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Delicious-D
Jul 25, 2007, 02:44 AM
Im really confused? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3months now and I'm 17 he's the same age but eversince we have been together all he thinks is that I'm cheating on him because his friends tell him that I am and that they have saw me but its all lies and he still believes them even though I lookd died strait in his eyes and told him and he's still thinking that?? I buy him a lot of things and so has he but why is he acting like his?? :

GlindaofOz
Jul 25, 2007, 04:54 AM
He is acting like this because he is insecure. Plain and simple. There is nothing you can do to make him feel secure because its within him. Maybe a girlfriend cheated on him before. But you have to decide if having him as a boyfriend is worth him not trusting you and believe his friends over his girlfriend.

If you are doing nothing wrong you deserve to be trusted, believed and respected.

HaRLoS
Jul 25, 2007, 08:14 AM
Sometimes, in my opinion, if he is calling you a cheater, he is the one cheating.
It could also be because he is insecure. You need to talk to him and tell him that you have no intentions of cheating on him and if he can't trust you, than you can find soemone who does. As for his friends, if your not doing anything wrong and they keep telling him that, their not very good friends, trying to ruin his happiness. Talk to him! Ask him if he honestly thinks you are and than tell him that you ARE NOT CHEATING ON HIM!

Canada_Sweety
Jul 25, 2007, 08:20 AM
it's hard to say. He more then likely is insecure, or might have been cheated on in the past. However, if he's taking his friends' word for it about you cheating, then maybe you guys need to work on trust. And if he doesn't trust you, then what's the point in being with him? Just tell him what's on your mind, even if it's that you're unhappy with him.:)

jelsusmc
Jul 25, 2007, 06:36 PM
The number one key to a successful relationship is trust. Maybe you should confront his friends to see why there saying these things about you. You also need to make your boyfriend realize that if you can trust him then there's no reason he shouldn't be able to trust you. Another thing I've read is cheaters are usually the first to blame because they feel the guild of cheating not saying your boyfriends cheating but just food for thought

cal823
Jul 25, 2007, 07:29 PM
He trusts his friends more than he trusts you? Friends that would say those kind of things?
I'm actually quite shocked.
Why are his friends saying these things? Maybe they have something against you, or maybe they actually think you are a cheater and are just looking out for their mate.

Delicious-D
Jul 26, 2007, 02:27 AM
Thanks everyone that gave me advice I did have a talk with him today and he trusts me and everythin its just that he thinks I'm going to leave him but I told him I'm not...

talaniman
Jul 26, 2007, 05:40 AM
He is insecure and his friends don't like you, so is it worth having him and this drama?

SAB123
Jul 26, 2007, 08:33 AM
If he don't believe you, why would you want to be with him. Without TRUST this relationship will fail. I would leave and find someone more secure with himself. I see your future with him full of drama?

Phily6996
Jul 30, 2007, 11:44 PM
Im really confused? me n my boyfriend have been together for 3months now n im 17 hes the same age but eversince we have been 2gether all he thinks is that im cheating on him because his friends tell him that i am n that they have saw me but its all lies n he still belives them even tho i lookd died strait in his eyes n told him and hes still thinkin that???? i buy him alot of things n so has he but y is he acting like his???:
He may just be cheating on you ever thought of that