View Full Version : Hard to find feelings at the moment
jshrckstar
Jul 22, 2007, 05:00 PM
So, I met this girl, and we have been seeing, and talking for about 2 weeks or so. I think I might like her, but I'm not sure? Sometimes I feel attracted to her, and other times I am not. I'm not sure why it is on and off like this but... anyway. We have already slept together, and I'm not sure why? Like I said, sometimes I am attracted to her, and other times I am not. Obviously, I was attracted to her at that time. It's weird, when I feel attracted to her, it's amost as if I try to find negative things about her, so that I am not attracted. Maybe I'm holding back? Maybe I don't want anything serious? I'm not sure? Any help would be great!
nicespringgirl
Jul 22, 2007, 05:05 PM
anyway. We have already slept together, and I'm not sure why? Like I said, sometimes I am attracted to her, and other times I am not. Obviously, I was attracted to her at that time. Any help would be great!
How could people sleep together without commitment, I am not talking about marriage, I guess you can do whatever you like( I do against sex before marriage!! )? Be responsible about what you do. You need to make sure if there is any connection and chemistry before you make a decision on it. Do u feel you miss her everyday?
fightn_tha_goodfight
Jul 22, 2007, 05:16 PM
My brother your attracted to her when you need something, not just sex but friendship or someone to hangout with, your just using her, its lust not love, remember this ,lust focuses on self and seeks to take, love focuses on the other and seeks to give, use that in any relationship and you will do well, GOD BLESS
E12191G
Jul 22, 2007, 07:09 PM
First of all. It might not be a good idea to have sex anymore. Only because that will only look bad on you. You say you don't know if you like her or not well how's it going to look if you say you don't want to be with her. She's going to think that you just wanted sex and the word will get out. Maybe you should wait a little longer. See what you like. You should focuz on if you like her personality and if she can make you laugh. If she makes you happy. Because if your only looking for attraction then any relationship you get into is most likely not going to work. Thers also no reason to try to find anything negetie about her. The more you do this the more drawn away your going to get from her. Maybe you shoule just focus on the good about her and not the bad. If your not even sure you want anythign serious maybe you shouldn't date anyone until you know what you actually want first.
talaniman
Jul 22, 2007, 07:39 PM
Maybe you haven't given yourself enough timeto heal from your break up.
jshrckstar
Jul 22, 2007, 08:22 PM
Haha! I knew you'd find me talaniman! I agree with you. I know that this has come along quickly since my break up, and it took me by surprise! I may still be healing, and not even realize it because of the excitement of meeting someone new? What do you think?
talaniman
Jul 22, 2007, 09:06 PM
I think your right, too bad you can't just have fun.