Bible talks about mercy on people who sincerely didn't know better vs people who reject him and use that as an excuse for not knowing better.

"I will have mercy on whomever I will have mercy"

Hi Kimberly,

Sorry to say but I am completely disagree with all.

Well you didn't wrote much about your relationship.

That is what you and your husband doing, do you have children(s)?
Is that arrange or love marriage? Still he loves you or not?
Or you love him or not now?

Is there any feeling in you that keeps you to be with him?

See after analyzing all this question one could come to a appropriate decision.

If happened good with anyone is it because of God.

And if happened bad with anyone is it because of G..

You have to determined this first.
If you have children(s) you have to think about them as well as their future.

If your husband loves you lot and he can't just expressed with you or on other hand he abused you.

But as a wife isn't it your responsibility to settle the misunderstanding between you and your husband?
If your husband goes wrong isn't your responsibility to aware him about that?

If every women think like this to leave husband then who will take initiative to make a good person that we are staying it.

If you leave him and marry to another person who assured you that he won't abused you in the future or he will be good husband.
And nobody guarantees you that you will get good partner next time.

See I think that God will never come to help you and for all women that are facing problem in marriage life.

I suggest you to have clearly think of that , your husband is also a human being he is also having a heart that can feel love, passion, humanity, joy, happiness and everything that you can feel.

Just express your feeling to him , don't be voilent in any case because it will make more critical the current situation.

Wishing you Merry Christmas and happy life.

What is believed in Hindu religion is that, what ever you do, right or wrong, you will face the result of it in this birth. On elaboration, you do something wrong, hurt somebody, you will face the music, which means you have to pay for it in this birth only. If you do things right then you will get good result. Its all about karma. There is no heaven, there is no hell. You are not going no where, what ever you do, you will get the result of it in this very birth, in one or the other from.