I have been married to my husband for 7.5 years. It hasn't been a happy one from the start. We have very little communication and I don't feel I am in love with him anymore... He has put a lot of emotional stress on me from early on... and done a bit of mental cruelty to myself and my 2 boys from a previous relationship... I am now angry and can't shake the feeling that I no longer love him.. he is a good father to our children together, but he isn't a very good husband.. We are trying to see the marriage through for the sake of our children, but when eer he talks about a future with me I cringe. And the sex life is not that often.. I cringe when he touches me at times.. He has cheated on me I believe at least 2-3 times... but he won't admit to it.. and I am to the point now I am so confused about our relation ship and what I wan out of it... My question is , what should I do about my marriage?

Well, the only good thing you say is he's a good father... though that conflicts with the mental cruelness.

I'm not one to ever say walk away from the commitment of marriage lightly, but if all he is to you is a decent father (maybe) then that's not the foundation for a lasting relationship. He can be a good father and not with you.

Demand more for yourself. Don't stay with someone who is mentally cruel to your children.

Unless you can explain more, I just don't know why you would stay.

Your right about the cruelty.. with our children he is great. But with my boys from a previous relationship I was forced to give them up to live with their dad for a while. I was told when he and I ran into some hardships that we could move in with his family I was told I had to choose to live with them and take only my daughter or I would have to have all 3 children and live in my car.. I made the choice to allow the boys to live with their dad(who isn't good at all, to make sure they had a roof over their heads.) That was one of the worst decisions I have made and I regret it all the time.. But now I am faced with the choice almost identical to it. If I leave I have no job, and no way to support the kids. We are talking about sharing custody he would have them for the school year and I will have them in the summer.. At this time it might work out for me because I know he would be good to them and has the means to support them.. I guess that's another subject.. Would it make me a bad mommy to share custody