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marie302
Jul 18, 2007, 01:58 PM
My father died in 2001 and when passed a away I wanted to die myself. So now its been years since he passed away. I still miss him. I still cry wheni think about him or when people are talking about him. Is there something wrong with me? Does the feeling go away if you wanted to die? What can I do to stop crying?

J_9
Jul 18, 2007, 02:03 PM
What can you do? That is the million dollar question. You see, my father passed just last month. What do I do? I remember the good things. The funny things. I make myself laugh and love.

Live in the good memories.

Death is terrible for those of us left behind. We must grieve in our own ways. But after 7 years, you most certainly need a little help. This is not uncommon. Have you checked into grief support groups? Counseling of any kind?

marie302
Jul 18, 2007, 02:43 PM
When he first died yes I did, but I didn't talk to the counselor. I just sat there and then that was it. I just think that when I get married he won't walk me down or when I have children their won't know there grandpa. So you see I think about this all the time. And I get jealous when my cousin says she hates her father and she just lucky that she got one.

And I'm so sorry for your lost and I know you are hating when people say that at least I know how you feel at least.

AKaeTrue
Jul 20, 2007, 09:27 PM
Your father certainly wouldn't want you to be sad all the time.
He wants for you to be happy and remember the good times.

I heard of a woman that carried a picture of her father down the isle with her
While her brother walked her down it.
And another who placed a picture of her father in her bouquet.

By keeping the memory of your father a happy and positive one,
Your children will know the man he was to you.

I don't think anything is wrong with you because this happens to a lot of people.
I do feel it would benefit you to talk to a counselor or therapist about your situation because your grief over the death has never subsided.
You deserve to be happy and your father would want that for you too.

Best wishes