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kholck
Jul 22, 2007, 09:19 AM
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Towards our one year anniversary he said he had a feeling in his heart that was telling him not to be with him right now so he broke up with me. Then about two weeks later after we took some time to figure out what we did wrong in our relationship we got back together. It was going great for about three weeks. Then about 4 days ago he said that he had a feeling in his heart that was telling him that it isn't the right time to be together right now but he told me that he doesn't want to break up and he will do anytime to make this work. We both want to be together but he said if the feeling in his heart increases then he knows what to do because breaking up last time made that feeling go away. But he said that if it doesn't increase then he will stay with me because he loves me so much and does not want to break up again. He says that if our love is true then it will last and I believe that too.. But I want to know what I can do to help that feeling go away because breaking up killed us both last time and we both don't want that to happen again. We love each other so much and I just want to make this work... His friends told him he was stupid to get back together with me but he told me that it felt right to be with me again. I just need to know what we can do to make this work... Somebody please help me very soon...

talaniman
Jul 22, 2007, 10:32 AM
You can start talking to see what the problem is because honestly this feeling in his heart needs to be explored, and explained.

mckenzie134
Jul 22, 2007, 08:18 PM
Give him more space and make him miss you. I bet you contact him allthe time thinking you are doing the right thing. Try some different tactics let him waiyt for you see how you go... You will noticethe difference. You don't want to put up with this craop. If he mentions the break EVER again pack his bags and tell him there are guys who know what they want and his out. If he really wants you this will wake him up...

kholck
Jul 22, 2007, 08:20 PM
That's the thing I don't call him all the time.. we hang out maybe twice a week and hardly talk during the day... in the first break up we figured out a lot of things we needed to change and we did and our relationship was a lot healthier the second time around.. but he's getting the feeling again...

talaniman
Jul 22, 2007, 08:39 PM
I'm sorry but this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, and he doesn't sound very upfront either. I believe that he has problems you can't fix, and he may be manipulating your feelings for some reason. Just my opinion.

kholck
Jul 22, 2007, 08:41 PM
That's what is so strange about our relationship, we are so close and I don't know how to describe it and we would do anything for each other... We love each other and every time we see each other sparks fly and we have so much fun! But it 's like when we are apart he gets these feelings... But we love each other regardless... we just want it to work out...

kholck
Jul 22, 2007, 08:43 PM
Basically I think what I'm asking is how do we know if it's the right time to be togther? We want it to be the right time...