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girlygirl106
Jul 15, 2007, 10:30 PM
Ok so I just met this kid he's the sweetest kid ever!! I like him a lot, but he likes this other girl... well his birthday was on the tenth of July and we hung out at my house so yea anyway we were on the couch and we ended up making out for forever but yea I asked him if it was going to be me or her well he said he doesn't know because he really likes her but he likes me 2 so yea I'm just really confused.. well when he left he told me to call or text him the next day so I did and we talked about everything that happened he told me that maybe we should just be good friends and maybe forget about what happened the night before and maybe as time goes on we could maybe try to date.. but I really want to be more that friends I mean good friends is OK but I don't want to be someone he just makes out with when he wants cause that's what it seems like happened.. I want to be in a relationship with him... should I be good friends with him and then c what happens or just be friends with him and that's all help me out I'm really confused on what to do

Clough
Jul 15, 2007, 11:02 PM
You have every right not to be used by this guy. I would communicate that fact to him. You already have feelings for him that are mixed up because of the things that he has said to you.

It sounds like he enjoys the attention that you give to him and wants you to hang on to the possibilities of there being a relationship in the future with him if things don't work out between him and the girl that he is really interested in. That's a really bogus thing to do to someone.

My suggestion would be to seek out another boyfriend and let the first guy know that you are going to do that. Sure, you can just be friends with him. But, he shouldn't be leaving you hanging on a string! Nobody knows what the future will hold. But, honesty and true commitment will prevail in a relationship.

Life is short. I would suggest getting on with yours and don't play a waiting game as someone who is going to be the "last resort" for another.

That is my take on it anyhow.]

Hopefully, others will come along and add their opinions/suggestions based upon what they think. Mine is only one.