I have custody of my children, my ex did have custody of my oldest(15) for 2 years, but she recently came back to live with me. Once we went back to court, ex is very bitter over a lot of things and knew that I had to put one of my other children in counceling for his badgering him. I have had custody for over a month and he has known that she would be moving with me for around 2 months. I just found out (by him) that put her in family counceling with him and his new wife. I do think she needs counceling, but am not comfortable with it being with someone whom his lawyer suggested and the fact that her dad and his wife sit in with her. He claims its to help her get things off her chest, but to do this I would think she would need to talk to someone alone. She did tell me that eventually she will. He told her that he had been planning it for awhile, but it is not true because she has been unhappy for 2 years now(she says) and when she told him she didn't like his wife, he told her to "get over it", but once he found out My son was in counceling, I think he wanted her in for whatever reasons. I do believe she needs to go, but can he do this behind my back and him choosing the councelor with me having sole custody. They took her two weeks ago and she has an appointment in two days and he just let me know today because the kids are with me this week of the summer.
Any advise? I just need to know if he can do this and if I have any rights. Like I said I'm not completely comfortable with it being his lawyers suggestion as to whom to go to. He said its to help him to, but in the past two weeks(since their supposed appt) he has sent me some hateful emails.

If you have sole custody then any decisions regarding the well being of your children by your ex have to cleared through you first.