My husband of 11 years gets off way to fast. Is there a pill that anyone has tried that has worked or have you heard of one that will ?

Please please help

Have you talked with your doctor about safe medications that can help with this; I would advise that.

We have talked to a doctor and he didn't want to proscribe anything. This was years ago. And I can't get him to go back again. He doesn't want to go back. So what do I do now ?

This is the thing. I have a very high sex drive and he doesn't. But I am not pleased when we have sex. Like the old saying. It isn't worth getting undressed for. The only way I can get off , is if we use my bullet. But having toys all the time is so old for me. We have talked fr years about him learning to control and he says he will try. But it never happens. He knows I am not pleased by him at all. I don't want to hurt him in any way. But I have to tell him the truth. I am not mean about it in any way. I think of cheating at times but I just cant. I love him too much. But this part of who I am isn't getting what it needs.

He really needs to go back and I would seek advice from a different doctor if I were you. You could also seek the help of a sex therapist too. I wish I could help you more!

Thank you very much. I can't get him to do anything about it.

He needs to understand that this isn't just about HIM, this is affecting your sexual relationship with is very important. The only other thing I can think of is to use the creams that sort of numb the penis but there are SO many drawbacks to using these; it's not as pleasurable for him and the cream can get onto you as well causing you to become less sensitive, unless he wore a condom of course.

Thank you so much for your help

Welcome!

Either 2 things, have him masterbate prior to sex (or you do it for him) :) or get that delay lotion that KY makes and rub that on him :)

We have done both and neither one works

we have done both and neither one works

Wow ! All I can say is that make sure you get lots of foreplay 1st so you get to at least had an orgasm, I have heard of the prescription meds and those other rig things that the man ties around his testicles (can get from a urologist, not the sex store kind)... but I don't know if the meds have any perm. Side effects though... Good Luck :)

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Delay Spray / Cream -
It desesitises the penis - will make him last longer

my husband of 11 years gets off way to fast. Is there a pill that anyone has tried that has worked or have you heard of one that will ?
No but if you give me your number I'll keep busy.