Don't women like to be praised? Don't they like when we (men) say good things about them? Sometimes I get the feeling that they don't :S

It all depends on how you say it!

If you say;
"Darling, you look amazing tonight!" I'd expect they would be happy about that

If you say;
"WOW, you're tits look huge in that top!" I'd expect they wouldn't to be fair

I think they're both nice things to say ABOUT women... maybe not TO them though! Lol!

Just enough is flattering, too much is phony.

We love compliments. But. It also depends on if we think there is a motive. Like if you want us to do something for you, wash the car , change the oil, cook dinner, buy a boat, let you have a threesome... A compliment to close to a request can be suspicious.

No wonder the last girl I dated wouldn't let me have a threesome... or change the oil on my car.

I think compliments are a good thing but like talaniman said, too much and they start to sound phony and patronizing.

But if you can come up with clever ways of using them, they like that even more than just normal compliments. Simply saying, "I like your rings" or "You look great today" is nice, but it's played out.

But if you grab her hand and stare at her rings...

"Do you like my rings?"

"Yes, but they're not nearly as beautiful as the girl who's wearing them."

... instant brownie points. :)

I think compliments are wonderful...
Sometimes when I'm feel I look my worst is when I get a genuine compliment from my boyfriend and it makes me feel amazing!

If the woman is very rational, then it doesn't do no better. Too much compilement from ONE person makes the rational woman wonder what he really wants to say or what the heck he wants, jerk? :D

In all honesty, compliments are as good as the person giving them. For example, if the good-looking, rather fit guy in the office says "Hey, Goldie, great ta-tas!" I'd take it. Now, if the overweight, oily, balding guy says "I read that article you wrote on underwriting insurance policies, Goldie, it was very informative, and by the way, the photo attached to the article was very flattering" I might be creeped out.

Okay, just kidding, but in all honesty, compliments coming from a genuine place in the heart or mind of a genuine person are much better than compliments that are superficial or made with ulterior motives. And women have sensors to detect phony compliments.

What does it mean when you get a compliment when you look like complete sh!t?? I walked out of a gas station really looking haggard and a man stopped me and said, wow, you are really beautiful. I was totally shocked. This happened three months ago and I have never forgotten it! I was also really upset that day. Do you think it was an angel in disguise trying to cheer me up? I certainly didn't look baywatch babe beautiful. Yes. Some compliments are just wonderful to receive, they hit you right in the heart!!

What does it mean when you get a compliment when you look like complete sh!t??? I walked out of a gas station really looking haggard and a man stopped me and said, wow, you are really beautiful. I was totally shocked. This happened three months ago and I have never forgotten it! I was also really upset that day. Do you think it was an angel in disguise trying to cheer me up?? I certainly didn't look baywatch babe beautiful. Yes. Some compliments are just wonderful to receive, they hit you right in the heart!!!

I agree, and I do judge the compliements if I found it is not ture, that makes me think why he/she says that? :confused: Actually- I wonder" why do you lie?":mad:

Yes, most girls do like getting compliments, but don't overdo it, but note that you don't always have to give them compliments.. I mean.. do we always give you guys compliments? I think it's a double standard, we don't need to be pampered or complimented all the time. *shrug*

I agree, and I do judge the compliements if I found it is not ture, that makes me think why he/she says that? :confused: Actually- I wonder" why do you lie?":mad:
You don't have to be bay watch beautfiul for a guy to call you hot or beautiful. Some guys prefer it when a girl isn't trying hard to look good.. he could've just seen your natural beauty.

You don't have to be bay watch beautfiul for a guy to call you hot or beautiful. Some guys prefer it when a girl isn't trying hard to look good.. he could've just seen your natural beauty.

That makes more sense, because I sometimes think they are jerks just to get a girl so they say things like that... I never believed it (although everyone says the same thing to me):D
It also keeps me being humble if I don't "believe in" them:D

Yes, being humble is ALWAYS a good thing. Nothing worse than a conceited girl!! Or guy for that matter. I can't stand guys who take longer to get ready than I do! I know what you mean, NICeSPringGirl. Sometimes guys are just saying things to get a girl in bed or whatever. I don't think that was the case for me. See I am not a young little thing like yourself. I am UGHHH in my 30's! So, I don't always find myself in situations where guys are constantly saying I am beautiful. In some ways it does suck getting older, although the good thing is, you don't care as much about what everyone thinks. Well, at least most of the time. Enjoy the compliments girlie! It doesn't have to mean you have to give him anything!! YOU go girl! I am going to hope what lostinatrance said is true. It can't hurt to hope right?

Yes, being humble is ALWAYS a good thing. Nothing worse than a conceited girl!!!! Or guy for that matter. I can't stand guys who take longer to get ready than I do!. I know what you mean, NICeSPringGirl. Sometimes guys are just saying things to get a girl in bed or whatever. I don't think that was the case for me. See I am not a young lil thing like yourself. I am UGHHH in my 30's!! So, I don't always find myself in situations where guys are constantly saying I am beautiful. In some ways it does suck getting older, although the good thing is, you don't care as much about what everyone thinks. Well, at least most of the time. Enjoy the compliments girlie!! It doesn't have to mean you have to give him anything!!! YOU go girl! I am going to hope what lostinatrance said is true. It can't hurt to hope right??
I find the truly attractive woman/man is the one with the sharp mind and lofty behavior. Period. Age can be a plus, because maturity can be the most attractive thing to a man. Smart men marry smart women, I finished the book, I have to say it's "d*mn right" because the truly smart men want to start with the right ones, they see real beauty! Why you think they don't think you are hot? It's America, everyone has different taste;) I think Kenu Reeves is very good looking, but none of my friends agree:p

There are moments I think I look hot, but I don't go around with this persona of Paris Hilton "I'm HOT! You know? I have confidence in myself, but I am not conceited. I am not a size zero and I don't have long blonde hair. I find things I like about myself but that may not be what others see as beautiful. It is nice when people look at you at a stop light or something, or in the grocery store, but I am not a trophy girl on constant display. That day I got the compliment, hair in pony tail, wearing sweatpants, and NO makeup. So, yeah I guess I was caught a little off guard by it. When I am out with my friends at a club (about 4 times a year) and I try to look good, I don't always get the attention. There are waayy too many young little things out there with bodies like a Goddess. So, I come back to earth really quick. But yeah, when a hot young guy gives me the once over and asks me out, believe me I have a little pep in my step. IT feels great. I ain't going to lie! Keanu Reeves is cute, but Johnny Depp is way cuter in my book!@!

I too suffer from this person's question. There is a woman I like very much and I always want to tell her how attractive I think she is, especially since she's always complaining about her face or her body and such. I kept complimenting her though and she always seemed to shrug it off, so I stopped. I worry that I said too much so now she thinks I'm weird or something. I don't know how to compliment her well, and I'm afraid she thinks I'm being dishonest. How are we guys to cope? ;) Fill us in, women! (please? ;))

I too suffer from this person's question. There is a woman I like very much and I always want to tell her how attractive I think she is, especially since she's always complaining about her face or her body and such. I kept complimenting her though and she always seemed to shrug it off, so I stopped. I worry that I said too much so now she thinks I'm weird or something. I don't know how to compliment her well, and I'm afraid she thinks I'm being dishonest. How are we guys to cope? ;) Fill us in, women! (please? ;))

In my case, I can't stand on guys constantly telling me that I am looking good, I'll like him to say I am smart and intelligent. Especially, it's sad that a smart woman is only noticed by her appearance... I 'd mistake the guy is shallow, all he sees is my look.

IT feels great. I ain't gonna lie!! Keanu Reeves is cute, but Johnny Depp is way cuter in my book!@!!

I know you are hot! We don't have to be the hottest, it cause more trouble,LOL. I used to be chubby(believe or not) I learned to love myself.:)
:eek: I can't believe all of you like Jonny Depp! :D

In my case, I can't stand on guys constantly telling me that I am looking good, I'll like him to say I am smart and intelligent. Expecially, it's sad that a smart woman is only noticed by her appearance...I 'd mistake the guy is shallow, all he sees is my look.

I was speaking in context of the thread of this conversation. The thread is about how to compliment a woman sincerely on her looks...

WELL he is so intriguing! Maybe it is his mystique that gets me. There are cuter men out there, he just, gets me! You are right about not always wanting to be noticed for your looks, but you recognize that you are attractive. Yes, hot not the hottest is best. OTHerwise your head gets toooo big!!
Haplo, I am going to go out on a limb and say I think this woman suffers from poor self esteem. She shrugs off your compliments because she truly doesn't believe them. You can tell someone they are beautiful, but if they don't believe it about themselves, it is difficult to believe it from someone else. Try just being kind and attentive. Make eye contact and listen to her when she speaks. Ask her how she is doing and then listen. Sometimes you just have to make yourself available and interested. You don't have to say anything, initially. Then when you want to compliment on her, make it something specific Not general where it sounds fake. Focus on something that she has particularly done that has made you think more of her. I have to know more about her and you to tell you what or how to say it. Just be yourself and don't be overly interested, just enough so that she notices but doesn't think you are a stalker or anything. You know what I mean.

Nicespringgirl, even when you were chubby you were still HOTTTTTT!!

I was speaking in context of the thread of this conversation. The thread is about how to compliment a woman sincerely on her looks....

Whoops, sorry, I was wrong. I thought the poster meant about looks, but now I see it was in general. Even so, I know that sometimes I feel like I say too much, whether it's about her looks, her intelligence, her talents, her skills or anything for that matter. In essence, we guys always want to tell you gals how well we think of you but sometimes when we do we just get this weird look like we're crazy, and then we feel stupid for saying anything at all. It's sort of a nasty catch-22.

I too suffer from this person's question. There is a woman I like very much and I always want to tell her how attractive I think she is, especially since she's always complaining about her face or her body and such. I kept complimenting her though and she always seemed to shrug it off, so I stopped. I worry that I said too much so now she thinks I'm weird or something. I don't know how to compliment her well, and I'm afraid she thinks I'm being dishonest. How are we guys to cope? ;) Fill us in, women! (please? ;))

If a woman is always putting down her looks, next time she says she's ugly or fat, say to her:

"Sometimes I wonder how you get out of bed looking like that." When she gets upset or looks surprised, say: "You know I think you are beautiful. I tell you all the time, but for some reason you don't believe me. So I thought I'd try agreeing with you, even if it is the biggest lie I ever told in my life."

It'll teach her a lesson that fishing for compliments and then shrugging them off isn't the nicest thing she can do to you, but that you still think she's beautiful.

Ask her how she is doing and then listen.

She gives me weird looks when I ask her this question (or how was her day) and she just says "Fine." I'm probably the first "nice guy" that she's dated, and we're in that friendship stage right now, so I just go with the flow... ;)

Okay Haplo,
Why do you want to praise a girl? I assume you want to get a hottie;)
Let me tell you what to do: Listen-
1.Go up to a chick! Just do it man, quit being a loser, just roll up to a girl,
2,look her in her eyes, and be like, "Damn girl you're so fine"... either A. she'll laugh and run to her friends and make fun of you or b. she'll be like thanks! If scene A occurs, well she's a loser and you wouldn't want to date her anyway. If scene B occurs, well then we have something here don't we!
3Try, if it isn't too loud, to spark a little conversation, nothing that makes it too obvious you're trying to flirt... say something like "have you been here before, i've never been but it's pretty dope..." you know just something simple but something that requires an answer. I prefer, "yo what are you drinking?" or "yo I'm serious you look so good in those jeans, what's your name?!"... holla at me
4.attenetion to details about a woman... what kind of shoes she wears, perfume, hair color, eye clor... all these things will help you in the long run. The more you can remember now, the easier it will be in the long run. Luckily for me I have an insanely strng memory and anything a girl ever tells me is stored. This way, a few weeks later you can use these as weapons to destroy her!!
5.Forreal your brothers, guys have such an upper hand it's not even funny. Women try and act like they're the ones who don't care about guys but actually it's the other way around.
6, the last step is the hard part... it's up to you where it can go from here... read her vibes. Is she vibing you? IS she smiling, looking you in the eyes? All of these are her signals for you to move in for the kill... now you can eithe start making out with her right there or you can tease her and just get her numbr and call her tomorrow...

IT DOESN"T WORK FOR ALL, I CAN TELL YOU IT PROBLLY DOESN"T WORK FOR ME OR SHATTEREDSOUL:D

But you can try it, happy now?:D

but you can try it, happy now?:D

Nope :) I'm looking for honest, realistic advice. But thanks :)

Nope :) I'm looking for honest, realistic advice. But thanks :)

it is an honest answer... I wrote it for you, thought u'd aprreciate it:(
The key, I think... for me... is not what the guy says, that is what the guy truly thinks, I value his mind more than anything else.

it is an honest answer...I wrote it for you, thought u'd aprreciate it:(
The key, I think...for me...is not what the guy says, that is what the guy truely thinks, I value his mind more than anything else.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to downplay your answer, it just seemed you being sarcastic. I already know the girl, we hang out quite a bit. She knows I'm interested in her. I believe she's interested in me, but we're not "there" yet. (This is what brought me here originally)

Anyway, like I said previously, sometimes she shrugs off a compliment, sometimes she just gives me a weird look and sometimes she smiles. Doesn't matter what the compliment is, looks, brains, whatever. I've come to determine that it depends on her mood I guess. I just wonder sometimes if I've said too much, so now I don't say as much in terms of compliments. I hate the weird looks ;) I do think she likes them deep down where she only admits it to herself, but then that could be my wishful thinking.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to downplay your answer, it just seemed you being sarcastic. I already know the girl, we hang out quite a bit. She knows I'm interested in her. I believe she's interested in me, but we're not "there" yet. (This is what brought me here originally)

Anyways, like I said previously, sometimes she shrugs off a compliment, sometimes she just gives me a weird look and sometimes she smiles. Doesn't matter what the compliment is, looks, brains, whatever. I've come to determine that it depends on her mood I guess. I just wonder sometimes if I've said too much, so now I don't say as much in terms of compliments. I hate the weird looks ;) I do think she likes them deep down where she only admits it to herself, but then that could be my wishful thinking.

Do u really think she is beautiful? Is she really beautiful in other's eyes? She problly has low self esteem. Say something not to formal. U get that? "yo, look good today!";)
NOT" XXX, I think you look very nice."

do u really think she is beautiful? Is she really beautiful in other's eyes? She problly has low self esteem. Say something not to formal. U get that? "yo, look good today!";)
NOT" XXX, I think you look very nice."

I think she's stunningly gorgeous. She's also extremely intelligent with a sense of humor and a wit that makes me smile just thinking about it. She's graceful and down to earth with a tremendous sense of flair that just intrigues me all the time. And her eyes are the most breathtaking pale green with cracks of gold in them that glow when the sun hits them and I can't stop staring.

Would you like to know more? :P

No games, be yourself and if you feel like giving her a compliment, then do so. If she gives you a funny look don't be afraid to check her, I mean she doesn't get to take your feelings for granted when its from your heart because she is having a bad hair day, tell her get over it, when she comes with attitude. She may be drop dead goergous, but she is no better than you so, don't take no crap.