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sabresfreak2948
Jul 17, 2007, 12:20 PM
Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for4 months and really love him. We had sex after one month and I did get my first orgasm till the second month or close third. But recently I haven't been getting them. And he gets mad cause I faked it once. He blames himself but I ko its me. I tell him this but he still feels bad. I don't know what it is. I get turned on but then start thinking about orgasiming and I give up in my head. Then I can't get "wet" and we have to stop because is too hard. He won't even finish anymore. And I feel horrible. What arwe some ways I can get more turned on or finish easier. Things to eat, exerises, sexual things? We hve evn tried oral before and it still doesn't work! Please I need help!!

rankrank55
Jul 17, 2007, 12:31 PM
Build up the sexual tension throughout the entire day, send naughty messages, leave notes... anticipation is important. Have you been stressed here lately? Stress can take a huge toll on one's sexual life. It is also important for you to practice masturbation; this enables you to see what exactly feels good so that you can show your boyfriend what he needs to do. Try letting him stimulate your clitoris before penetration; lube up his fingers and have him massage in a circular motion in this area. This is very pleasurable for most ladies! Foreplay is extremely important, for women mostly, so make sure YOU get more than a couple of minutes of this. Be healthy and stress free is the only way to improve your sex life, naturally, from the inside. You could also try buying a cute outfit to make yourself feel more sexy and add to that anticipation!

sabresfreak2948
Jul 18, 2007, 07:57 AM
OK well I used your way and now my boyfriend is teling me he doesn't feel like trying to tease me everytimeor build up the tension like you said. So what should I do?

Skrypt
Jul 18, 2007, 09:03 AM
I read that most women can't orgasm through vaginal intercourse and that you could experiment with masturbation. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't. Find your g-spot and let him know about it. Fill him in on stuff. Also I read that clitoral stimulation is the best way to give an orgasm to a female through oral sex.

Dennis777
Jul 18, 2007, 09:47 AM
Hello.

The problem is your trying to hard to climax and most Ladies don't during intercourse. Relax and do lots of foreplay. Your going to find out that foreplay is much more exciting then intercourse and you will have all the orgasms you can handel once you both learn how to make each other happy.

Talk to each other as you Make Love, Let each other know what feels good and what doesn't. Foreplay is much more then kissing and oral, It's the fun and exciting lead up to Making Love. Its special notes and looks that tell each other you Love them and your going to make them happy. Its wearing sexy outfits and whispering sexy little things to each other when you don't have the time or place to do anything about it. Its making each other want you more then anything so when the time cums its like the first time every time.

Good Luck
Dennis777

sabresfreak2948
Jul 18, 2007, 11:00 AM
But what if hesnot willing to try it every time. Is there something I can do by myself like foods or exercise?

rankrank55
Jul 18, 2007, 11:48 AM
Not really hun... exercise will help tame stress and eating healthy will help keep you energized and feeling good. Kegal exercises may help a bit but those are usually used to tighten the vagina.

candream
Jul 18, 2007, 12:55 PM
You boyfriend obviously doesn't think you are as important as he is by saying he "doesn't feel like trying to tease me everytime." Come on every one else--was I the only one who read that? Move on to someone else. There are many wonderful people/men out there who would love to pleasure you to your liking. Your boyfriend sounds either lazy or selfish. Not surprising, but you may regret it down the road.

Dennis777
Jul 18, 2007, 07:58 PM
Hello.

Once your Love Making becomes a game and you use foreplay to build the excitement level he will want to do anything he can to make you happy. The times he doesn't, help yourself. There is nothing wrong with making yourself happy.

Dennis777

sabresfreak2948
Jul 19, 2007, 08:42 AM
I think he just lazy and doesn't want to do the work. I tried the foreplay and it worked. But I tie again later and I couldn't do it again. Is that OK that I can only orgasm once a day sort-of thing?

Skrypt
Jul 19, 2007, 12:39 PM
Uh... I'm not sure for women but for a guy, if we "store it up," it does feel much better.